I have a 3 year old nephew who is so very naughty and my sister is so stressed out trying to handle him. He hits her, yells at her and, well you name it he does it. It's like watching the nanny live. I don't know what to tell her or how to help her. I have 3 children and 39 weekd preg. with my 4th, but my kids never behaved the way my nephew does. Any ideas about how she should handle him?
2007-01-29 16:50:35 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
get her to do a parenting course so that she handles him in the right way. She needs to be consistent on every bad behaviour not just occasionally. Cut out all processed foods. Get him onto a mostly natural diet and look to see if food is a trigger. Here is a link to a great book that deals in misbehaviour caused by food reactions. you would be surprised what sets some kids off. Even Bananas and oranges. A great book I have used. But a lot also comes down to consistent parenting
2007-01-29 17:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch them interact and see whether your sister is not disciplining him enough or whether your nephew is just aggressive.
I've seen parents tell their child off, but continue to let them misbehave and/or not carry through with punishment. The kids realise that they won't be punished and continue to misbehave.
Also, diet may be an issue as someone mentioned. Too many products are overly processed and contain high amount of sugar and other ingredients that may be causing a reaction in your nephew.
2007-01-30 06:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by midnight_lady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs boundries. Set the boundries first, discuss what will be the condequences if he crosses that boundry & make sure it is carried out every single time with consistency. Make sure the consequences are very inconvenient for this child so that he hates the thought of loosing it. ie television, walking to the park, favourite toy, after dinner snack, early night. He will soon learn. If he is aggressive i don't think that smacking will resolve these probs as it will just reinforce that aggression is good for battles. Best of luck.
2007-01-30 02:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by Mishell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all see where the problem is coming from mabey one parent always being gone not enough time spent with the child she need to bend down to his level everytime he does a no-no and look in his eyes and tell him not to do what ever he did or he will not be able to watch tv or something he may like doing shes going to have to take things away from him but give them back as a reward i know it sounds harsh but it works trust me dont give in the worst thing that any parent can do is give in it takes tough love but it has to be done rewards should be something positive like going to the park or going to the movies with mommy and daddy but when a child hit his mother its time to get seriuos serious enough to let him know this will not happen anymore !
2007-01-30 01:01:39 · answer #4 · answered by shana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she have problems with her husband/the boy's father? If so, the little boy could be acting out the stress in the family. Maybe she should go for counselling or read "No Greater Joy." or some of the Ezzo's books
2007-01-30 00:56:15 · answer #5 · answered by emsjoflo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the answer to that could either be a simple one or a hard one,
i have a little brother who is 10 who used to act up when he was about 10-12 months old, all it really is is that they are seeking attention, either that or they just want you to know that they are there and willing to be a little shite.
the way we solved my little brothers problem was by taking away most of his toys, and not letting him play with them until he was good for a certain period of time.
hope this helps
2007-01-30 03:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by Mummy of 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple she needs to STOP allowing him to behave that way. He didn't start behaving like that out of the blue. SHE had to have given in to it time after time in order for it to escalate. Once you give in you've given over control of everything to that child. It doesn't take a Jo Frost to figure it out. You have to discipline from the start. When they act up to get attention you DON'T give it to them. If you have to you pu thtem in their room and go about your business, until their behavior ceases. It is so clear that that was not done and the 3 year old has taken over.
2007-01-30 01:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
DEAR HERE IS HER A LIST OF THINGS SHE CAN DO HOPE THIS HELP YOU TO OUT OK THIS IS WHAT SHE NEEDS OK LISTED BELOW AND PLEASE DO THIS IN ORDER AT LEAST TRY IT OK. (1) TIME OUTS GO LIKE THIS A CHAIR IN THE CONNER NOSE TO THE WALL. (2) TIME OUT IN MOMMY ROOM NO TOYS (3) PUT HIM IN ROOM AND PUT ONE TOY IN THE MIDDLE OF THE FLOOR MAKE HIM LOOK AT IT BUT NOT TEACH IT MAKE HIM LEAVE ALL THE DOORS OPEN IF YOU SEE HIM PLAYING WITH IT THEN SAY WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU ARE DOING LITTLE BOY? IF HE SAYS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS GETS SMART WITH YOU THEN SPANKING IS THE LAST RESORT OK. TAKE CARE.
2007-01-30 00:58:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you know how i listened? My dad swatted me on my butt i behaved and it's a good punishment add greater consequences and a little pain .. trust me it works
2007-01-30 01:02:01 · answer #9 · answered by Tasha 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
with force
2007-01-30 00:53:11 · answer #10 · answered by Dave ! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋