I'm 14 and I've met a great guy that i'm in love with and i want him to be my 1st. my mom's already asked me about birth control but i said no and now im seriously thinking about it. what do i say to her? and guys i want to be serious about this ok?
2007-01-29 16:50:22 · 24 answers · asked by Deanna C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
While i applaud your wanting to protect yourself..bravo, i can't help but wonder if u r rushing into this. 14 is pretty young and if this fella is so special, he will realize that and wait for you to be really ready. think about it okay?
2007-02-06 14:20:50 · answer #1 · answered by cupcake6777 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to ask yourself is whether you are ready to take care of a baby. Birth control is not a sure thing, I have at LEAST 3 friends or relatives who have gotten pregnant on the pill, and several acquaintances in high school who did. If you are not ready to take care of a child, you should not be having sex. When you sleep with someone you are assuming the risk that you might get pregnant, and the child that results from your actions is your responsibility. At 14 you are definitely not ready for that, even if you ARE in love with this guy. (In case you're wondering if I'm being hypocritical, I waited to until I got married to have sex and I have absolutely no regrets about waiting.)
If your mom's already asked you about birth control I don't see why telling her you want to be on it would even be a problem, obviously she's open to the idea, but I really think at your age it's a mistake to have sex.
2007-01-29 17:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by Hamlette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your mom already asked you then just tell her what you are thinking. Although I can't think for the life of me why a mom would not encourage her daughter to wait until she is a little more mature before she starts having sex. You are only 14 and will meet so many other guys. There is no need to rush especially since there are other things that you can do besides intercourse. Also, pills don't prevent STDs and the earlier you start having sex, the more your chances for getting ovarian cancer.
2007-02-04 17:32:43 · answer #3 · answered by isis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom has already asked you about it, that's a good start. It sounds like your mom is at least aware & won't be shocked by this. You can start out with, "remember how you asked me before about birth control, well..." or you can be less direct and start out generally talking to her about your feelings about your guy. Whichever way you go, talk to your mom about how you feel about this guy so that she can feel included in your life, and also-I know this may be hard to absorb at 14 (I know it was hard for me to accept), but moms really do have good advice, so try to be open to listening to her & what she has to say. You're very young, so try to think really hard about this decision, but even if you decide you're definitely going to do it, make sure you follow your doctor's directions exactly.
2007-01-29 17:00:45 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the adventure that your mom is as open a you're saying, merely convey it up throughout a classic verbal change quicker or later. or you would possibly want to attempt goiing out to lunch or some thing like that. i become 15 when I were given on BC, notwithstanding it become b/c my sessions were so terrible that i might want to ought to bypass over college via cramps and being merely undeniable ill. I also had a very heavy bypass, and become VERY abnormal- to the point that i might want to have 2 sessions a month in certain circumstances! It become very demanding to ask my mom about it, so i recognize how you experience. merely ease your way into it and recognize that you mom loves you and could assist you in any decision.
2016-12-03 05:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by coratello 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you'd like to reopen that conversation. She's obviously open to it, so you're lucky.
But know something important. Perhaps you'll want to take oral or injected birth control, but you REALLY need to know how to use condoms as well, and must insist upon their use every time, even for oral sex (they don't taste at all bad). Don't be with a guy who won't agree to this, it's a sign he cares more about his own pleasure than either one of your lives. And while you're at it, if you haven't already gotten the HPV vaccine, get that too.
Talk to your mom. She knows you're human. She wants to be there for you. Let her.
2007-01-29 16:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi grandma !!!! or " Mom how old were you when you and dad did it ? ' this will give her the impression you want birth control..But you're like 14 slow down and wait.. You might not really be in love with him it just maybe hormonal cause your body is going through changes both psychically, emotionally and meantlly...He might not be your one after all !!!!!
2007-01-29 16:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since your mom already asked you, just write a little note to her saying, "Mom, I think I am ready for the birth control you spoke to me about." Stick it somewhere she will see it. She will know what to do after that. Good luck on your decision.
2007-01-29 16:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by cardo11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deanna, just a couple thoughts. First, honor yourself. Learn to love yourself, to accept yourself without judgment. When you can truly do this you will find that you will only choose as friends/partners those who truly honor you. You're thinking about taking a big step...so think about it. Are you honoring yourself by who you choose to sleep with? Will you be proud, in the years to come, to say your first sexual experience was with this fellow? If so, then go for it. But be sure you know yourself and that you are honoring yourself by your choice. And any future choices you may make. Good luck and enjoy.
2007-01-29 17:21:10 · answer #9 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way i figure it, is if you are not big enough to talk to your mother about it, then your , not, no i really mean your not old enough to have sex,especially without your mother knowing, whats wrong with you?why you in such a hurry?is this guy pushing you into it?do you think you'll be cool?or maybe popular?well heck ya you'll be popular with the guys, another easy girl on the market!!!!!!!!!!!!!!sorry to be so blunt, it just makes me mad when you girls 13-16 are in such a hurry, for what?to get hurt, cause that's what's going to happen.talk to your mom a lot, she needs to know how your feeling, so she can be there for you, and make sure your making the right choice
2007-02-06 16:02:31 · answer #10 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She made the suggestion .Just ask her. your line of communication is open.Just take a deep breath and say mom dose that birth control offer still stand. I just want to say your being very responsible girl.Just be sure your ready .
2007-02-06 13:07:02 · answer #11 · answered by speedy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋