my parents devorced when i was @ the age of 10. mmy Mom and I were living @ my grandparents house. my gramd father was so nice to me, he used to pay attention to me more than his own kids. everyone loved and still love me there.once we moved to USA i feel empty and alone. after my parents seperation i never felt i don't have father, becuz my grandfather was always there for me, to kiss me, to huge me, and to love me. now that i'm here i feel the lost of father inside me.i havn't even seen him after they seperated! nobody's here to fill his spot for me. not even my grandfather,becuz he is in our country......most of the time i write poems and i hate my dad cuz of not bing here for me! my mom didn't get married after the seperation and i don't want her to. but i don't know what to do with this feeling? feeling of not having a father and support!!! what should i do???
2007-01-29 16:46:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get a hobby and get a pet .
Be thankful for what you do have .
Have a peaceful life .
2007-01-29 16:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay that you are feeling this way...there are different activities that you can join so that you can have someone as father figure to look up to. My parents divorced and I was without a father figure for a long time, I don't have a grandfather that is living so I joined the YMCA and played different sports. Express to your mother how you feel and if you get the chance write a letter to your father letting him know the impact of the seperation is causing you to feel this way. Just because you don't have that father figure right now you can still get the support you need from your mother and one day the void that your feeling right now will be filled.
2007-01-29 16:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by newmother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my father many years ago, but the feeling of losing him never goes away. The last thing you want to do is try to find a replacement, especially in your own relationships. There is none. Try transferring that lost feeling to positive energy by talking or working with other kids who have never had such a caring father figure in their lives. and there are many. You will be surprised how much you will feel grateful for what you did have rather than dwelling on what you have lost. The old adage "tis better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all" is really true. "Think positive" is the key to surviving your feelings in this regard. Never give up that someone just as special will someday appear in your life. Meantime try filling the void and lonliness with new friends and activities. I found that helps a lot. And since you are in a new country there are many opportunities for you to embark on new adventures. Hope this helps. I know how much this can eat at you because like I said, there is no real replacement for a father's love and comfort, but I have learned through the years that there are other forms of love and comfort out there for us.
2007-01-29 17:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by Carie Anne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After what you have gone thru, it is quite natural to have such feelings. I dont know how old you are now, but all this will pass.
AS to why your father divorce your mum, only your mum knows the exact reason. Dont jump to conclusion that your father is at fault, it could be both are at fault.
Anyway, the marriage is over, you have to carry on and look after your mum. Dont only think of hate against your father, move on and live life as it come. Think of the future.
Good Luck
2007-01-29 17:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact Big Brothers/Big Sisters.
Hang in there, you'll make friends eventually.
2007-01-29 17:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋