do you look down on teenage parents?

Question

I see so many (not all) teenage parents who always whine about having such a big responsibility, not being able to go out when they want, not being able to finish their education right away etc. Do you think they should just shut up and deal with it because they got themselves into the situation they are in? are they trying to make people feel sorry for them?

Answer 1

I fully agree. I think that if they bit ch and moan about the responsibility, well then maybe they will think twice about having unprotected sex again ( But of course they usually don't )

I mean why can't anyone accept responsibility for anything anymore? Or even think about how their actions will have some sort of effect on their future?

Answer 2

I would never look down on any teenage parent, but if they are not taking on the responsibility of their actions there needs to be some big changes, just like a post before 'if you wanna play, then you have to pay'. I had my first daughter at 19, then my second at 23, i was studying before i fell pregnant, while i was pregnant and i still am now, its hard work most defiantly but it will be worth it in the end so i can provide the best for my girls. It certainly isn't the path i would have chosen for my life, but i would not change it now for the world, i missed out on a lot of things that my friends were able to do, but i shut up and dealt with it, once you have a child you live for them as well as yourself. Alot of teens probably just don't feel supported or understood, and they may feel like a failure within themselves, so they find things on the surface to complain about maybe because they cant really comprehend the task that will be ahead of them.

Answer 3

all people are diffrent some young people can take care of a child iam 23 years old and iam still not ready for that responsibilty that is why i make sure not to get pregnant i feel like you need to exprince life first i dont really fell too bad for them they made that choice and now they have to deal with it Some really upset me when they cant take care of the and the child suffers beacuse its parent was to selfish to think about that child instead they though of only themselves a child is the most wonderful thing in this world and should be treated that way when they have kid after kid and cant provide for them that is so wrong!!!! If they want preople to feel sorry for them that is even worse they did it only them and there partner they need to face up to the challenge to provide that child with the most they can Iam not saying there all wrong there are some that finish there education and do a great job raising there child and those are people we should look up to

Answer 4

I was a teenage parent. And yes, they should just shut up and be thankful that they are getting parenthood done because it's much easier when you are young and you have the energy. I think if they are whining, they want some sort of respect for being parents, but it really depends on the parent and how well they are parenting if they deserve respect.

Answer 5

Personally, I don't look down on any teenage parent. I had my first child at 19 and while there was many things that I wanted to do with my life, I decided that they would just have to wait, I've never once complained about the things I've missed out on and I truly appreciate every minute I spend with my kids.
I think that there is no need to complain about what is being missed out on, as kids seem to grow up so fast these days, you will have spent the entire childhood complaining about what you're missing out on in your life, that you will miss out on more important things, like enjoying being a parent, and creating happy memories for you to treasure.

Answer 6

Yes for the most part I do. I know they are probably very sorry for the situation that have created but its too late to worry about being safe.. the baby is here and now they are parents. My cousin is 23 and is always whining about taking care of her 2 children! I think they made their bed and now they should lie in it.

Answer 7

I don't look down on teenage parents but yes, it does annoy me to hear them complain. As for finishing their education, there is no excuse not to finish. There are many ways to finish school and take care of your baby. I really don't understand why, in this day and age, girls get pregnant. There are so many forms of birth control to choose from. I do not feel sorry for them at all but I do feel sorry for their children.

Answer 8

If teens wanted to enjoy life by finishing school, getting a good job etc....then they should have thought about that before having sex.

I don't look down on them at all. They will just learn the hard way. But I have to give the ones credit for doing what it takes to make their life better and by doing what it takes for providing for their child. They may have made dumb decisions, but they sure are paying the price by going out there to provide for their child.

Answer 9

Unfortunately, its the child that suffers the most. The mother struggles for support, but she is usually the only nurturer and provider. Why don't we hear from the teen fathers? Where are these men/boys? And, why are the teen mothers letting these guys off the hook, that is, not insisting on them sharing the responsibility of the child forever?

Answer 10

No, I just feel sorry for the babies. And I wonder why they didn't give the child up for adoption. Parenting is difficult for the most stable of people. I don't see how teens can provide a healthy environment for their children unless they have had loads of therapy.