Ive done nothing but shower my only two girls ive ever liked with thousands of dollars of gifts, showed them how special they are, convinced them when they were down that things are not so bad.. always they lie though.. they say things they don't mean, tell you they are interested in you when they aren't, beat around the bush that they hate you..
One girl said that i'm so nice that I make her feel guilty, and she wanted me to punch her in the face.. and I didn't so she said she had to never talk to me again because I wouldn't..
The other one said she felt she didn't deserve me so she cut communication. Obviously thats a girl lie for not liking me.
I have a code of nothing but truth and this causes me more trouble then not. It makes girls feel bad for being liars.. but they continue to lie.
2007-01-29 16:15:26 · 29 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was not with both girls at the same time as some of you thought. One came six months after the other. The latter knew about the previous as well.
2007-01-29 19:37:46 · update #1
Someone asked if I had friends to help me. I don't. I'm 22 and don't have friends anymore.
Also I wasn't acting too forward, although I do give alot of gifts to alot of people.
2007-01-29 19:40:36 · update #2
Please don't give up on all of us. I'm not a liar and I know alot of other girls that aren't liars.
Most of us would rather have a guy like you rather than a meanie.
So, stay sweet, be yourself and keep trying.
Not all girls are going to take you for a free ride. We're not all interested in bilking guys for their money.
2007-01-29 16:22:44 · answer #1 · answered by kindness 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Perhaps your intentions are different then maybe she might think. Maybe you are buying her gifts because you are trying to show her how much you care or that your a good boyfriend. But to her you may be trying entirely too hard to win her over. Or being way too nice, and as cruel as that may seem there are alot of women who want assholes. I don't know why, but alot of women can't stand guys that are too nice. So instead of trying so hard to win her love and affection, just be yourself and realize that you aren't doing anything wrong, and you are a good guy. BE YOURSELF. And buying gifts is nice, but its more of a ....special thing. You know what I mean? Like its something that means alot more when its only every once in a while. Flowers everyday and chocolate can get old.
Your just too nice that is your problem. I don't think its much of a problem, but you can be kind without being overly nice. You can have personality and be a good person and a girl will love you just the same, even if you only bought her flowers on special occasions.
You will find a girl who appreciates you I promise. =D
2007-01-30 04:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah Elizabeth 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The problem is not so much the girls being liars - If the same thing keeps happening to you - then you have to take a step back and look at yourself - Are you using the nice gifts as a way to get the girls and keep them?
You didn't take the time to find out in the beginning if these young ladies were worthy of your time let alone your money (especially the young lady that wanted you to punch her in the face (YIKES) Keep your money in your pocket, take the time to date and enjoy each others company . . . May be corny but might protect your heart and your pocket
PS - Maybe she didn't deserve you - because she knew deep down she a potential liar . . go figure
2007-02-06 14:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by Eva 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like you meet some strange girls. If any guy told me I was soo nice I make them feel guilty and wanted me to punch them in there face well I would punch them alright and never talk to them again myself....thats just not normal. Not all girls are liars and not all are out to get you you just have not met the right one yet. Another dont give gifts like that gifts wont make people like you and it wont help you to get a girl yourll just end up with gold diggers who will use you for your money. Ive been there done that and will never do it again. Good luck to you on everything.
2007-02-06 15:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by Amy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u are making a big generalization ... and in a way i think they did it because they don't want to make u feel even worse cuz come on what would u felt if they broke up with u nicely? its easier to get over hate than love (at least i think so) so its like they make u hate them so u can forget about them and als perhaps they were care that u would flip or something cuz some guys would but i guess u are not the type....i know u are pissed but the situation is not as bad as it seems ....i think it is better than guys trying to date two girls and hiding stuff from both girl.....at least they were more up front (haha sort of)
lol anyhow GOOD LUCK
2007-01-29 16:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by confused 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A wise friend of mine told me the best piece of advice concerning women. And I'm going to get quite a few thumbs down for this...
You can't treat them nicely all the time.
My wife agrees. It sounds like you try too hard, and try all the time. I don't think they are lieing, I think they genuinely liked you, then you went overboard and scared them off. Changing your opinion of someone once you get to know them is not lieing. You need to strive for a better balance in the way you treat a girl. Thousands of dollars in gifts is way too much, but a nice small simple thing is cool. You need to re-asses yourself in your pursuit of happyness with the ladies, guy. I don't suppose you have a platonic friend that's female who could clue you in on how a girl reacts and thinks of a guy who overdoes it, do you? She might be able to set you straight. PM me if you think I'm on to something.
2007-01-29 16:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going for the wrong type of girls... I would love a boyfriend like you. Dont give up on girls, some of us a great and would never treat there men like that, also if that is your pic on yahoo answers you are good looking so go and find someone who wont lie, someone you deserve to be with.. Good luck
2007-01-29 16:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by Dr Pink Puppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know a girl before you start to spoil her.
They are liars before you meet them but would find it hard to let you go if you buy them things and are nice to them.
Alot of girls are liars but then so are alot of men, you just gotta stay positive that everntually you will meet someone that you deserve.
I think the one that wanted you to hit her in the face has serious problems lol!!
My bf is brutally honest with me about everything and I personally find it one of his best qualities, and GIRLS should feel bad about being liars.
2007-01-29 16:23:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad but true, most girls don't like the nice, sensitive guy. If they feel that they can't fight with you, or let out their frustration, they'll get bored. You need to open up more and let her know when you're angry, upset, even about the things that don't involve the girl. And the honesty thing, well it's ok to tell white lies to a girl to protect her feelings. Sometimes that's what we want, not brutal honesty.
2007-01-29 16:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all girls are liars . It could be the type of women your dealing with (MATERIALISTIC). I say don't shower anyone with expensive elaborate gifts until you feel that women is right for you.
Also you know who is right for you . Not who is right for your friends or who maybe right for your family. You sound like a great guy stop being used .
2007-01-29 16:25:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋