my girlfriend is 19 years old (im 31) and she has a 2 year old son. I love my girlfriend more than anything, weve been dating for almost a year and a half now. Her son is so irritating though. Everytime she puts him down he cries. Hes constantly getting in our bed at night and laying on top of me which wakes me up. He always wants to be on my lap or something. I didnt really hate him until the other day when he called me daddy and random people always tell me how adorably "MY" son is. It sounds sweet but it disgusts me !!!! We cant even have sex anymore without him interupting us !! I dont know what to do about it what do you think ?
2007-01-29 16:13:33 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Judging by you're stupid, fake questions, you're just here to irritate people. The fact that you have no life is sad enough, no need to say more:(
2007-01-29 16:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by kj 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I "think" you better get out of this relationship and fast--- there is NOTHING that you can do for this woman that will make her love you more than her son, and if you HATE him, which is a really strong word and the fact that you got "disgusted" by him calling you daddy-- which should be endearing to you not disgusting----please---just leave her and never let her know why because the guilt you will lay on her if you tell her how you feel about her son will devastate her and anyway, SHE IS WAY TOO TOO YOUNG FOR YOU!!!!!
Grow up and date a woman not a girl --- and by the way, start acting like a man and not a sex crazed teenager--- if YOU were 19 I would understand your feelings about her son, but at 31? You need therapy, seriously.
2007-01-29 16:21:49 · answer #2 · answered by mac 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
First of all that fact that you are 31 and she is 19 is kinda crazy. You guys are at 2 completely different points in your lifes but that's whatever. Her kid is a part of her and if you can't deal with him you shouldn't be in the relationship. For this child to call you his daddy means that he looks up to you and that he loves you. It's not to drive you crazy or anything he needs the love inreturn. And maybe you should talk to your girlfriend about punishing him a little bit if he cries everytime she puts him down but as far as the calling you daddy and all that the kid sounds like he adores you. And it sounds to me like your not ready to have a kid around, you sound like since he isn't yours you should have to deal with it. If you love her you will except her child in your life to and you can't say she sprung it on you because you have been dating for almost a year.
2007-01-29 16:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you feel the following suggestions are NOT appealing: perhaps you realize YOU ARE WRONG. CHANGE!
Take the girl and the child with you to your states Dept. of Human Services [welfare place] and ask the question there. If this is not appealing -- I
suppose you could buy 1 USMC survival knife and 1 12 guage 3" magnum
shotgun. Present one to each grandfather inside either of the grandfathers homes, but caution THE SHOTGUN MUST BE LOADED to get the proper response [lol]. PS: of ALL those sites you posed a Q on did you get a star?
2007-01-29 16:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boy is only two and you are his only father figure. He is showing his love for you. Babies, yes babies, are going to cry, they want attention and etc. If you really love this girl, you need to love her son too. You need to get married, but only if you are ready to take on the Father role. I would advise you to buy some First time Father books, or how to raise a toddler books and read up. Be patient with the little guy. Only have sex after he is sleeping in His Own Little Bed. I have a 16 month old child myself, and believe me there have been times when I wanted to put him up for adoption. I love him to death though. He is the joy of my life. My husband and I have been married for one year and 10 months. Good luck.
2007-01-29 16:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by April Z 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't love her and not love her son, because he's part of her too. When you decided to love her, you should've been prepared for this. To use the word 'hate' is a little extreme though and you'd be putting her in a bad situation when she realises you don't like her son. I agree that this is putting a strain on your relationship and believe me, there are/ will be days you guys will be quarelling over it. Either you accept the kid, or you move on without them. I mean, what are you gonna do? Force her to put her son up for adoption? That's out of the question for any mother.
2007-01-29 16:23:45 · answer #6 · answered by Hanna 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Here's how you solve the problem.....
Tell your g/f that you hate her son. Show her this question to get the point across.
Enjoy life w/o her.
You have been in this baby's life since he was an infant, and you don't love him.......let alone using the word "hate" in regard to your feelings for him????? You scare me. Do the right thing and leave this girl. There's no way that you'll treat this child right, ever. This child should not have to be anywhere near you. Even if you don't mistreat him, which I doubt, he'll feel the animosity from you. His mother deserves someone who isn't JEALOUS of her child, because obviously you are. Get therapy dude.
2007-01-29 16:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you are being very selfish, not to mention cruel and cold. You should be ashamed of yourself for saying this about an innocent child. If you truly love this woman then you've got to understand that this child is a part of her and they are a packaged deal. You can't have one without the other. And that's just the way it is. Above all else, she is a mother FIRST and then your girlfriend somewhere further down on the list. Children are such an awesome blessing and you should be grateful that this child is drawn to you and loves you.
If I was your girlfriend, then I would kick your sorry butt to the curb!!!!
2007-01-29 16:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think you are a selfish bastard and a freakin' cradle robber.
You've been dating a year and a half..so would that make her 17.5 when you started dating?? If so, GROSS.
Seriously dude, her child is more important than you are, and what kind of cold person are you if you HATE a two year old little boy that for some reason loves you and calls you "daddy." You don't deserve either of them!
2007-01-29 16:18:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's her child, her offspring. He's literally part of her. He is part of the package. If you can't handle the son, you can't handle her. If you are so in love with her you'll have to love her son too. I don't think there's anything else that can be said. If she wants to raise her son that he can come into her room any time that is her choice.
I think it would be good to tell her that you are irritated with the son, but only if you can in the same conversation admit that you are working on it and recognize that he is part of her and you are fine with that.
2007-01-29 16:29:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
OMG you are the type of guy that would probly abuse this child just cuz u dont like him calling u daddy how dare u even ask a question like that if this girl is smart she will dump u and have her child check for abuse cuz it sounds to me like thats what u do when he is alone with u ya make me sick this kid loves u like u was his dad and u cant love him back he is 2 for god sake what is wrong in your head that u cant see how precious that is how would u feel if he was ur kid and your g/f felt the way u do god u are so ******* stupid i hope she loses u like she lost her virginity fast and with out question
2007-01-29 17:27:21 · answer #11 · answered by rebecca b 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋