I've known this girl for a long time now, around half a year. Obviously, I've grown attracted to her in that time. I'm going to ask her how she feels about me really soon, and my real question here is should I ask her how she feels at school, and just ask her randomly when I see her next, or should I wait for a better time?
I've been waiting for the past month already, to see how she feels and to see if anything special comes up. Problem is, nothing has, and I think the months I've been waiting is too much- I don't want this girl to think I don't like her, or that I've afraid to make the move. I really don't know... Any advice?
2007-01-29 15:59:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey! Ok so it sounds like you have a problem that alot of guys face. You like a girl but you have waited WAY to long to make any attempts on her and now you have finally told your self that your going to do some thing about it...
First off... You have to be willing to accept the possibility that she may say that she does not want you, or see you as any more than a friend.
Second-Don't waste any more time thinking about it. If you want some thing to happen make it happen. Don't sit around any longer make a move.
Third- Don't ask her how she feels. It's too straight forward. It will hit her really hard.. I mean think about it for two seconds. Put yourself in her shoes. { A guy I have known for HALF A YEAR has never showed any signs that he is into me or attempted to gain my attraction and all of the sudden he tells me he likes me... ummm thats weird.} And that is how she will think.( and please email me if i am wrong on this. holyzao@yahoo.com)
So, when your walking with her playfully grab her hand. I know... it sounds gay. ( this will make her be comfortable with you touching her while not being too straight forward but at the same time showing intrest so she has a suttle idea that you are intrested in her)
Tell her to close her eyes and kiss her when she opens up her eyes and looks tottally surprised stick your tounge out and make a "na na na na naaaa naaa" sound. ( this will make it appear as if you are just messing with her and she will play along and hit you in the arm or some thing (( her hitting you.. her touching you is a good sign))
Then just talk with her and bring it up very cassually.
Be talking and then just look at her and say " Do you want to Kiss me?"
You will get One of Three anwsers
1- Yes ( rarely happens but if it does... kiss her)
2- I don't know ( in this case you say "lets find out" and kiss her.
3- No... ( in this case you say " well i didn't say you could it just looked like you had some thing on your mind."
The beauty of this Kiss Close is that it will tell you many things
One- if she likes you
Two-If she is comfortable with you ( WHICH NEEDS TO BE THERE FOR HER TO LIKE YOU)
Three- If there is any chance that your relationship could advance.
Good luck my man. Call me(i'll email the number if u would like) or E-mail me if you have any questions about this holyzao@yahoo.com
CHEERS- Zao
2007-01-29 16:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by Zao [PUA] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, Valentine's Day is coming up, so maybe you could get her a cute V-Day card that best describes your feelings for her and add a P.S that asks her if she feels the same. Good luck! Hope it works for you, whatever you choose to do.
2007-01-29 16:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Understood 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... lucky you Valentine's day is coming :) you can maybe wait a week before it or so and tell her how you feel and tell her you want her to be your valentine and if she says yes you'll start working right away in the best valentines day she's ever had :D
2007-01-29 16:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by Aija 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make the move, and make it confidently. We are not interested in someone who acts like they are unsure of their feelings, and we want to be worth your taking a risk. Maybe even try not asking "would please you go to the bla bla bla...." like you're begging her to have mercy on your pathetic soul. Be a man. "I want to take you to out for dinner. Can I do that?"
If you seem sure that this is something you really want to do, not because you're a crazy lovesick puppy, but because you have a gut feeling that she'd be good for you and you'd be good for her, I doubt you'd get a no.
2007-01-29 16:12:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that u do not ask her at school that could be kind of weird,and make her feel uncomfortable. I would ask her to watch a sunset or take her somewhere causal but yet with just the 2 of you so u can talk...Good luck
2007-01-29 16:10:02 · answer #5 · answered by amanda m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get her msn if you're a bit afraid, i grew to know my now bf so much better via msn and i could just talk about things without feeling awkward or having to see a reaction and not having to do it face to face, then get to know her also better in real life and then slowly find the right moment, dont rush it and dont force her to make a decision or blurt it out while in the company of others :) goodluck
2007-01-29 16:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by munchyblonde 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well i think you should like set up a date and take her out and bring it up and tell her how feel then ask her how she feels! Thats probably the best way to find out!
2007-01-29 16:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by filipino_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don`t you have a date with her and you`ll know if she does not want to have a date with you, probably is not good signal!
2007-01-29 16:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by MAGGIE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋