How do i get my 18 month old boy to obey.?

Question

He does what he wants when he wants for the most part. I don't want to beat him and he does understand what no means but his curiosity about something he's not suppose to touch or not supposed to do outweighs the need to obey.

Answer 1

This is perfectly normal. In fact, my son did this (he's now 23-months-old) a few months ago, and I just figured he was going through his terrible 2's early. It lasted about a month, but I just had to have patience. If it was something I just didn't want him to touch or do, I would tell him "No, not yours, leave it alone." If he ignored me, I'd set him in a corner and tell him why he was sitting there. He would sit there and pout or cry for a minute and then all was good again. If it was something serious that could hurt him, I gave him a small love tap on the hand and said "No, hurt baby." He'd get mad and throw a fit or try to do it anyway. I would then set him in a corner and let him have his fit, and after a minute or so, all was good. You just have to keep it up or else it won't work. Good luck!

Answer 2

I'm with you ,man it can be hard I have 2 boys now 2 and 4 ! It's been a long road but well worth it! What I do in try to avoid always saying NO ! I think they hear it so much it becomes meaningless! Instead get down on his level (floor) stop the negative action,, if he's touching something he's not to just take it and show him why he can't (it may hurt him) they are learning ,,trust me my 4 year old recalls stuff I have forgotten about ! Tell um maybe in a firm voice on serious matter ,on others just explain ,, and child proofing is never done they always find something! Yet sometime a love tap is required ,and allowed by law , but save that for the more serious in counters.! You don't want your kid to think he's gonna get a smacking all the time because then they will show that,, just take a deep breath before you react , no matter what it is !! that is the answer .. life goes on trust me,, my son wrote on my PC screen ,,, we are still here ,, just part of being a dad ,, it's hard, but if I can get through it you can too ! It does get better just remember that .. hope that helps! Shawn

Answer 3

He's going into the terrible twos and that's pretty much how they operate. Just be patient, he hears you believe me. He's trying out his independence. I have 3 sons so I can relate to what you are going through. I used to just distract my boys when they didn't listen because 18 month olds have very short attention spans so it's pretty easy to do. You know, he looking at you while he's doing something he knows he's not supposed to so, just say something like Wow look at that, while you are looking at anything basically and he'll be curious to see what Daddy is talking about and stop what he's doing to see what you are doing.
Just simple stuff like that. Have fun!

Answer 4

Let him explore but make sure he explores safely. That in itself will usually quench his curiosity. if he becomes too disruptive you might have to take away a favorite toy until he decides he will be a good boy and get it back. Don't ask me I'm a grandmother we spoil not spank. Im sure he is a doll.

Answer 5

It's encouraging that you "don't want to beat" an 18 month old baby; it's disturbing that you feel beating a viable option. Why don't you seriously consider parenting classes. You want an 18 month old to OBEY, buy a dog and attend obediance training. You have an 18 month old human being and you need parenting classes.

Answer 6

it is not how hard that you strike the child that teaches him, rather the consistancy that you use...if he reaches for something over and over, you must reinforce to him that he cannot do that over and over...swat him lightly on the hand and tell him no...you must be consistant...it makes it more difficult if your child has others in his life that allows a certain behavior that you do not...limit the amt. of time he spends with anyone who will not reinforce your discipline...this will prevent him from becoming confused.