I have a lot of talents... like I'm an expert tennis, chess and poker player & a former musician. Im also a med student. I also come from a pretty financially well off family. Not to sound like a jackass, but when I meet a girl should I keep this a secret and not tell her until its really serious or should I just not keep it a secret if she asks...? I NEVER mention it or brag about it... but if she asks i dont seem to hide it. So ladies please tell me.... when these girls ask me about these things, should i mention them or keep them a secret?
2007-01-29 15:52:32 · 13 answers · asked by alltheladies009 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I'd alter how you say it but don't worry about telling her the truth. If she asks don't tell her you are an "expert" tennis player, just mention that you play tennis. I have a lot of talents as well and as long as i don't put qualifiers like excellent, expert, top, etc then it doesn't sound like I'm bragging. So be honest just tone it down and you should be fine.
2007-01-29 15:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by blhenne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...if you start talking about it without being asked, then yes it would be considered bragging or trying to impress with these talents. However, if the subject comes up, why not answer? I wouldn't over due it...I would play it down some and casually mention it. I am sure the subject of your familys wealth would not come up, not in the beginning but eventually if it gets serious...yes, you should tell her...BUT ONLY if it becomes serious. All the rest...well you have accomplished these things...be proud..and anyone that you have a relationship with should be proud also.
2007-01-29 23:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by natashainka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an 18 year old medical school student, you own 6 cars, you own your own townhouse and just won 100k in a poker tournament and you are in the process of buying a new porsche, You also are a tennis and chess champ? I just wanted to make sure I had all of the facts from your previous questions in the last two days before I called you a bald faced liar. Dipstick.
2007-01-30 00:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by qmstr725 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your talents are your interests so only way to see if you and a girl have common interests is if you are yourself and let her know the things you like to do...
My parents they are both doctors so i can understand how you feel like about the money thing... people can either get interest in you only by that or don't like you at all because you have money...
Even thou I have never had problems with money I am very humble person... and I am myself all the time... how can you expect have real friends or real relationships if you are not the real you and your talents and your interests are what makes you... "you".
I never tell anyone just like that my money statements... and its not someone will ask you that before dating... if you keep it simple and if you keep it real it might be months until your gf or friends even ask you or realize you got money... and by then you should know if they are real to you or not. Good luck...
I have no idea if it made sense to you hehe
2007-01-30 00:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by Aija 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until she asks specific questions, like, "Do you play any instruments?" or "Do you play any sports?" Then respond in a humble way. Don't elaborate on your talents (it comes off as being arrogant, which may be interpreted as being insecure). Let her find out how just talented and experienced you are by coming to know you and observing your talents in sporadic situations, and don't show off. Stay humble instead. It's much more attractive.
2007-01-30 00:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing to keep a secret...if they ask you, tell them (humbly of course). you worked hard to be that good, it's not something that you should be ashamed of. whether you come off as bragging or not, that's up to how you deliver it
2007-01-29 23:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by LTD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should tell her but not in one sentence or in one day...you just talk be yourself..talk about what you like to do...if you start listing off things on a wham she will think ur a total loser...your probally really nice just a hard worker who keeps busy so take it easy playa
2007-01-29 23:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by ♥queen b♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep it a secret...
2007-01-30 00:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep, i would keep it a secret... you want her to like you for you after all, don't you? good luck!
2007-01-29 23:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why wouldn't you tell her? just be careful that when you do tell her, it doesnt sound like you're bragging.
2007-01-29 23:55:25 · answer #10 · answered by laura03125 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋