What I mean is this. My brother in law is a cruel father to his daughter(18) and son(14). He has always been rude to the kids but things have escalated in the last few years. He swears at them, slaps them and worst of all he says the nasties comment to them. Example: he's told his daughter to go get it up the ****. Many of the family members are disgusted by his actions. No one says anything to him because he's nasty. My sister hears these things and says nothing to him. What is worrying me is my niece, because her father shows no love she's been getting it from other places(you know what i mean). She's had an STD. I've talked to my sister concerning my niece but nothing has changed. My niece used to cut herself before and I fear for the worst. I've offered her to come live with me because she says she can't take it anymore. She refuses cuz I told her that we have rules and she would have to obide by them. I love these kids and don't know what else to do. Any advice please?
2007-01-29 15:51:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Call child protective services...
2007-01-29 16:46:32 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the son is still under the child protection act being that he is only 14 I would call child services and report your brother in laws a_ _ if he is doing things like that in front of people imagine what is happening behind closed doors...I think your sister mayneed some professional counselling if she has endured years of this as she probaly doesn't know how to stop the abuse. PLease don't let it go on so many children suffer at the hands of the very people that are suppose to luv and protect them as you siad yourself your niece has already showed signs of self abuse it would be devastating to learn that she or your nephew are no longer here due to the effects and aftermath of child abuse.
2007-01-29 16:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 18 so legaly she is an adult..... maybe sit down with her and talk to her about the rules and see maybe if there are a few that you could compromise with her on.... she needs to be made aware of what she can change for her little brother too, maybe set an example for him, showing him there is a way out.... and as for your family ??? I can not believe this has gone on and NO ONE has called social services....... If you want to , you can call and NOT give your name, call from a pay phone and tell them what you have told 1/2 of the world...... stand up for those kids !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! God bless
2007-01-29 15:58:12 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the goddamn police! That's what they're for! Why is it that you people never do the ONE thing you know you can? Going on Yahoo answers is not going to make the situation any better. Take some responsibility and if you really love your neice HELP her get OUT OF THE HOUSE! For Christ's sake! Should you even have to ask?
2007-01-30 02:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call child services for the sake of the 14 y/o because the 18 is on her own. If not, contact a school counsilor at his school.
2007-01-29 16:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the "nasties comment"?
Hello, you guys let this jagoff get away with this? I tell you how you solve this: You tell the guy to get his act together or you'll drop him. Speak up and get the biggest mofo in the family to back it up.
Now as far as the daughter--hello!? Condoms! Educate her. If she's getting STDs, I'd be pissed as a dad so maybe that's what is causing this friction.
2007-01-29 15:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by fugutastic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As far as the 18 year old goes she is of legal age to make her own decisions, she could file abuse charges .For the 14 year old, if you have hard evedence then you yourself need to call the local law enforcement, for the mother why the hell has she let this shtuff go for so long?
2007-01-29 16:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by sickand tired 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound like the man is a bully and in need of help. Your sister needs to talk to him about his actions and getting help. Your niece is old enough to leave.But your nephew is not.I think that the family should get together and see if they can talk to your sister and see if with all supporting her will get her to get the help that this family needs. You can't do much more unless their is physical abuse.
2007-01-29 16:01:36 · answer #8 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a Domestic Violence Hotline. They won't be afraid to address this. If I had his name I would report him. They can give your sister good advice, and let her know of other resources in her area, such as food banks, emergency shelter, Protection From Abuse orders, and assistance in court (hopefully it WILL come down to that.) Please do it! The lives of your sister and the kids are at stake here!
P.S. Do NOT tell him that you called for safety's sake.
2007-01-29 16:00:59 · answer #9 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband, if he won't have the ability to administration his brother, then you quite will. tell the fool he isn't welcome on your place except he stops the comments and is respectful to you. Then tell your husband, if he would not arise for you, to get a lower back bone or the subsequent time you will call the police and have the BIL arrested verbal abuse. Stand your floor and do it. it ought to reason some undesirable thoughts, yet you're no longer a push over and it is your place additionally.
2016-11-23 13:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋