My parents are mad at me for talking with ym friends and being on MSN all day long. They say "we dont even see our daughter". I think they are boring...so ow they said we are taking ur computer away unless ur grades go up. I think its unfair to take ym computer away...how can i convince them..because taking my comp away will make m hate them more.
2007-01-29 15:48:27 · 27 answers · asked by Haley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I HAVE TWO OTHER SIBLINGS (17 and 13 years old)
2007-01-29 15:49:36 · update #1
if you being on the computer too much is effecting your grades, and they're the ones paying for the computer with you not contributing anything, they have every right to take it away. having a computer is a priviledge and you neglecting your grades show that you are not responsible enough to have that priviledge. get your grades up and you'll get it back. also, I know you may not think so now, but there'll come a time when you'll truly look back and wish you spent more time with your parents while you still could
2007-01-29 15:54:18 · answer #1 · answered by LTD 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there are two problems here as your parents see it. 1) You're spending less time with them, and 2) Your grades have fallen. They aren't sure why either of these things are happening, but they can see you spending a lot of time on the computer. They figure that the time on the computer is time being taken away from homework and family.
Are they right? Only you know the answer to that. But it could be that other things are going on. Maybe you're unhappy about something, so to cheer yourself up you spend all that time IMing. Then the problem isn't the computer, it's the thing making you unhappy.
My advice is to sit down with your parents and speak to them really honestly about what is going on in your life. It's perfectly normal to start resenting the control your parents have over you when you're a teenager, but try to remember that they do love you and want what's best for you. *And*, they have all the power. The best way to get what you want is to play the game by their rules. That may feel unfair--heck, it is unfair--but welcome to life. Lots of people (bosses, policement, tax auditors) will have power over you who you wish didn't. Learning how to deal with that is part of becoming an adult.
2007-01-30 00:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by JD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're disliking them for other reasons if you think they're boring and you'll hate them for taking away your computer. Do you really spend ALL day IMing? It's hard to break the cycle of not wanting to do homework because you'd rather do that right? But maybe you're actually running away from something. Maybe this is your way of escaping and being preoccupied with something more happy. This might seem over the top but it might be possible. And school is important. You want to get away? Then college and a career is your answer. Other kids don't have it easy...so make the best of your education and strive for that feeling of accomplishment.
2007-01-30 01:18:38 · answer #3 · answered by Woofie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem young, so you really don't understand that what your parents are doing is actually good for you. I don't know how old you are, but you shouldn't be on line all the time. It's not healthy mentally, physically or socially.
Your parents don't want to see you waste yourself away on the Internet all day long. They want you to spend sometime with them, or at least talk to them about your day and such.
As for your grades, your parents are looking out for your best interest. As much as you won't believe this, from about the time you hit middle school your grades are extremely important. Your grades, as early as middle school, will determine your course in high school, which can determine ultimately what college you will go to. Doesn't sound important now, but in a few years you will thank them for doing this.
Get off the computer, talk to your parents, do your homework and socialize with friends in person, not on the computer.
2007-01-29 23:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being on the computer can be addicting. Your at the stage where you don't want to be around your parents, so there has to be a compromise somewhere. How about you spend a little time with them, and an hour or two on the computer? Someday when you look back on this time, you'll be glad you did spend some time with your family, your family will always be there, friends come and go. Probably now what you wanted to hear, but everyone just be willing to bend a little.
2007-01-29 23:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by Suzie- Q 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well school comes first even u should know dat! If ur grades were good they probably wouldn't even trip! They know it's goin 2 make u mad dats why they did it! Im 18 and so it's my first year in college. When I was in highschool my parents used to be like dat. Why was why always on the phone cuz i wanna be! I mean I was in highschool what did I have to talk 2 them bout nothing! With them bein old we don't understand and wit us bein young they won't understand. Even when I come home from college Im neva at home. Im bout 2 b 19 and my mom still complains!
2007-01-29 23:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by msaquarius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um no grades are importune. And hey the way you sound makes me think your my age so I know what your talking about. But the computer isn't everything. Now the computer you can get on anytime. But your grades drop you can't get into a good collage then your screwed for the rest of your life because you wont get a good job. And no don't say that I'm over exaggerating because I'm not.
2007-01-30 00:00:49 · answer #7 · answered by hphlly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it make sense to you that everything in life needs to be kept in balance? A mom has a job to do...that's to see that you grow to a mature, balanced adult and she only has so much time to do it....so acceptable grades are part of her concern....as well as many other areas she needs to see you are doing well in. Her concern is that you are making the computer too important and out of balance with the rest of your life, including having a "together" relationship with your family. You talk of "hating" your parents? Because of your love of your computer? Something needs a lot of work....perhaps improving your relationship with your Mom and Dad is a good place to start...then it won't be such an issue.
2007-01-30 03:25:25 · answer #8 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are right about your grades, tell you the truth they end up mattering alot in the end of high school life, it is a large determining factor of admissions, try suggesting that after you do your homework and you show them they let you get back on for 2hr or someting, make a comprimise. And as dull as they may seem get to know your parents because that relationship will be very important throught the rest of your life.
2007-01-29 23:55:55 · answer #9 · answered by LALALALALALALA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are your parents and obviously they love you very much because they gave you your own computer. I have no intention of doing such a thing when my kids are old enough.
Get your grades up. School is more important than being on MSN all day.
One day you will appreciate all they did. I hope by then it won't be too late.
2007-01-29 23:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by autimom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋