heres the deal, my mom and i are two totally different people. we have different views, beliefs, personalities, sometimes its so bad i think im adopted. i dont fit in n my family at all. its hard and noone understands. i spend all my time alone and it hurts, but i cant relate to the people in my family. im honestly like the black sheep of my family. im ok with being different but it hurts when my own family calls me a freak or wierd! im an unique person. not like anyone else, so how can i learn to relate, ive considered running away. i ned help they invade my privacy and make me out to be a horrible person.
2007-01-29 15:43:35 · 10 answers · asked by rckstar88 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That is so sad your family treats you that way. So what if you are different, family is supposed to love their children regardless of how they act, dress, think etc. I think the time has come to have a serious talk with them. Sit down when they are all around and just be honest...tell them that they are hurting you...that you are sorry you are not the person they wished you were, but that does not make you a bad person...just different. Tell them exactly how you feel...sincerely. If after that they dont put their arms around you and hug you...or they dont change their attitude towards you...just deal with it. When you are able to...I would say move out and start a new life with people around you who appreciate you. I dont know how old you are and maybe you are young to move out...but the years pass quickly...and soon enough you will be able to leave.
2007-01-29 15:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do please don't runaway. I've done that and it didn't really help the issue. I am sure if ya'll tried hard enough you would find a few similarities with your mom. I am sure that your family loves you very much. Continue to be your own person with your different views about things, but try to also understand some things about your family. Let your mom know how bad you are hurting and how you hate to be alone all the time. I pray she will listen to you, if not is there a friend or close Aunt or cousin that may listen to you?
2007-01-29 15:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by espee65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is be the best you can be. Rise above it, do amazing things, and have the satisfaction that one day maybe they will feel guilty. I don't fit in with my family......never did. Picture this, a whole family of uneducated, rogues, with one daughter that actually graduated high school, and went on to college, who is now trying to do something good with her life. They NEVER understood me! Thought I was a freak cause I didn't get into trouble as a teen. They all condemned me for wanting to go to college, some even reacted with outright hostility! They still talk bad about me, and do everything they can to make life harder, but as I got older, I learned to understand them, I also developed pity for them. But I do have the satisfaction of knowing that when they look at my life now, they are not too stupid to see what good I've done. Many, many people feel they don't fit in in their families, the trick to it , is just waiting for this phase to pass. One day, you can be on your own, and surround yourself with people who do understand you, and love you for who you are. Just get through it my friend, grit your teeth and bear it! It also helps if you can spend a lot of time away from home, like a part time job, where other people your age work, also it is good to have a trusted friend who will stash the important personal things you don't want dregded up by evil family members. I'll tell you one thing, if you are not yet old enough to drive, when I got my license, it was the sweetest freedom I could have ever dreamed about. I worked from thirteen to sixteen, to save for a car, and when that day came, the freedom from opression was HEAVEN!
2007-01-29 16:03:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard being different and feeling like your alienated from your family.
I don't know what the problem is between you and your mom, but perhaps some outside help is warrented here.
If you can, talk to someone at school, like a counselor. Be honest and open with what's going on. I'm sure that will help.
And pray because God will help you.
2007-01-29 15:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by autimom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, because I believe in being who we are, but maybe just for a while try this, tone it down while around them !!!! Take the few things that realy bug them and just tone it down some...... do NOT give up who you are inside tho, I know this will be hard but at least you will show them you are making the effort to be a part of the family..... Use a journal to write down what you are feeling and to live out that part of your life.... write a story of a girl/boy just like you and the type of life they would have now and in the future....... Be who you are OUTSIDE the home, but like I suggested, tone it down INSIDE the home, or when they are around...... it is called compromise, and you will do it the rest of your life, it is just how LIFE goes........ God bless
2007-01-29 15:50:03 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first off, dont let them tell you that youa re wierd. i mean... dont duct tape their mouths shut, but dont let it get to you. you were created for a purpose, and that makes you unique just as much as they are. i know, based off what you said up there, that your family does not see eye-to-eye with you, but do you try to with them? perhaps you can start something new together, such as a hobby? i really dont know the situation too well, at least not enough to give advice, but maybe you can somehow look at them and find something tha tyou like, and try to share that with them, and hopefully, through time, this will also feed back to them finding things in you that they like. it may be annoying and such, but it may be worth it in the end. good luck.
2007-01-29 15:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by ictoagsnstii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all you say is correct, you probably would have a tough time fitting in even if you left. You live within a society and at some point you need to accept that.
2007-01-29 15:49:56 · answer #7 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're at an extremely confusing age - you at the instant are not from now on a toddler yet yet not an grownup, and it variety of feels your mothers and fathers are nonetheless treating you as a toddler. Why do your mothers and fathers think of which you will not quantity to something? have you ever struggled inclusive of your education? What have you ever finished that makes your mothers and fathers sense you're a foul indignant guy or woman? while i substitute into your age i hated being at living house too - i substitute into considered one of 5 the only in the middle. I used to continually shout and scream at my persons each and all of the time. I never believed that i might ever have a "sturdy" relationship with my mum, yet now i'm 33 and while i glance back i've got faith sorry approximately deeply the way i spoke to my mum and comprehend her judgements she made for me and that i admire and appreciate her with all my heart. possibly your mothers and fathers are afraid to your destiny, for the reason which you do not talk over with them they dont be conscious of your plans and so on., in the event that they knew what you had to do - presented it substitute into criminal - i'm beneficial that they had attempt to assist in some way.
2016-10-16 07:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just moved on with my life. CAn you move? and move on?
2007-01-29 15:46:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kill yourself and start over
2007-01-29 15:47:47 · answer #10 · answered by joe h 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋