i have been with b/friend for almost 1 year,he has a very serious addiction to crack he stopped,due to losing me, now hes highly addicted to oxycitin, d.r. prescribed it for back pain! but he has abused it since 3 months now! ends up in hospital when he runs out, so hosptal will supply his meds,, i love him, but should i brake it off? now! while hes in hospital? please anyone help!
2007-01-29 15:35:25 · 8 answers · asked by Sunset J 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I would break up with him unless you think he is truly trying to stop it with the drugs. I remember the song by Pink "She's back on drugs again even though she knows it ain't right. She can't even call up her friends and say help me save my life." It is a song called "Save my life." Maybe that is what he needs? Someone to save his life?
Regards,
Pablo
2007-01-29 16:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by Scott 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave now while you still can. He is still a crack addict, he is still an addict. He has only transfered his addiction from crack to oxycotin, he will transfer it again if needed. Transfering it is not fixing the problem he will continue that patten until he bottoms out and is ready to deal with his real issues. Either way you don't want to be a part of that. It is 1,000 more painful to walk that road than walking away now. Trust me I know...By walking away now you will hurt for a few months and be ready to move on. If you stay it could be 5-10 years before he is ready to face this and even then some people die drug addicts. By then you could have children with this man. You can't help him, you cant fix him and he will never love you enough to change. It would be easier to leave him now.
2007-01-29 23:57:03 · answer #2 · answered by Petra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much you love him and want to put up with. I would issue him an ultimative, tell the doctor what he's doing, going into the hospital to get more meds cause he's a recovering addict and now addicted to this medication. Actually I would tell the dr myself too in case he didn't cause then I would know I did what I needed to do to so if it came to breaking up with him, I would know I did what I could by telling his doctor. What he needs is to stay in the hospital and let them wean him off the meds. People with addictions are sick, it's not excusable behavior by far, but it sometimes is just genetic built inside of them. In my family my mom's parents and brothers were alcoholics, my mom never drank anything because she knew she could get addicted. I got somewhat addicted to pain meds from cancer and the side effects then jaw surgery besides. It's hard because I see it both sides. I see the pain in the butt the person can be, how they make excuses, and I know taking meds and feeling better can make it hard to stop too. I wouldn't break it off yet if you truly love him, tell the dr, tell him to tell his dr and see what happens. I think it's great he stopped crack, he can do it, encourage him, he'll need the positive help from you to lick it.
2007-01-29 23:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by Tina of Lymphland.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your decision if you want to break it off with him. I would do it now while he's in the hospital though, so you get used to not seeing him. I was in a similar situation about 3 years ago. My ex-fiance, who I dated for almost 4 years, was addicted to crystal meth. He started using it about 1-2 years into our relationship. I couldn't stand him doing that. He stopped for a while, then started using again and he started making it. I kind of backed off from him then, but we were still together. It just kept getting worse. He eventually wound up in jail (not for drugs)and I used the time he was in jail to get away from him. When he got out he called me wanting me to come over but I just had a sick feeling all over my body and I never went back. A few months later I met my husband, we've been married almost a year, and I am so happy that I don't have to deal with someone addicted to a drug. It's hard on you to deal with that everyday and you don't want to do that the rest of your life. It could get better for a while but you will end up back in the same place again sooner or later. I would say to leave him now while he's in the hospital and meet someone else. Don't trap yourself.
2007-01-30 00:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by sweetjenv23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you might do is to call his doctor and tell him what you wrote on here. Maybe they can do something, like put it on his records so they'll see it next time he goes to the hospital. Other than that, I would lose him. He won't be of any good to you until he admits he has a problem, then DOES something about it.
2007-01-29 23:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, unless you want to walk in some day and find him room temperature.I dated a girl who was on pain meds and drank like a fish. I couldn't live with that thought as that is a deadly combo, plus she did other drugs like cocaine on occasion.
2007-01-29 23:45:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your situation is hopeless with this person. It is bad news to get involved with a person who is addicted to a chemical substance/gambling/sex etc. The addiction will rule their life.
2007-01-29 23:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to say
but I think this is not a moment for you to leave him
2007-01-30 06:46:42 · answer #8 · answered by Srbo Sutaric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋