this guy i have worked with for aout 4 months now is now single... i went to this party and he was there and we started to talk and whatever.. and we went onto the balcony and he kissed me(he made the first move).. and the allittle later he told me how much he likes me.. but this was 2 days ago and since then he hasnt really talked to me or texted me but did text me when i did first but he says he likes me... is this normal for just starting to talk or what? im so confused cause he says he likes me but doesnt talk to me or am i just being silly ..help..???
2007-01-29 15:27:38 · 23 answers · asked by britnee1988 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take things slow, how long has he been single for? Make sure he's not just looking for a rebound fling.
2007-01-29 15:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by Green-Eyed Gal 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly most of the time if he makes the moves and actually kissed you and told you that he likes you, then more than likely he would be calling you all of the time after that unless he might be shy. If he was drinking at the party then it could of just been the alcohol talking to you and not him. He could also be using you as a rebound because of his last relationship, as in trying to get back at his ex girlfriend to try and rell her back in because he is thinking it will make her jealous and miss him. It don't always work that way though. Only thing I can tell you to try is get in touch, talk face to face and ask him what that night was all about. Was it the alcohol talking or was he actually telling the truth and if he is says he was telling the truth ask him if he is wanting to use you for a rebound or if he truely has feelings for you. Also say the reason for all the question is because you really have feelings for him. ( only if you do ) and that you don't want to get attached and then get hurt. Also don't forget to ask for the reason that he has contacted you sense that night. Good luck and I hope this helps you some.
2007-01-29 15:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by blazin_cripz_2006_0wner.sheena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's some sage advice: Don't be the first person he dates. If they were mistreated, they will take it out on you. And on the other hand, the only thing left for she that waits is what's left and it might not be him. Be careful and treat him nice. Two days is not a long time and he may be a bit out of practice or a bit shy. If there is a place nearby work but not too handy(need to be discreet when dating at work) ask him privately if he would like to meet you for a coffee or soda or drink-whatever is appropriate after work. It will give you two a time to sit and talk for a bit and get to know each other better without making it a big deal. LOL
2007-01-29 15:41:15 · answer #3 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if he made the first move and he's already told you twice now that he likes you, what answer are you really looking for???
Don't stress if a boy doesn't call back after a few days, be relieved that he isn't some socially insecure stalker who initially acts like he's calling out of love or whatever, seriously, relax, you say you work with him so just be friendly as usual at work and don't hunt him down, maybe he was drunk at the party, maybe he really does like you but he's a bit apprehensive, trust me, it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him....
Just keep on the friend level until he initiallizes something more, other than that, if you want to make the next move yourself, go nuts, just be prepared that he may stall....give it some time, all you can do now is wait and see.....
2007-01-29 15:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How much did the two of you have to drink at this party? It may have just been the booze talking at the time, honey! Stuff like this happens a LOT at parties, especially with co-workers!
2007-01-29 15:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
haha thats a typical male for you. ive been with my boyfriend for almost two and a half years, and he is still sometimes like that. did you grow up with a brother? i am not really sure how old you are, nor how old this other guy is, but... because it was a party, there is the possibility that he was making an emotional type of decision / action to tell you that he liked you based on some type of "influence" ??? but, if you said that you talked to him again after that, and he still said he liked you, my best advice, honestly, is to act like you are not interested. dont act like you dont like him, but just do not act desperate. yeah, its annoying, and hard to do, and shouldnt even be necessary, but i am afraid with our other gender... it is. good luck, though, i hope everything goes well with you.
2007-01-29 15:34:05 · answer #6 · answered by ictoagsnstii 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may like you and is just a little afraid to show it. If I were you I'd go up to him physically and ask. I would just start out talking and work my way up. Take it one step at a time.
2007-01-29 15:31:42 · answer #7 · answered by Daniel V 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that it was a big step for him to kiss you and for him to be honest. Since it seems that you havent totally told him that you feel the same, maybe he is scared and is waiting for you to make the next move.
2007-01-29 15:32:23 · answer #8 · answered by :) 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
only time will tell. What you need to do is talk to him after he talks to you first. play a little hard to get at first. if he's really in to you, he'll continue to make the first moves.
2007-01-29 15:33:46 · answer #9 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just remember to take your time. He did just get out of a relationship he may not know what he wants. He does like you from what you are telling us. Don't stress over it take it as it comes.
2007-01-29 15:32:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋