What do you do when you think there is no hope?

Question

Well I'm a 16 yr old boy whose been depressed since I was like 10. I've always hated my life, didn't have many friends in junior high or the first couple of years of high school (I'm a junior right now). I'm nothing compared to my sister or brother who both have done well for this family. My parent argue consistenly and I"m always dragged into it. I need a job b/c my family is having problems and my grades are slipping and I blantly don't care. no one understands me and I"m all alone. I really don't care about school anymore...I don't care about life at all..! What should I do?

Answer 1

Don't feel so discouraged! Care about your education because it will help change you life in the future. Trust me, my teen years were the exact same and I thought the same question through but you know what? It's okay! You'll live through it. You'll go to a great college, meet a whole bunch of different people and spend the best times of your life there, so don't worry! You only have what like 1 1/2 semester to go until graduation! hang in there, you can do it!

Good luck my friend!

Answer 2

You need to try and relax, your question concerns me. There is nothing worth that much, as to not care about your life anymore. Take it from someone older and wiser, who was once in your shoes. I was a complete nerd in elem. & jr. high, I played w/ f----mice. Sorry, I have to start keeping my language clean. Anyway imagine that, go ahead and laugh(lol), those things were my only friends. Science Gueek to say the least. But, you know what I 'd give anything to be that kid again. Like you I felt hopeless, so I completely changed myself, to a popular, gpa slacken, poker playen, cheerleading loser, making some $(it's not everything), with a ton of false friends not to mention dozens of brainless boyfriends etc. Well guess what, it got me no where! Just in a lot of trouble at too young of an age. Get over what ever's getting you down. Being strong is the only way to survive. And positive thinking! Remember there's always someone worse off then you. Life ain't easy and family, we can't choose. I'm sure mine would make yours look like a day @ the beach(lol)! I don't mean to joke, because depression is a very serious issue. If you feel you can't handle it on your own, talk to an adult , family member, counsler, teacher, someone you trust @ school. They can get you further assistance. Sometimes it's beyond our control, your body's chemistry may be a little off. With the help of a good physician, med's can be taken at the very extreme, to get you back on track. All though, I think it's more along the lines of being 16. What ever you do, never give up! You were given this life for a reason, it just takes time to figure it out. H-ll, I'm still trying to figure things out, and I have many years on you! Good Luck, it will work out!

Answer 3

youthnoise.com This is a site I found where maybe you can connect.I have suffered from depression.I really do understand.I think you might need anti-depressants.They really did bring my hope back.I cannnot think of a darker place than the one without hope but believe me it is an imbalance in the brain.Plus at your age you are already going through enough changes! Listen, do what you are doing.Reach out.Is there a teacher or a friend of the family you could go to , to ask for help? I know that asking for help is not at all what you want to hear, because as you said you do not care.It is not you who doesnt care -it is your depression.Anyway,believe me you are SO NOT ALONE!!!Maybe getting a job will allow you to get out of the house and meet new people.I still think that you might need (like me) an anti-depressant and counseling.It is totally normal to feel down at your age.Just don't keep it to yourself, ok? I wish you a gentle touch toward yourself. Do not compare yourself to your brother or sister.As someone once told me-Compare and Despair! You are very important, and even though your journey at the moment seems fraught with darkness-you will come out of the darkness! If I can do it, so can you!

Answer 4

Well you probably don't care about school because you don't see the point. And really, you're not totally wrong there. Schools are there to attempt to teach you a skill set to better prepare you for the world, and honestly, they don't do the greatest job.

And don't feel like you need to walk the same path as your sister or brother, or even your parents. What's right for them, may not be right for you. Concentrate on the thing that motivate you, inspire you, make you ask questions.

Is there someone you look up to, maybe a parent, grandparent, teacher or friend? Talk to them, tell them how you feel.

Hang in there... I felt completely disconnected from the world even after college, and there are days I still do, but there are days that I feel inspired and alive and they make it all worth while. So keep asking questions until you find the answer you're looking for.

It's not about knowing the right answer, it's about knowing the right question.

Answer 5

first of all let someone know ur feelings of hopelessness, talking always helps. Make an appointment with ur family doctor and talk to him/her about it, they may be able to help u. there is different kinds of prescriptions for u to try.
i just lost a friend who felt the same way, he took his own life...it solved nothing.
Also as far as high school goes, right now it may seem like it is the most important thing in ur life as far as how people feel about u, how u fit in, how many friends u have, etc. but in the big picture hs is just something u need to get thru, the world is so much bigger. Life is full of ups and downs, the ups are great and the downs help u to learn and be a stronger person. and remember u are not ur brother or sister, u are u and thats what matters, just be u. please talk to someone.

Answer 6

first of all, never give your hopes up. second of all, you're living, face everything you have. Get a job. Stand up on your feet, stay away from home since ur parents fight so much.. Make friends, be a friend to have a friend. Get along. Just don't worry about everything but yourself right now. Do something that will make you happy. Do something that will make u feel really good about yourself. Just stay happy. Make a goal. Do the best you can. Don't let you're studies drop. If you do really good in studies, you can get a good job n have a good life.. so focus on things you can do, not what you can't. <3 if you want anything else or someone to talk to .. just add me ^_^ I'm here for you.

Answer 7

Oh you poor kid...I just want to reach through the Internet and hug you.

First - PLEASE go to a psychiatrist and get some anti-depressants. Or at the very least, go to your school counselor (or if you're religious, your church's clergyman) and ask him/her to refer you to a free or low-cost counseling center. You can't carry the weight of your parents' dysfunction and being a teenager on your own. Please seek some kind of help.

Second - PLEASE don't give up on school. Sweetie, school is your ticket OUT OF THERE. It's true that money can't buy happiness, but money CAN buy freedom and independence, which can be your ticket to happiness. Yes, I know you're 16 and two years probably seem like a lifetime to you - I was 16 years old not that long ago myself. But when you're 18, when you can either go off to college or move out and get a job, you'll feel like the entire world has opened up and given you another chance.

Once you're out on your own; first, GET A JOB. Having your own economic power means everything. Second - stay in school. You can work full time and put yourself through college part-time. Maybe go to a junior college for the first few years and transfer to a state school for your junior-senior level work. It might take longer than four years, but the peace of mind involved in being out on your own will be worth it.

Last - PLEASE don't let your affection and trust for your siblings be ruined by your parents' unfavorable comparisons. It's incredibly hurtful when parents say, "If only you were more like your brother or your sister..." because that not only destroys one sibling's self-esteem, it harbors alienation toward the "good sibling" as well.

Think of it this way: in 20, 30, 40 years, your parents will be dead, but your sister and brother will probably be the only family you have left. Don't let your cruel parents alienate you from them.

Best of luck, sweetie. I know this is a HARD age - I've been there myself.

Answer 8

Kid,
I wish I was 16 again. There is so much hope in you. There are so much out there for you. You will not know how much you have now until you get to later in life.
Time is on your side. If I had study hard when I was at your age, I am definitely sure that I will be retired by now. I looked back the time I have wasted and the opportunities I have missed. If I had a great education and good grades, things will have gone much much better. I would have been able to take advantage of the opportunites that comes up. I would be well off.
Anyway, I just want to say, right now there are a lot of things not to your liking. But trust me, there are plenty of good things ahead of you. But whether you can take the one chance and change your life to be better depends on how you going to handle this. The going get tough and the tough get going.

Again, everyone will have an opportunity knocking at their door. But not everyone prepared themselves for it and thus they miss their chance.

Answer 9

Its not easy beening a teenager. Hormones ,responabilties ,ect. But life is not forever in your parents house You to will grow up and I'm sure have your own family.Your life here is for a reason I think you just havent found your reason yet it will come in due time.You need to get some cousling for your depression a lot of people have it (even me).Get some meds they help if ya find the right one. Help your parents out if ya can (remember its not forever with them)and Im sure they will help you in return.So your not like your brother or sister. Good cause you are you.There is only one of you and its all yours.

Answer 10

Figure out what is the central, most rooted problem in your family. There are problems but they usually revolve and are manifested from ONE serious, like "root" problem. Don't give up any hope for yourself because you will put this all behind you. God is watching you and you must talk to someone about this. If you can't, try ChildhelpUSA. You're not going to suffer this kind of pain forever and only you as your own individual can your problems. When dealing with a family, I don't think anyone can fix it all.