It may be fear or love or both but something in you prevented you from striking back somehow but the anger still is there. If this has happened to you, how do you handle it without becoming mad at God because you feel like He is tying your hands up but He seemingly isn't doing anything either. I truly do not want to sound blasphemous but I am alot frustrated!
2007-01-29 15:16:16 · 30 answers · asked by phyllis_gene_levy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes.
In time your anger will pass.
2007-01-29 15:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by The Notorious Doctor Zoom Zoom 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know all about that. There is a particular person in my family who has done many bad things, to many many people. And though his life isn't perfect, my mother defends him, and on the outside, his life looks good. He hasn't had anything really come upon him because of his actions.
But I'm okay with that. If God was up there punishing us every time we messed up, we'd never get anywhere, and we would basically be scared into obeying Him. That's not what it's all about.
I had to get away from this person and stop speaking to him. It was the only way for me to see any peace. Sometimes, I see people befriending him, and I want so bad to tell that person how he really is. But God deals with me not to do that.
The only comfort I can give you is that God sees you taking the high ground. My flesh still wants revenge, and my husband will tell you, to this day, if I even hear his name, I get angry all over again. But I press on. That person's not studying me, he doesn't care if I'm angry or not. So really the grudge is only hurting me.
God dealt with me on this one time. He said, "when you learn how to forgive even him, you'll start to understand the love of Christ." Forgiving your friends is easy; forgiving when you don't want to is hard.
Why is God not punishing this person? How do I know God isn't? How do I know that person is truly happy on the inside, or that their dreams are really coming true? One time, this guy let it slip that he was having nightmares of people coming after him. So maybe his consience is starting to get to him.
God will deal with them in the way that is best. Also consider, if they have kids or dependents, those other people would suffer if something bad happened. So God knows what he is doing.
Until then, be content that God loves you. If God fought all your battles for you, and removed all the bullies from your path, how would you ever grow up? Be content that God sees all. He restrained you for a reason. He has something better in store down the road, so don't get impatient just yet.
Also, remember that forgiveness takes time. I'm still working on letting things go myself. It's not a one-time thing. It's a process.
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2007-01-29 15:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by cirque de lune 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm sorry I can't give a specifically Christian take on this, but I think I can help. I just realize that 1. I don't need this person in my life. 2. I am so much better off than this person and I can rise above them. 3. I'm better than that. 4. I don't have time to focus on the negative. 5. I can learn something from this.
Mad at God? Give me a break. If that's what you believe, well, God might have put you here, but he isn't going to hold your hand. I think you can handle life on your own. It's everything beyond life that you might need God for.
2007-01-29 15:40:35 · answer #3 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happens to the best of us. But what I want you to remember is that bad things happen even if you're not Godly. Most would agree that it's frustrating, and anger is not a sin. However, you can rest assured that no one gets away with anything, it only appears as so for a little while. And I speak from the experience of a drawn out and bitter divorce.
2007-01-29 15:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by Heaven's Messenger 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are a Christian, you need to remember that our example is Jesus. Our lives are no longer about getting revenge or making sure we get "even". The more you come to know Jesus and study the word of God, the more important it is to follow His leading rather than satisfy that short term desire to get even. Jesus said never to return evil for evil. He said to forgive others as He has forgiven us. If you truly strive to live a life like this, what you will gain is peace, wisdom, maturity and joy. If instead you give in to your desire to get even, you'll get a quick rush of pleasure, and then what will move in will be guilt, shame, and regret.
Remember the weapons of our warfare are not carnal. Satan puts weapons in front of you that are easy to pick up; anger, revenge, striking back, cutting down. But the weapons of God are prayer, self sacrifice, self control, denying the urge to "get even". And the result of going with God's way instead of satan's way will be a life of fulfillment and peace.
2007-01-29 15:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by Esther 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think that a lot of us Christians has been there in your shoes. But there is a time in our life when we will truly have to make a change in our lives and realize that there will be test that we will have to pass. Regardless of what the enemy has done to you, you must continue to pray for that person and do not be praying in vain because God will not answer such prayers. If you put it all in God's hands just as he tell us to do and be patient, then he will make your enemy your footstool. Return love in the place of frustration. If it is impossible for you to do this, then seek God's face for strength.
2007-01-29 15:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
God has revealed something both awesome and frustrating to me:
"Give up your "right" to get even"
Yikes! I LIKE my anger, my plots, my hoping they "get theirs" and lots of it..
and then I hear HIM again "Vengeance is MINE, I WILL repay!"
It becomes a matter of trust.. can I give it up without lessening the pain, or taking away from the fact that it happened? The answer is yes, I can - and that point is the one most hurt people miss- the point where they CAN be healed!
2007-01-29 15:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by watcherd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Several individuals have caused me harm and I am ashamed to admit there are still twinges of frustration years after the incidences. The Lord has allowed me to see more of my sin lately and so I do not focus on others as much as I focus on Christ for peace, forgiveness, and comfort. One individual is now dead without Christ, another is still without Christ and not concerned. How could I think ill of them when their fate is far, far worse than anything they ever did to me. My hope for the one still living is true salvation.
2007-01-29 15:26:34 · answer #8 · answered by faithful 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't remember where I read it, but someone said that nursing a grudge was like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
Instead of revenge, try praying, and ask God to help you release that anger and frustration. Pray that He helps you to forgive the hurt that was done to you, and pray for the person who hurt you to get help and for their welfare. Do this, and you will feel more at peace with yourself and God.
2007-01-29 15:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by Cylon Betty 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have to come to a place that you know that God in His greatness can handle any situation and it takes growth. But being a Christian does not mean that you allow people to walk all over you either or cause harm to you or your family.
2007-01-29 15:22:40 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is a dish best eaten cold but in having said cold dishes are usually tasteless unless its a salad with lots of frilly bits and clourful things in it - dont waste your time analysing your human emmotions acknowledge that you are realy angry and feal betrayed and would like to do something to this person and then leave it to god and move on and concentrate on more positive and happy persuits
2007-01-29 15:21:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋