My fiance and i are getting married in august... we are going to have a small court house wedding..........well i dont want his step mom to be there...she is such a ***** and talks crap about me behind me behind my back.......and his cousin is doin it too.....they were both caught red handed and i have pointed it out to his cousin but, could this put a burden on my fiance and his family
2007-01-29 15:13:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it all depends on the GUY your marrying...some guys will hear it in one ear, and let it go out the other....some guys care for and about their wife, and only their wife after they are married...family talk and bulls*hit, doesnt mean a thing to him...and if you have a guy like that, who will stick up for you, then you will be one lucky lady.... now, i am currently going thru the same thing, except im not engaged yet.... and i love my bf to death, and we have been together for sooo long, but i always feel uncomforable around his family,,and i always feel that they dont like me, which i really do think they dont...but this is making me second guess my relationship...bc when you marry a guy, you marry his family....UNLESS you have one of the awesome guys, i have already mentioned...then your fine...
its tough i know...but good luck and think it thru...
2007-01-29 15:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get used to it. You may do well to extend the olive branch and invite the stepmom anyway. Otherwise, this could be a huge offense for the rest of your life. I hate to think that in 40 years if you're all still around and visiting stepmom in the nursing home that the conversation goes back to how you banned her from the wedding. Be the bigger person and you likely won't regret it. If the decision is made to ban her, it's probably a really bad idea, but let it be something hubby is ready to take the point and let him lead that battle. It's just a bad start to a marriage to make worse a feud. Hubby (to be) should challenge those negative talkers now...or he likely won't do it later.
2007-01-29 15:24:30 · answer #2 · answered by georgiagolfer72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not your place to kick out your fiances family. I know i know they don't sound like the nicest people, but still. It shouldn't be you, doing it. However, your fiance is about to be your husband. He should defend you weather your right or wrong. So he should kick them out. Or have it out with em till they apologize.
Now its true what they say, you marry the family along with the groom. So yea unfortunately it will probably be a burden on your fiance and his family. That's just the way it goes some times. What a sucky situation. Good luck though
2007-01-29 15:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What will happen is it will put a burden on you. I know all about ****** in-laws, it only seems to get worse if they are really mean spirited, they could even try to break you guys up! Try to avoid them as much as you can, dont pick fights with them cuz it does no good and just hope for the best.
2007-01-29 15:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♫♥ Crystal ♥♫♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
90% of mother-n-laws are NOT like that !!!!!!! anyway, I think you need to sit him down and talk about all this, and tell him just how you feel..... be respectful about all his family, no name calling , no put downs, just the facts..... IF YOU have a clear concience about it all and have done NOTHING wrong, then YOU need to stand up for urself some.... ask him what he thinks the future holds for the 2 of you if things keep on the way they are ? make it clear you will NOT stand between him and his family but, ask him just where does he see YOU fitting in ?? ask HIM if he has a solution for all this, if not, ask him what HE thinks YOU should say or do now ??? put the ball in his court and see what happens........... God bless
2007-01-29 15:22:38 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont feel bad because i was in the same boat. and i too had a small court house wedding. all you have to do is stand by his side and stand your ground just let him know that you love him and that you were not trying to cause any probles in his family and that you are not going any where any time soon.
2007-01-29 15:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and your fiance are in love than his family just has to accept it. Sometimes people just clash. If I were you I'd sit them down and tell them that you won't be scared off that you realize they love your boyfriend and you do too. Be the bigger person and work on just supporting him. Also he needs to stand up for you have him talk to his family.
2007-01-29 15:18:48 · answer #7 · answered by blood_drop2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My family did not readily accept my wife into the family, and it did create friction between my family and me. The important thing is that you don't let your families opinions affect what you have together. I know my family has their problems with my wife but that is for them to deal with. I am supporting of my wife and marriage, and I will never let my family come between my wife and me. hopefully your fiance will know better than to listen to his family over his heart
2007-01-29 15:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by elcidiv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a typical family. Can't put more then 2 b*i*t*c*h*s in the same room
2007-01-29 15:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by trichbopper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck. You'll need it. Years ago, I married a guy whose mother didn't like me and it took her just one year to break up our marriage because, when it came down to it, my ex-husband could not stand up to his family, did not want to defend me and got tired of hearing about it.
I got tired of the lack of emotional support and dumped his ***.
2007-01-29 15:17:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋