Guys and girls....Ok my boyfriend just blew up at me and he said this is why:
He called me and I was with my friends so he told me to call him back later when I was free, but when I got off the phone with him I didn't say 'I love you.' He seriously blew up at me later! I haven't done anything that would make him question how I feel...I think. What's up with that?
2007-01-29 15:11:32 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he's being fairly possesive. Tell him to chill out. He doesn't own you.
2007-01-29 15:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by blood_drop2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has some security issues. If you really want a relationship with someone who is a little to the side of "high strung" and needing of lots of reassurance...I would say that you need to just sit down with him and try to have an honest discussion about it. It probably doesn't have anything to do with you personally, or anything you've ever done, but, better to deal with the trouble up-front and honestly than have to do marriage counselling later on.
Oh, and, don't forget. Even if the person you're with is edgy/clingy it doesn't mean you have to lose your own boundaries. If he can't grasp that point after a good heart-to-heart...I'd seriously give some thought to looking elsewhere or at least cooling off for a while/taking a breather. Just a thought!
2007-01-29 23:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by Charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems extremely sensitive and Needy...explain to him that love doesn't need to be verbal all the time....Its very immature of him to blow up on you, especially if you haven't given him a reason to not trust you.
I'm not you, but if i was i would tell HIM:
Dude I'm not feeling your communication skills right now. I apologize for not knowing verbal "I love yous " were mandatory. I'm sorry i thought i was in a mature relationship, but i see that you need constant verbal confirmation, my bad.... I'm gonna let you chill on this one..call me when you grow up.
Don't use these exact words, sugar-coat it
make sure you tell him acting he's immature... work it out and make the solution a rule in the relationship so you won't have go through this again with him.
2007-01-29 23:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by GodMa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of two things is going on here either A) he is insecure and needs for you to remind him that you love him or B) he is looking for an excuse to break up with you. If a dude wants out of a relationship he will find any little thing to pick a fight about to justify the break up.
2007-01-29 23:16:36 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♫♥ Crystal ♥♫♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thinks you're afraid to say you love him infront of your friends? I'm the same way with my girlfriend, we ALWAYS say love you before getting off the phone. For some people it may be more serious then it is for others.
2007-01-29 23:23:53 · answer #5 · answered by Joe G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is insecure ( I suck at spelling, hope that's right!) He could think that you are embrassed to express how you feel in front of your friends, so don't love him. I'm not BIG on public displays of affection, so I can see how you may not have said it, but if you really do love him, tell him and explain how you feel. Good luck!
2007-01-29 23:19:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's mad because you didn't drop everything to talk to him, because all men are secretly six year olds with sharing problems. You forgetting to say "I love you" was just a convenient excuse for him to start a fight and make you give all your attention to him. You have to admit, it worked! Tell him to actually focus on the true issue next time and grow up already.
2007-01-29 23:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this sounds like classic insecurity issues. If he has to hear your love expressed every time and in certain fashion, he has problems. He is insecure and inmature.
Trust me on this. It won't get better over time.
2007-01-29 23:19:34 · answer #8 · answered by lostlatinlover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok that Joe G guy is my boo, and let me tell you, sometimes i just slip and dont say it. he knows i love him and if i know hes outside my house waiting and im in a rush sometimes i dont say it, that doesnt change how i feel. maybe its different b/c u guys just started saying it to each other but just let him know that actions speak louder than words and he should know you love him and thats all that matters...
if that doesnt work smack him around, thats what i do, LOL
2007-01-29 23:27:19 · answer #9 · answered by Fran M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just showing the insecurity side of him. If he's secured and confident of the love you have of him, then such immature reaction wouldn't occur.
2007-01-30 00:37:29 · answer #10 · answered by jad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋