Hey yahoo answers! I've got a difficult problem that I need help with.
I am a student in high school. My best friend, 'Anna', has liked a boy, 'Dallas' for the past 5 months. Dallas is one of my very close friends and our personalities work well together. Anna has began to falter and now does not know whether or not she likes Dallas. Some days, she'll not even want to talk to him anymore. And what's more, lately I've found myself liking him!
Dallas has shown signs of interests in me, but I don't know if he's for real. Plus, even if our feelings are mutual... I don't want to hurt Anna. She has no idea I have feelings for Dallas.
My question, with all this background info: How can I get closer to Dallas in a different sense than friendship without hurting Anna?
2007-01-29 14:57:33 · 4 answers · asked by Faith 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, if this helps:
I am well aware that my education is important. I'm taking the most difficult courses my high school offers for students in my grade and succeeding. I'll be fine without a reminder to focus on my studies.
I've known Anna since the beginning of the school year, and we became fast friends.
I've known Dallas since about last December, a year ago.
Just FYI
2007-01-29 15:22:13 · update #1
If you care about your friend, then don't pursue anything with Dallas. Being unselfish is thinking about others before yourself. If it's meant for you and Dallas to be together then it will happen. Be patient, and don't go behind your friends back b/c she will feel betrayed. And you would feel the same way if you were her. Stand your ground and if it ever comes to that point tell Dallas no!!, b/c now is not the time. If he's a true friend he will respect that and not try to force you. Then maybe down the road a couple of years later you can explain to your girlfriend how you felt after she has recovered from it.
2007-01-29 15:06:54 · answer #1 · answered by unknown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just explain the problem to Anna, and see what she says. Explain to her that you wouldn't want to do anything to jeopardize your friendship with her, but it looks to you like she might not be all that interested in Dallas anymore, and you'd like to check him out yourself.
She might just tell you to go for it, or she be upset, but at least you won't be sneaking around behind her back. If you do end up pursuing Dallas, Anna is less likely to feel betrayed, if you at least discuss it with her first.
2007-01-29 15:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, at this point, you have to decide between your BFF or just a random guy. Which one is more important to you?
Since you want to get closer to Dallas, you're still hurting Anna no matter what.
2007-01-29 15:04:10 · answer #3 · answered by asdfjkl; 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friendship last longer than romance.your still in school and you have the rest of your life for boys.
education should be your TOP PRIORITY .
2007-01-29 15:07:02 · answer #4 · answered by hl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋