I have been cutting myself for months, it helps me get over pain. My friend saw the cuts one day at school and I begged him not to tell anyone. He said he wouldn't but I should. Instead, I tried not to cut as much, but I couldn't stop. I'm not sure if I want to tell my mother though, because the cutting still gets rid of pain. I love my mother, but no offense to her, she has a very closed mind. I'm not sure she would even understand. If I do tell her she might just call some counselor when I don't need that. I need to heal alone. What should I do?
2007-01-29 14:27:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I have gone to the school counselor a couple of times for other reasons. She always tells my mother.
2007-01-30 08:09:00 · update #1
Jenny, you are right. I like it. It feels so good.
2007-02-01 08:10:40 · update #2
hey sweetheart. i myself am a cutter and so is my boyfriend. we have been for about the past about 3 years or so..trust me love, you cant heal alone. i know how much cutting can feel like it helps you to get over the pain but it can also cause more pain. people can start becoming afraid of you. i know i have lost many, many friends because of it. i just look at those people as close-minded idiots. they obviously werent true friends. but anyways back on subject. i know how scary it is to have people find out. counselors are NOTTT reliable in any means. theyre require by law to tell ur parents. thats how my parents kind of found out. ive been sent to the psychiatric ward twice now for cutting. i still havent gotten over it. try therapy (with a therapist you like or else its not worth it). also sometimes medications can help, but they can also make you suicidal, a problem i deal with severely. i know how cutting can become a part of your life. you might even like it. i know i like it sometimes. you should definitely seek out a friend who you know verrrrry well and whom you can trust with your life. or you could try a cutting support group or something along those lines. i hope i helped love, and if you ever need anything you can alllllways email me. blessed be! <3 jenny
2007-01-31 13:16:00 · answer #1 · answered by SecondhandxxSerenade<3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first question is what is this pain you have that has lasted for months? If it is bad enough that you need to "heal" from it and are cutting yourself because of it then yes you do need to talk with someone. If it is a simple girlfriend/boyfriend problem then find a good friend to talk with. If not and it it more serious they have grief/Rape hot lines counselors you can go to where you don't even have to take your mom, but if the problem IS this serious I highly recommend you do because she will understand and she will be the best friend you have.
What will you do when the cutting isn't enough anymore? What will you so with all the scars? Do you have a friends mom? A grandparent? An older sibling? An Aunt or uncle?Please get help somewhere.
2007-01-29 22:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by faithful_butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm this is somehting that you cantt get over by your self.. you need help.. i self mutilate.. started many mmany years ago.. and im still at it.. however 3 times week in tx its not as bad as it use to be.. everything from cutting burning, head banging, scratching,, you name i have done it or am still doing it.. looking at me you cant tell that much because of the areas i use and how i dress, but if i was to put on a bikini.. with i only do around certain people.. i am so chopped up its horrible..
not to mention.. all the scars from stitches where ihit main arteries and almost bled to death , all the hospitalizations, and that was all accidntal, because as you said. it does take "pain " away.,,,in a sense.. when im so numb that i cant feel. i cut or burn, or when i have hurts and pains i cant fix i cut or burn because i can see that and i can fix it.. but then whenyou in the moment,,., yoiu dont realize that you are doing serious damage.. and can hit a wrong area and the next thing you know your on a life support and having blood pumped back into you because you just wanted to take that pain away.. not die.. just feel better for a few mins.. is not an answer.. seek therapy.. even if you dont tell your mom.. ask her if you can see a therapist.. and then start with telling her adn thentogether the two of you can tell your mom.that will give you someone on your side and a therapist can help your mother understand whats going on with you and why your doing what your doing.. life is a precious thing to waste becase your afaid of your close minded mother.. asked someone to help you nad together you will find that your momis not at close minded as you think.. your just shut off because of your pain.. good luck
2007-01-29 22:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by Island Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of different ways to get over pain. You need to explore other ones.
One of the things you need to know is what is the pain you are working to get over - and to know that clearly, THAT'S where you need to find help. What you think may be the pain may only be part of it - and until you know fully what the pain is, you can't get the best way to help get through it.
Your cutting is not the solution - it's a symptom. It's not bad if it's helping you get through - but you need to start looking for other ways before it gets worse. Cutting will only help for today - it won't solve the problem and it won't help in the long run, and if something else happens or the pain gets worse - you can't cut enough to balance it out.
Get help. Not so much for the cutting but to find a better way. To find out everything you need to know about yourself.
Trust me - we all need help with that one. You are most definitely not alone.
2007-01-29 22:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by Uncle John 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your school counselor. It's seems to be pretty common that parents are not fully on board with the idea that their child might be suffering from depression. And you don't have to tell your mother if you feel she wont understand right away.
What you can try focusing on, is how to get yourself some help. A school guidance counselor is actually supposed to assist you with matters like these... it's what they went to school for, not sending your transcript info. to colleges (although that is what many of them do).
2007-01-29 23:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by WORLD FAMOUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutting is a symptom of a deeper problem. I know. I just got caught cutting myself a few days ago, and am FINALLY getting help after four years of silence. Please, please, please tell someone. Otherwise someone will find out, or perhaps even catch you in the act, as happened with me. And believe me, that is far worse than just telling someone. You need professional help. Please don't cut. When you feel like cutting, there are things to do that can take your mind off it, like exercising, taking a really cold shower (or just step outside if you live in MN like I do,) reading a favorite book, calling a friend, anything that you like and won't set you off to cut.
2007-01-30 16:15:39 · answer #6 · answered by diepolitiker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you from experience, you can't heal alone. You should really tell someone you trust and try to get some kind of help.
2007-01-29 22:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
darling. that isnt the answer. i thought it would help. it did. but really it doesnt. its all mental. you can stop if you feel like its something that you want to do. you arent alone. but the reason people do cut is to kill themselves and i dont think that you want that to happen. my friend died and trust me you think that by killing yourself or whatever it will help. no that is the most selfish thing anyone can do. you are really killing th hopes and dreams of anyone who has ever loved you.
2007-01-29 22:40:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a better hobby like guitar or poetry either one might work better for you because they are great pain relievers and you can also get something out of it in the end
2007-01-29 22:35:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋