I can't totally avoid him because he is my sons father.
2007-01-29 14:24:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ps I am still in love with him
2007-01-29 14:52:56 · update #1
If he is not a good influence on your kids, then avoid him. they do not need him no more than you do. If he is a GOOD man, then let him see them, but NOT IN OUR HOUSE. There are parks all over your city. Sit in the car and let him have time with them. Put them back in the car, and go home. That way, all you say to him is, ....... hi. Talk as little as possible. What goes on in your life is none of his business.
2007-02-01 03:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by NC_Pianist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can forgive someone in your heart, but be guarded from letting them hurt you again.
You really need to know yourself well in order to avoid those things that allow you to open up and become vulnerable to those things that bring the two of you close. Pretty much, you need to think with your head and not your heart. Pay attention to your gut instinct. Don't put yourself in situations where you don't have an out. A difficult question to answer, but these are the things I would try.
Good luck!
2007-01-29 22:34:12 · answer #2 · answered by MYSTICHROME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoiding can always be done, are you willing to dodge out every corner of this world?
Forgiveness is the most powerful gift we have to offer in life, not the most precious gift, but the most powerful gift...
It takes some people years or sometimes a life time to forgive, but to hold a grudge, to hold a pain within and not letting it heal is one of the most selfish things humans will ever do.
If pain must come, then pain must come, don't try to run from pain, accept pain, as time will heal and time will show you how to deal with these pain.
Pain is an emotion that makes us alive, live life to be alive not to be not alive.
2007-01-29 22:34:39 · answer #3 · answered by calv83luc 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So he hurt you what? Mentally? Physically??? If physically you CAN and SHOULD for the sake of your son avoid him and avoid having your child around him. Even if mental you need to do what is best for the child. That does not necessarily constitute having that particular man in his life. The cycle will continue. "Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me"
2007-01-29 22:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by Mickey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. I have trouble with forgiving people if I know they are going to just repeat the behavior. Maybe you can forgive him deep down and not really let on to him, that way he might feel that he still has to prove himself. Plus you might want to consider that he might not be worth forgiving.
2007-01-29 22:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by InvicibleStar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just keep the relationship stricly about ur son, and nothing else personal with the two of u.
2007-01-29 22:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited 15yrs to get into contact with my dad being in foster care since i was 3. when finally got contact my dad ripped me off for every cent i had and abused me.
Lifes a ***** and i will never forgive him.
2007-01-29 22:30:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
clover dear forgive them totally but create a space ( a fence) be wise as a serpent yet gentle as a dove
2007-01-29 22:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by uncrowned ruler 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You just find it in your hurt to forgive him and you stop your self from getting close to him or getting to comfortable with him and whatever you do don't fall for him if you don't then he wont be able to hurt you
2007-01-29 22:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just spend the least possible time with them
you can forgive them, but not hold alot of trust with them
2007-01-29 22:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by Mr_wall2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋