When I was working and going to school, I was so busy that our arguments were spaced apart. I have always believed my husband's excuses were true...I wasn't enuff, too much stress, or I was a nag by bringing up things that upset him. I recently lost my job to illness. For two years I have prayed for God to help turn our hearts. I read my bible daily, believe in prayer and trying to respect this marriage. I've seen short-term changes in "Ned". ButYesterday, he decided I was sleeping wrong and should move. I said no it takes too long for me to get my back comfortable (I was not in his way). He complained; turned on lights and carried on while I prayed and didn't move. Eventually he elbowed me in the head and grabbed at my face--i had a slight bloody nose and now its black/red. As I prayed for protection the blows didn't hurt---and I prayed for help. Ned woke up this morning with pains all the places he tried to hurt me...which is what leads to think my prayers were heard....
2007-01-29 14:18:23 · 6 answers · asked by Sweetserenity 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Exactly my point.....if I divorce him I have to stay alone or commit adultery, if I stay I risk being in the newspaper; I have poured nearly 20 yrs into something that is so broken and confusing I can't think....we have been to therapy and do alright as long as we are fixing me. Now I've been told I am the family patient....they send me off to get fixed and no one else has to change...and I am so used to being wrong I keep volunteering for the assignment....so I have all this awareness....and only prayer to give me a clue what to do different... plus I am facing a lot of hospitals/docs (for physical pain)...I am confident in the Lord, not so confident in myself....I seem to make the worst possible choices....slow learner. I am ashamed to say I had to start writing on the wall as he was swearing at me to prove to myself it is real...he has great explanations and I have always wanted to believe them...he'd say i'm too sensitive, I misheard him, I provoked him, he wasn't loud, etc.
2007-01-29 17:36:15 · update #1
I am sure your prayer was heard. Sometimes we will find that our prayers won't change someone, as they have free will. But we can pray that their heart be changed. The Bible also says that some are witnessed to by our actions.
I don't understand violence in relationships. It makes me sad that one can do this to another that is a part of them. But if he gets violent, you may need to get protection from the police. We do in the natural what we can, and the Lord does what He wills in the spiritual realm. Maybe there are some ladies here that can be better help than I can.
2007-01-29 14:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by RB 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
God would never expect anyone to stay in an abusive marriage. If your husband gave you a bloody nose and bruising, that is abuse, Honey, take care of yourself. No woman deserves this treatment. My husband left me, with three 3 kids and all I had was a part time job. I was so depressed. But as time went on I liked having my kids to myself and without the terror of having this man in the house. He slapped my ears so hard I'm surprised I am not deaf. He left me for another woman. Trust me, life does go on. I have since remarried and have a wonderful husband. God Bless, stay close to Jesus. That is what got me through.
2007-01-29 22:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by angel 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be evil but If u divorce him, u R not aloud to have any other relationships until death do U apart. remember your vows to God, not to your husband. Lots of Christians Church's have lost the ways of God, and just marry u over again... if U do u will cause adultery. The lord told everyone to save themselves for the kingdom of God. This is the word of God. U can only marry once, unless U R a widow.
2007-01-29 22:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It doesn't sound like a happy marriage. Consider trying to seek couples' counseling or perhaps a divorce. A marriage requires teamwork, and "Ned" doesn't sound like a team player. He also sounds like he has to get his way all the time. Try talking to him and letting him know how you feel. If he can't be open-minded to your suggestions then I feel sorry for you if you stay.
P.S. don't worry about theegreatseeker's answer.
2007-01-29 22:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by Cass_17_7 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i don't think anyone needs to be mistreated, and i really don't believe God would want you to put yourself in harms way , the bible tells us to protect and take care of our body , letting him abuse you is not taking care of yourself, he sounds like a psycho
2007-01-29 22:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by mom of 4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
divorce him!!!
your prayers are always heard, you just need to have faith
2007-01-29 22:23:03 · answer #6 · answered by gabby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋