How do you get over this?

Question

How do you get over someone you feel used you. How do get over feeling low about yourself because of it. Its a horrible feeling, to feel "scammed and devalued" as a person when you did all you could to do right by this person, especially knowing him for almost two years, someone you cared about and really seemed he cared about you. i helped him with suicide feelings he had, listened to him go on and on, spent every night on the phone with him until he fell asleep. He cheated on me and he isn't w/ her anymore. He has hurt me and on top of it treats me like I dont exist and he wants no part of me. I know he doesnt deserve me if he can do all this, but how can someone be this way. I feel forgotten by him, and as much of a jerk he is, it still hurts to be treated this way. Do people like this really forget someone like me?
I dont trust anyone now, I see people differently, I dont have an open mind and its been six months since this all happened.

Answer 1

mia, you realy need to work on your self esteem, hes the one with the problem not you, it saddens me to read this, because if feel like ive been in a similar place but it took learning that i was worth more and could only be responsible for me and my actions and responses.. work on yourself and seeing that you are so worth much more in life than someone who is going to use and abuse and then dicard you, i truely believe there is someone out ther for everyone but its not always not so easily found, and then again it oculd be standing in front of you but may take a while for you to see.. things tha tare important to you or were you dont have to get over or forget but you do have to realize,, is that or was that actually good for me or a healthy realationship.. and thendecide from there if its really putting all your time and energy int o.. im guessing the answer is going to be no.. you cant be with someone who is chronically suicidaly like i said before.. he needs to be working on hm self and maybe in time he'll realize how much his own life is worth and maybe even how valuable you were worth and who knows down the line whenyour healthy and if hes healthy they may be a road that leads you two back to each other.. butnow is not the time.. you dont have to "get over" just work on moving past for your best benifit

Answer 2

Stuff happens. First thing you need to do is realize you can't change someone else. It's his loss, not yours. Sit down and think about ALL the good qualities you have and ask yourself if you don't deserve better than what he had to offer. There are too many good people out there for you to worry about the past and especially about a jerk that cheated on you. You'll look back in time and be darn glad your'e not with him. I know how much it hurts to give someone everything you have and have them rip your heart out and then treat you like you are last weeks trash. You just got rid of a very shallow person. Be glad.. good luck

Answer 3

Will suggest you look into talking to someone who is a professional counselor,or talk your minister or a school adviser if you have one.

As a friend of mine says, "If you want to have self esteem then do esteem-able things."

Getting involved in some organization that actually helps people might be a good idea, it would put you in contact with people who are actually trying to change people's lives. And it will help you get a different perspective on your troubles.

Answer 4

I´m so sorry you were hurt that badly. As hard to understand as it may be right now, the way he treated you has nothing to do with who you are. That speaks about him as a person: insensitive, cheater, unappreciative...