Ok, I know its crazy, but I'm seriously into my math teacher. I'm 14, hes 30, and I think he might be into me. I've had a crush on him since September. We hang out every free minute during school, he even sometimes writes me notes to be late or skip class so we can hang out. He lets me drink his coffee, he gives me money to get soda for lunch, he tells me about his problems and about his past, I tell him about mine. We email eachother alot, when I get sick he calls to see how I'm feeling. I know it sounds crazy, but could he be into me? I love him alot, and hes not married. Please help.
2007-01-29 14:13:13 · 38 answers · asked by None N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, as I said hes not married, but I didn't put in that hes seeing someone, also he has an 8 year old son. Just if this changes anything, although I don't think it will. Thank you all for your input, I will try to distance myself.
2007-01-29 14:53:34 · update #1
This is bad...You need to remove yourself from this situation...A grown man flirting with a 14 year old...If i was your mother, i would tear is eyes out and make sure he never worked with kids again...He could be a freak, have you thought of that??? He needs to be turned in before he does something to get you in trouble....
2007-01-29 14:18:36 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Wow. This is going to be a tough one. I am an teenager so im not much older than you and I know you don't want to hear this because if i was in your situation trust me I wouldn't want to hear it either. What is going on is wrong. He's 30 which means he could go to jail for what he's doing with you. I know this sounds dumb but you have your whole life ahead of you, you can do anything you want to. What's going to happen say in years when you two can legally get together? Is he still going to want to be with you or will he have moved on by then to someone younger or this or that you know what I mean. Not to mention he's twice your age and IM sure that someday you will want kids and things like that you'll be 25 and he'll be 41 almost old enought to be a grandfather. You'll wanna go out and party and have all the fun experiences girls get to have and he'll wanna stay home. I know yyour young which also means your vulnerable...one thing could lead to the other and you could end up doing things you later regret like having sex. You need to break this off now before you get attched any further and im not going to lie it will be very hard, probably the hardest thing you've ever had to do. But believe me you will see what I mean later, when your a little bit older. Please for your own sake end it now. :(
2007-01-29 14:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to separate yourselves....think about it...He's twice your age...though that may be number to you, but you need to understand that you are not legally an adult yet. If you two get involved any further, he will end up in prison, AFTER losing his job, when the truth comes out. The truth always comes out, no matter what. Trust me. It's OK to be friends, but it's not OK to be a "Item"...If he is being too aggressive with you and you really honestly think he wants something more than a friendship...you better run! He's old enough to know that what he's doing is WRONG!!! You're pushing life into the fast lane for yourself there and I know you're maturing faster as well, but you need to live life and not make the wrong turns as much as you can. Get away from the intimate thoughts and get real with yourself!
2007-01-29 14:27:54 · answer #3 · answered by Rmprrmbouncer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are looking for an answer that you already know, and you are also looking for someone to give you permission to pursue something that you know should not be pursued. Having a crush on an authority figure is very common for a young teenager who is experiencing puberty and is naturally prone to puppy-love. What is very concerning to me is not your feelings for your teacher, but your evidence that he may be returning feelings for you.
You may truly feel that you " love him alot," and I believe that you feel this way. I also believe that it will pass, as all puppy-crushes do. I do NOT, however, believe that your teacher is capable of feeling "love" for you. IF he feels a romantic attraction to you, then it is not love but it is the start of what will eventually turn into a very unhealthy and possibly predatory relationship. It is simply improper for a 30-year old man to be showering you with the attention that you wrote about, and it is my sincerest hope that you will talk to your parents or another trusted adult so that a problem can be cut off NOW, before it becomes something that we all see on a nightly news program.
For your OWN benefit, please put some distance between yourself and this teacher, and focus on your same-aged peers.
Keep your puppy-crush as a fantasy and do NOT act about it. Stop sharing your personal world with your teacher, and maintain a friendly but appropriately distanced relationship with him. Do not accept gifts from him, and resist the urge to take advantage of his affection (money, coffee, notes to skip class, etc).
Trust me - this is the best advice you can receive.
2007-01-29 14:20:04 · answer #4 · answered by poolshark21209 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're in big trouble if this man really is "into you" as you said. Sounds like he is paying too much attention to you for a teacher. Someone should report him because this is out of control. I have a fifteen year old daughter and if a thirty year old teacher paid that much attention to my daughter not only would he get kicked out of the school but I'd get the police after him too. You're 14 years old, do you really think that this man actually likes you ? That's completely sick ! Go after someone closer to your age. Be careful of this man.
2007-01-29 14:22:51 · answer #5 · answered by dd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is just gross. You are way to young for him. Look if you to are really into each other and start going out and stuff one or both of you would go to jail so stop this! Seek help from your parents. Look when I saw my mother's eye doctor and saw how beautiful she was, and i had a slight crush on her but did I start going out with her? NO! I didn't. Why? Because I am 15(14 at the time) and it's illegal to date some one who is an adult whe you're a minor.
2007-01-29 14:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by zombiepirate_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can relate. I love my teachers even though they change its just who im with (like classes)...I guess i just really really like them even though im noticing them and they are noticing me. It sounds like he is into you indeed. Kind of inappropriate, but i know how you feel even though its not that extreme. Maybe when your older if you still really love each other you could be together but it seems so wrong. I mean the fact he is so much older than you and he has a 8 yr old kid..but maybe it could work. It just depends on the person and the situation.
Good luck.
2007-01-31 10:27:34 · answer #7 · answered by theflame_inside 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart,
You are 14 and he is 30! Enough said. You have your whole life ahead of you, Don't let this man ruin that.
I will not call what you feel puppy love because I am sure what you feel is real but this will NEVER work out and you will only get hurt.
As far as this man...He should be ashamed of himself! He should know better than to show feeling for his student...valid or not.
Do yourself a favor and let him know that it is not appropriate for him to call you or correspond with you other than in class and about schoolwork.
I do not want you to get hurt or him to get arrested! Stop it before it starts. If it is meant to be he will be waiting for you when you turn 18.
God bless you!
2007-01-29 14:22:25 · answer #8 · answered by Jalyn24 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Even though he's not married it's not a good idea to be directy emotionally involved with a teacher. You're only 14, even if you two decided to do something consensual, he can still go to prison for statutory rape.
So, if you really care about him, you won't continue with this relationship. It can get both of you into trouble.
2007-01-29 14:22:21 · answer #9 · answered by daryavaush 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he might, but i don't think this is a good choice for you if he did love you. it could ruin your life. i think the situationn is a bit diffrent. maybe, since he doesn't have a wife, and due to his morals, does not have a kid, maybe he thinks of you more as a daughter. the one he never had. he loves you, but in a family sort of way? sure boyfriends might do the same kind of thing, but i think math teachers have a bit more brain to not permit themselves to fall in the kind of love that would lead to marrage. he could be fired and sued and rejected by his community. just try to think of him a bit diffrently, as a friend or a father or an older brother that you truely care about. i send good luck your way and i hope everything works out for you.
2007-01-29 14:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone about this. Your teacher has definitely crossed a line There is nothing wrong with being friends with a teacher, but as an adult he should take control of his relationships with his students. He is also twice your age and more experienced, your young,vulnerable and don't know what love is yet...so talk to an adult.
2007-01-29 14:28:29 · answer #11 · answered by sweetpea101588 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋