My mom went into the Dr. the other day complaining of stomach cramps. A hospital stay and lots of tests later they found a mass on her pancreas and spots on her liver. Theyre going to get the results of whether it's cancerous or not soon. I pray to God it isn't, you dont know how hard i pray. I didnt ever used to pray, but when shoved face to face with a life threatening illness, you start to. You start to hope, and pray,and wish, and try to make bargins with God. Ill do this or this if you just let her live till old age. Id do anything for her...Anything if it just meant that she would get better. Id take her place if i could.
Everyone takes their parents for granted, including me, and i feel like crap for doing so. I used to get so upset with her for trival things, now it doesn't matter. It should of never mattered, i was just to selfish and to big of a ***** to realize it. I dont want to lose her like this. A mom is supposed to help plan your wedding, help decorate your house, and help name your grandchildren, and make life just a little more difficult in between.
All i can think about now is going home and taking care of my family, not study stupid chemistry! If i could i would withdraw from all my classes and start at henry ford next semester, or wayne state or whereever, it wouldnt matter as long as i was close to home.
Look up Pancreatic cancer and see what you find, and tell me you wouldnt be scared too.
So i guess the point to this note was to ask anyone reading it please put my mother in your thoughts. Say a prayer, make a wish, do anything. I dont care if youre not religious, i wasnt really untill now. Ill do anything for a miracle. Please
2007-01-29 14:08:46 · 40 answers · asked by alicia 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I will say prayers for you and your mother.
2007-01-29 14:12:20 · answer #1 · answered by ra63 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I will pray for you and your mom. We went through something similar with my Nanny a couple of years ago. Don't feel like crap for taking your parents for granted - it shows in a way that they were good parents for raising you and not asking for more. Make sure you tell her everything you are thinking now - make sure she knows how thankful you are for her and how much you love her. I hope you don't lose her now, but don't let this opportunity go by without expressing your feelings. If she makes it through this scary time, you will be that much closer. And if it's God's plan to take her back then you will have the peace of knowing that she heard what you needed to say (and if you don't tell her, trust me, she knows anyway). If you find out that the doctors have bad news, perhaps a semester or two off would be best for you - only you can decide that.
Anyways, I may not be a religious person, but I certainly am very spiritual. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and hope for only the best for you and your family. I have come to realize through the years that everything happens for a reason and we are never given more to handle than we are capable of. Now, go talk to your mom and be there for her in whatever way you can. Good luck and good health.
2007-01-29 14:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by RMT1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Request Granted - I think you are a very brave young woman to come on here and admit your faults as a daughter (we have all been there), its part of maturing. I also think it is wonderful that you are asking for prayers and positive thoughts. I am sending them your way, for both of you. I must tell you, 3yrs and 8 months ago, my sister was diagnosed with a cancerous tumor in her bial duct, they told her she had 6 months to 2 years max, and that was pushing it, thru the power of prayer, she is still here, and still has a decent quality of life, it is recently going down, but she has managed to get the things done she wanted to do before the end came. She just made a quilt for her daughter for the she marries. Shes not even dating, she just wants to be a part of her daughters wedding day. I think you understand that. I do hope things turn out for the best for you and your family. God Bless you and I will keep you in my prayers.
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Wow - Not only have I prayed for you and your Mom, Now I thank you. After reading your "question", and all of the lovely responses, I can't remember the last time I was so touched. The response to your families crisis, has renewed my faith in my fellow man. These were heartfelt compassionate words for you and your family, from everyone. If the question doesn't bring a tear, the thoughfulness of all of these people will. You are very blessed.
2007-01-29 14:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by MommaSchmitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry hon. I think you may need to prepare yourself for this likely being cancer. You know my son is 11 and he was diagnosed this summer with lymphoma. I know exactly how you must be feeling, and let me tell you, when it's your child it's even worse.
So yes, I'll say a prayer for your mom, and don't discount the power of prayer. My son is cancer free now and I owe it all to people's prayers for him and for us all. I hope and pray it will always remain that way, but nothing in this life should ever be taken for granted. It's sad that we only really come to terms with what that means when faced with something like this.
I will pray for you both, there is always hope with anything, and no matter which way it goes, remember that love is the greatest power of all and will always live on in your heart. I pray your mom will be around a long, long time.
Hugs.
2007-01-29 14:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know I'm really sorry to hear about your mother. And yes, I will keep her in my thoughts. Also if you ever need someone to just chat with about anything. Send me an IM. my computer is always signed on and I walk by it several times a day. (I'm a stay at home mom) and yes I understand what you mean about taking your family forgranted. I used to all the time. I took my dad forgranted and luckly I got a second chance to show him exactly how I feel. Now I never hang up the phone with him without making sure that he knows I love him. But anyhow my Yahoo Id is Dabarr57andmandy2006. I'm 23 yrs old and more than willing to be there for you to vent anytime you need it. Hope to talk to you soon. God Bless and I will keep your mother in my thoughts and prayers as well.
2007-01-29 14:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart is breaking for you. I lost my dad when I was 19 so I know how you're panicking. Relax, take a deep breath. You don't even know if it's anything to worry about yet. Don't think of dropping your classes yet. Take things one day at a time. I'm really close to my mom too, and I can't even imagine not having her. Although she's 65 and I know that the day will come. All I can tell you is that it's normal to take your parents for granted sometimes, and your mom knows how much you love her. My son is a teen and he can be very harsh towards me sometimes, but I know in my heart that it's just his age and that he loves me very much. So please know that your mom knows that you love and care. Guilt won't help you at all. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Just be there for her. I hope that everything turns out fine.
2007-01-29 14:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by true blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sure does take something like this to really wake a person up. My best friend lost her mother to brain cancer about a year and a half ago. It was hard for me to watch her mother go through all of the treatment and stuff and it was very hard to watch my best friend at her mom's funeral.Now her dad has to take care of her two younger brothers while she is away at college. It really does make you appreciate what you have. I will definitely pray for you and you mom. I wish you the best and don't for get to P.U.S.H. (Pray Until Something Happens) God Bless!
2007-01-29 15:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by Dawnigirl21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me start at the top... yes i will certainly pray for your mom and you....
my mom was diagnosed with and eventually lost to cancer after a protracted battle when i was young. my dad was diagnosed with cancer years later but beat it and passed from other causes recently. research and treatment today has come a very long way and a diagnosis of cancer does not mean the same thing as it did years ago.
do not despair. take all things one day at a time and enjoy now,without thinking too terribly much of what the future may or may not hold. don't make any drastic decisions about your education or anything else.
below you will find links to informational websites regarding diagnosis and information from johns hopkins and the mayo clinic among others. click here to read survivor stories... http://www.pancreatica.org/survivor_stories.html i hope it gives you hope...
2007-01-29 14:36:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you're going through; my mom died last summer from Parkinsons'. It was really sudden, and none of us were ready for it.
Remember, this is out of your hands. You may pray for her to get better, but you must accept whatever happens. My prayers are with you and your mom, and your family. Be strong for her! She's probably afraid, and needs you to smile and talk of trivial things with you're with her; be positive, and try not to cry in front of her. On the other hand, if there are things you feel you need to say, say them now while you can, regardless of whether or not she'll be okay. You know you need to say them, and you have a chance now. You'll be glad you did.
A friend told me about this prayer (I'm not very religious either). It's helped me through many difficult situations over the last few years.
"Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding;
In all ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths."
Proverbs 3:5-8
2007-01-29 14:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what your going through and yes God is a good place to start. my prays and my heart go out to you. Please remember that no matter what happens that look to God he will help you through anything in your life as to taking care of your family. I am just getting ready to go to college for the same reason my parents needed me and it was really hard to think they wouldn't be there for me on some of the special days. But my prayers are with you take care God Bless!
2007-01-29 14:18:13 · answer #10 · answered by california girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will pray for you...
Just remember no matter what happens, don't beat yourself up for what has happened in the past. Live for today, live for you mother today. This may be something that is not life threatening or you could be faced with the hardest point of your life. Don't give up hope and don't blame God. We are human, some live a long time, some die without taking a breath.
Be glad that you have had a mother for this long of a time. Love her every minute.
2007-01-29 14:14:57 · answer #11 · answered by therazorsx 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋