try not to be mean ok.
before i start: this is about a guy and i am not sure if i like him or not. but i know that i did like him before this happened.
I see him every two months or so just to visit because my parents are friends with his parents. Every time i see his face my heart becomes so happy and exited. he would always look at me and i would give him a smile. I saw him last week and i looked at him, i thought wow this guy doesn't look cute after all. a few minutes later my dad said it was time to go so we got ready and said good bye. wile i was in the car i thought oh.... my.... gosh i want to see him again. yet i was confused to why i wanted to see him.
can someone please explain why they think i reacted this way?
now i cant decide whether i like him or not. oh yeah and he doesn't look at me any more he just passes me.
2007-01-29 14:08:32 · 15 answers · asked by Female 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Welcome to the world of young love--this happens to millions of kids the world over--nothing new under the sun. What you and everyone faces is what's called " attraction"...we all go through it. We all look and see someone who attracts us for one reason or another. And what you see and feel and how you react to it all helps us all to mature and make decisions later on in life. Just in general terms, girls and guys will mature and handle lifes issues differently. What you want to aim for is self confidence and integrity. This just helps you make your decisions and it boils down to the old lessons of right from wrong and just being nice. You will eventually find that you see a person and get to know them---only to discover you really aren't attracted as you thought you were. But you still just be nice and smile and be civil about it. If you are young, this is all normal and will be a maturity builder. You form you won honest opinions and do what is right for you...no one runs your life when you get older--so learn to do the right thing now!! All the things you write about in your question are confusing to you--but they pale in comparison to the other issues that will spring up later in life. And life is more than guys and dating. Right now, school is your number one concern---your whole future is dependent on it. Guys will always be there in your life---how you act is a matter of self respect, dignity and confidence----don't give this guy another thought. If what you write is all factual---you better move on and see what nature does later---can't worry about it now---he may not be ready for you or any other girl for that matter. Or the shock of him not being interested in you at all---it does happen so get used to it. Be nice, smile and enjoy your life. Good luck
2007-01-29 14:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I once read somewhere, that no matter what changes about someone or how old they get, most people will remember you how they first saw you. So if you saw this guy for the first time and thought "Wow he's really hot" and then saw him maybe years later and he wasnt your type anymore or you werent attracted to him anymore then youll see him and think "Wow he's not hot anymore" but when he's not there in front of you, you'll still have that image of the first time you saw him.
And maybe he doesnt look at you anymore because he's too embarrased. Maybe he's trying to sort out his feelings. And I know that a lot of people are going to say "Go for it" but that's easier said than done, so do what you think is best.
Good Luck and I hope you end up happy either way.
2007-01-29 22:18:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want to see him again because the connection you feel. Everyone thrives on that happy feeling you get when you see the person you cant get out of your head. You may think hes ugly now, but that feeling you got before while looking at him isent gone. In a way, its an addiction. You cant help but want that feeling again and again. Even the ugliest of men can be the one who makes your heart skip a beat, looking for that one moment you had once before. I wouldnt go as far as saying its love, But i sure do think Its a strong attraction. I hope this helped :)
2007-01-29 22:17:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a case of infatuation. in order to know if you really like him, you need to get to know him. you talk about looks between you both, and fluttering in your heart. so, yes, something about him or the idea of dating excites you.
you could always ask him out to the movies.. see if there's any other connection between the two of you.
if he's interested, he'll flirt a bit. if he's not even looking at you, that ship may have sailed.. but it's no big loss, because you'll have that feeling with many other guys!
2007-01-29 22:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by blinker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe if you go my a guys looks your in trouble. What he is inside is what will make you happy or sad. Do you like a lot of same tings. can you just talk. My be next time flirt some with him then try to get alone with him and talk. Yes talk not make out
2007-01-29 22:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by sara a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe now that he doesn't look at you, you want him. Its that you want what you cant have...Now just because dude isn't cute, believe me girl, looks don't matter a good man is hard to find...If he is nice and good to you, wouldn't you want that and not some good looking uncaring guy???? If your interested try talking to him, maybe he to cant figure out whats going on between you two...Take a chance, the rewards may be great and you wouldn't want to miss out on a good thing...Good luck... :)
2007-01-29 22:37:42 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not just talk to when while ur visiting ur parents?... Say hi.. how r u doing?....
Honey sometimes appearence shouldn't matter. Maybe his attitude, personality got to you. Like they say..."Love is blinde".
Talk to him... take that chance....if nothing happenes atleast you'll know..but until you don't try getting a conversation with him, you won't know.
Best of Luck
2007-01-29 22:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by latinapr1229 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could like him for more than looks. Girls usually aren't attracted as much as guys are visual. Maybe he thought that you pushed him away. Just go and talk to him, start a light conversation.
2007-01-29 22:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by yaabro 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mind is changing...you are growing up. It's part of the confusion of it all I am afraid...Just keep it the way it is for now and see how you feel when you see him the next time..Maybe you aren't as interested as you thought because you are maturing .
2007-01-29 22:14:59 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Minnie Mouse♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although you may not really be that interested in him, your curosity stems from why he is not interested in you. Yes, your heart may flutter in one minute and then think he isn't all that the next....but perhaps you don't want him when you think you can have him, and then maybe you do want him, when you think he doesn't want you???? Something to think about.
2007-01-29 22:19:09 · answer #10 · answered by LisaLou 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋