As an alternate to abortion, if they have a friend that is willing to take the baby? Maybe kind of like a permanent babysitter? or is this totally illegal? I mean, it's the mom's choice (if she unmarried, parent's choice if a married couple decide to do so?)
2007-01-29 13:54:08 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
FYI. I'm the one who wants the baby, I'm trying to talk a friend out of abortion... so don't get all snappy with your answers toward me thinking you know what's going on, ok?
2007-01-29 14:17:59 · update #1
There have been people who hand a child over to family/friends and walk away. However, there is nothing to stop them from coming back and taking that child. Especially if there was nothing done legally. The best thing to do would be to have her rights terminated and legally adopt the child through the courts.
My dad and his twin brother were given to another family to raise. His birthmom was young, parents would not allow her to keep the children, so they were given to someone else. They were never officially adopted in any way.
2007-01-30 03:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by totsandtwins04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes a parent can do this. The mother can give legal and physical custody or guardianship to whomever they want. Usually the state will want to check out the home and family, but the laws are different in every state. Adoption is also an option, but usually you will need both parents to sign off on it, as you are signing all rights to that child away forever, and the state will want to check the adopting family out. Again, consult a lawyer in your area to be sure of the specific rules. I have heard of people that do what you are calling permanent babysitter(usually a grandmother taking care of her daughter's child sort of thing), but the babysitter will not have any rights as far as taking the child to the doctor, deciding health issues, signing up for school or day care, or any other thing that requires a birth certificate and does not show that person's name as a parent or other documentation that shows legal guardianship. Sometimes you can get around this by the parent going to the place and signing documents that allow the babysitter to make decisions for the child such as health or school decisions. If this is for you or a friend I would strongly recommend that you consult a family law lawyer that specializes in this sort of thing to find out what the specific laws for your area are. Good Luck
2007-01-29 22:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by experiencedmotherof4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the friend can legally adopt the child, which would be much better than just keeping her all the time. anything is a better alternative to abortion!
if there is no legal adoption of the child or no signing over of custody, the parents are still completely responsible for the child, financially and otherwise. the parents and the friend should talk to a lawyer about this.
2007-01-29 21:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would be a good alternative to abortion. It would be a hard decision but when you consider the consequences.
This kid could grow up with a teen age mother who has no money no education, no job and no chance to get an education to get a job. The baby would be raised by this one and that one.
If a mother could do that and find a family that has two parents and he is working and has a good job and they love and take care of it. Isn't love being about to do what is best for that person? I think the really loving mother would want what is best for her baby. Realize she wasn't it and find someone that is.
No a resentful grandmother but a real parent. Or parent's.
2007-01-29 22:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by Steven 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its legal its just not advised, because of any change of hearts down the line, there needs to be terms outlined before hand and make sure every one knows what they are agreeing to. This can be done personally also, adoption etc.
If you are the donor of the baby and if you have in your head "some kind of a permanent babysitter" then I suggest you let the person know that this is how you view it. This can be done also, just make sure EVERYTHING is up front, best to have it in writing and hence best to have it legal. People change, and when a baby is involved, people change alot. So keep this in mind.
2007-01-29 21:58:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You would still have to go through legal adoption process. Not only the mother would have to sign over rights but the father as well.
2007-01-29 22:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they are. The only thing is it has to be done legally. Whatever
friend is willing to accept the baby shouldn't have any problem paying what it will cost for any and all paper work. I wish you the
best just remember once those papers are signed you can't go back on it.
2007-01-29 22:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by Williamstown 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kind of.
They sign over custody.
My parents had "temporary custody" over two of my cousins for years. The papers just kept being resigned and all that every few years or so. (I believe. I never paid too much attention to how often the papers were redone).
I just know it was heartbreaking when the parents decided they wanted the kids again.
2007-01-29 21:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honestly i think if the 2 couple are together or not they should both agree to this. both parents have just as much rights to the kid until custody papers are done. if you gave your kid to someone else not through the court system the other parent can take the kid away. you can get who ever u want to give it to to go through the court system to adopt the baby.
2007-01-29 21:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by chad_27292 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not without a lawyer involved ... if you want to make the adoption legal. It's regarded as a "private adoption". I think the prospective parents would be a little more at ease, if the adoption were made legal. :)
2007-01-29 21:59:21 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Carol♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋