How would you feel about that? He isn't being cheap, he just simply thinks that the diamond deal is superficial and that a simple reflection of your union and love is more appropriate. How would you feel about it?
2007-01-29 13:28:39 · 25 answers · asked by fslcaptain737 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would feel indifferent. The diamond is traditional for engagements and then the wedding band is what makes the union final.
2007-01-29 13:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a diamond girl...I prefer black pearls;)
Seriously though, if I accepted a proposal it would have nothing to do with the ring. I would be quite certain of the character of the man I love if I were to accept. If a man proposed to me and I knew it was right, I could care less what the ring he gives me looks like. I would never be with someone cheap, though. There is a difference between being able to afford and not being able to afford an expensive ring, and since I am marrying the person and not the ring and can take care of myself, it wouldn't be an issue. Now, if I guy knew I loved diamonds and he had lots of money and he went cheap on me, that would be different...because than it would be about the principle rather than the ring itself.
2007-01-29 22:32:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the woman. If she is fine with it then bye all means buy her whatever you want. Some woman may believe that a diamond is a symbol of long lasting love, never know. some woman don't really care if they have a diamond or not, some just like a band. I would like one but if I really loved the guy and he could not afford it I would not get upset. Especially if he knows what I like and just can't get it right now. It is the thought that counts and if he sees how much you really like diamonds, maybe he will get one for you down the road. I hope it all works out and that you both are very happy together.
2007-01-29 22:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by lost angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm... I would feel two ways about it. On the one hand, he has good reasons to support his choice. On the other, it is not so romantic.
Perhaps you can take a clue from the way he lives his life generally. If he has a generally nonsuperficial, simplistic attitude toward most material things, it would seem perfectly normal and within reason. If not, then it's quite possibly a little strange.
But, don't let the typical romantic ideals get you down. The meaning behind the ceremony is what really counts in the end.
2007-01-29 21:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by JustTalking 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should find out what she thinks about diamonds. Does she agree that they are superficial... like you said. Personally if my boyfriend proposed with no rock, I'd be very dissapointed. And Silver, come on, at least platinum if you are not gonna get a diamond. But that is my opinion.
2007-01-29 21:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would rather a simple band truthfully. it seems more appropriot for me. but it all depends on the girl. never base it on your own beliefs or assumptions when it comes to it. even though you might think a diamond is inappropriot, the love of your life might think differently. she might want something flashy, or she might fall in love with a sensual band like you are offering. it would be advised that you ask your love what she likes in jewelry. just saying. hope it helps....and if you are thinking about asking a special the "question" than good for you!! have a happy life...if not you and someone else, than woohoo for them!! if just a simple question, nothing intended than....sorry I got so excited. still hope my answer helps you.
2007-01-29 21:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by teardrop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get her thought about it in an unobtrusive way. how does she look at jewlery in the mall? does she go to the diamonds and stare, or does she look at everything the same way?
me, i did want an engagement ring, but it didn't HAVE to be a diamond. my friend got an amethyst (favorite color is purple) in the center, and some diamonds on the sides. i got a larger diamond in the center, with smaller ones outside (hubby picked the setting). i love it, but if i didn't have it, i wouldn't be divorcing him!
everyone is different-tradition is a diamond, but if you aren't a traditional kind of couple, then go with what you want.
you might want to go with a white gold band instead (i think it keeps its shine longer).
2007-01-29 21:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit being cheap. Diamonds are a girls' best friend! Get her name tattooed on your finger instead! jk You don't have to get her a diamond, but depending on the woman, she will probably be expecting one. If it is about money, then get her a least expensive jewel, but I would propose with her birthstone gem instead of a diamond if I were you. That is just as good. Or you could even ask her fav. gem in a random conversation with her. Good luck and I hope she says yes!
2007-01-29 21:35:59 · answer #8 · answered by asya 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If that is all you got then that is all there is.I don't think people that love each other worry about rings.My wife and myself got married with a ring from a pawnshop 26 years ago.When I got the money then I got her a nice set of rings and gave them to her as a surprise,she cried.So it doesn't matter what or how you start out it is how it ends up,if you know what I saying.
2007-01-29 21:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by Douglas R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In MY opinion as long as it comes from the man and it's meaningful I could give a care less if it came from a pawn shop. I know alot of people who have plain bands. I think it's all about your choice, and what u can afford. But don't go dirt cheap like $50 K-mart special.
2007-01-29 21:33:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋