i'm 14 and i had been going out w/ him for 6 months. we were really into each other. but, today, he broke up with me, he said he liked someone else. we use to talk for hours on end. he use to tell me how wonderful i was and how he loved me. but then, it's like, POOF!!!!! and he dumps me. i'm really sad, i've had to hold back tears. but worse part is...he broke up w/ me over e-mail. i don't want to diss him, he's too nice for me to do that, but how can i get over him? he was my first boyfriend and maybe it could be easier if he hadn't have been, but he was. if you can chomprehend any of this please tell how i can get over him and move on. it's so hard.
thanks.
2007-01-29 13:25:29 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
heeelo??? i'm 14 and in the 8th grade!!! i don't trust online dating!!! i'm not of age yet!!!!
2007-01-29 13:28:57 · update #1
i'm 14 and in the 8th grade!!!! why in the world would i have sex?! eeeewwww!!! i was raised better then that!!!!
2007-01-29 13:30:08 · update #2
Well the first break up will mean a lot and hurt the most... Hang in there you are very young and you are not the first nor the last person to go thru this. This may sound very cliche but time will heal... It's o.k. to cry and be upset you need to get all of that from inside to help you cope and bring closure to this bad chapter in your life. Try to surround yourself by close friends and family.. Anything that you can do to take your mind of him would help. I know it would be hard in school but keep your head up and show him that you are fine with or with out him... You must keep your pride up. He will know that he messed up by how he broke up with you.. Keep your head up...
2007-01-29 13:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by Xica25 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhh first time huh.... It's going to be hard but you just have to cheer up. Don't let him get you all stress out or feeling this weird feeling inside. I would say just relax and tell yourself I had a good experience. I'll move on because other girls was once in my shoes and they seem to manage moving forward. Take a rest and now think about what you are interested in and get involve. If it's sports great, play some sports. What ever it is the can help you have a fun time do it and you'll latter on get over him before you know it. I hope everything turns out fine for you and take care. You better not do any stupid stuff like suicide now lol kk.
2007-01-29 21:35:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy when it's your first bf and it's going to hurt for a while. He's too young to know what real love is. You're lucky you were going out for 6 months, some boys don't hang around THAT long. You're off to a good start being able to have long conversations with a boy. He's your first but he won't be your last. I'm sure you've heard that but it's true. Continue to be yourself and be friendly towards him. You had to have a first bf sooner or later and the first times generally don't last forever.
Hang in there. You will cry but you will get over him. I'm sorry you're hurting.
2007-01-29 21:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by momma mia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 14 - you have so many heart breaks to come!
First of all... "i don't want to diss him, he's too nice for me to do that, but how can i get over him?""
Honey...he dumped your ****, he aint that nice!!! You should absolutly diss him. 110% diss, diss, diss!
Like you said , everything was fine then poof! you have to realise he isn't all sweet and roses. He used you. Then dumped you. And the fact that he dumped you over email just shows how much respect he actually had for you - - NOT!!! This guy is not a guy, he is a boy. A stupid boy.
Sorry if this is harsh but you need to hear the truth.
It's hard to lose that first love, it'll take time but it'll happen.
Just think, our only 14...you have so many years of life in front of you. And i bet in a few years you won't even remember his name.
This is just a small bump in the road of life...
2007-01-29 21:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Moz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At your age this happens. Believe you me i was there once. Its not the end of the world even though it feels like it at this point. I would never let him see you being down. You dont want to start your life out being a victom. Maby next time try being a little more aggresive. Seems like guys like those kinds for some reasons. But dont be so down about it. You must have been special to have been apart of his life for a short time. So just keep being yourself and smile. Life is really beautiful. How you react in a situation determins the outcome of a situation. Be positive and good things will follow.
2007-01-29 21:32:18 · answer #5 · answered by redfirecracker2007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Eat a bowl of ice cream first, now watch a sad movie, now watch a stupid that's so incredibly stupid you forget all about the sad one. Now try telling him to at least come tell you in person its over so you could work things out face to face. I know its really stupid what guys that age do, my best friend just got dumped by her boyfriend who tottally loved her - he said she had personality and she was more than just a pretty face - and then the next day he's going out with someone else.
2007-01-29 21:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through, and we all have to go through it. I was engaged to a beautiful woman a few years back, and she broke off the wedding by sending me an e-mail during the super bowl. It takes time, but each day you will start feeling better, but I won't lie to you and say that it won't hurt everytime you see him. Soon you will find someone else and totally be into them. You are still quite young and will probably go through this again.... Just keep your chin up.
2007-01-29 21:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard, i've been there, but only three years. The only cure, sorry to say...is tears and time. Don't diss him or anything, it will just come back at you, he hurt you, it hurts, but don't make it worse. But think of it this way, you had fun with him and you enjoyed being with him. Be happy you got to be together for a time. Learn from this relationship, take what you have learned and use it in your next relationship. I am sorry for you, but everything that happens makes one stronger for the next.
2007-01-29 21:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by mike g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let yourself feel your feelings for now. It's okay to be upset and heartbroken. That is a part of life and part of growing up too. Just don't let yourself obsess over him. Realize that him not wanting to be with you has nothing to do with you. That may sound weird but it is true. It is his own stuff that caused him to make this decision. So don't think that there is anything wrong with you. Journal your thoughts and feelings and keep yourself busy. Surround yourself with friends and don't miss opportunities to flirt with new guys. If you do all these things you will be over him in no time!
2007-01-29 21:30:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I remember that spot.
You probably will always miss him from time to time.
Theres a lot better guys out there.
It's hard at first, but you'll be okay.
Stay strong and act like you don't care.
When you do that... they usually come running back.
So the you can show him who's boss.
Go on a walk with a good friend.
Have a girls night out.
Just keep your head up and be happy.
STAY BUSY. It'll keep him outta your head.
GOOD LUCK.
2007-01-29 21:32:25 · answer #10 · answered by Hil 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋