My boyfriend and I haven't kissed yet. Today he tried twice and I turned away. Idk why. He just said your loss. I guess I was afraid I would mess it up since he's more experienced than me. I've kissed other guys before and I know the basics of kissing. I just feel kind of akward when it's with him though. And no.. it's a great relationship. we used to be bestfriends. I just want it to be perfect. How can I get over my fear or what should I do?
Thanks =)
2007-01-29 13:19:50 · 7 answers · asked by Hil 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when he leans in honestly just lean in with it, go with it and everything will take it's order, if you dont you may regret it in the furture
2007-01-29 13:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just sit him down and expalin to him that you feel a lil bit intimidated by him because he's had so much more experience than you have, and you just want things to go totaly perfect because this is a big important step for you. Tell him that you feel a bit weird about it because you dont want to come off as a bad kisser, and that your really nervous. If he is a good boyfriend then he will understand, and be more patient with you and your fears...
And about him saying " your loss" ... I dont think that he should of gotten mad at you for turning away, but i also think that he acted that way was because he felt turned down, and a bit rejected, so he had to act like he didnt care at all when every one knows that he cares a whole lot ...
I know that everything will turn out to be fine!!! Every girl goes thur this. I mean i didnt have my frist kiss till i was 18 because i was so scared of being bad. Then i met a guy, i told him i was scared cause i dont want to be bad, and he totly understood and kissed me very slowly, and it was amazing!!
Good Luck ... you'll do great!!
2007-01-29 21:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by shellz23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He said "your loss?"
I don't care how good your relationship is, for him to say that just makes him look like an "a". If he was a cool guy, he would be more understanding and want you to take your time.
Maybe the fear, in the subconscious, was that he made you feel rather inferior and in turn scared you from kissing.
I say find another guy.....especially if you feel that you are worth something :)
2007-01-29 21:25:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want it to be perfect, but you could lose him if he gets the impression that you are not interested. Turning your head could affect his ego (it sounds like it did). I would just start kissing him softly, and let him lead, so you can learn what kind of kisser he is. Every guy kisses very differently, and your types of kissing will blend together. Don't worry so much!
2007-01-29 21:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all good girl I was the same way when I first kissed my man I kept turning awaytoo,I really wanted it to be perfect.What makes you feel comfortable and relax?Play some romantic music or go somewhere with a beautiful view that will make it really special.
2007-01-29 22:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by Angel wings 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww I'm the same way, I won't just kiss anyone and the moment and the mood as to be perfect. Kissing is special, make him really want it. Just take things slow, only use tongue if you're comfortable with it.
2007-01-29 21:23:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i felt the same I wanted mine and my boyfriends kiss to be perfect too... I was so nervous but finally I got over my fear and just did it... I would say that you should just go for it... just kiss him.. if you guys really like eachother a lot it wont matter... you both should enjoy it
2007-01-29 21:26:07 · answer #7 · answered by lovinlifeandhim7 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋