Depression?

Question

I no longer feel joy, happyness or any form of which, I feel as though it has been ripped from my soul, I feel that no one cares but lies saying they do, i feel alone and unloved. I feel as i should give up all hope for it will never change. I have talked with my parents the only change: It's worse ... what should i do? This had recked my life and is on;y making it worse I can't find any solution to it but deatrh.. and now i'm pretty much welcomed to it as all hope is lost for me though there may some light if something you say can work

Answer 1

Well, you're certainly not alone. Just be thankful that you were able to experience *some* joy before.

When spring finally arrives, I will be spending more time outdoors, in the mountains, away from it all. That has been the only thing that has helped me in the past. Try that, even if it's only for a weekend retreat, and see if it works for yourself.

Answer 2

If absolutely nothing gets you above neutral, then yes, you're depressed.

First, try to figure out if a particular event, such as a friend leaving or the death of a loved one, kicked it off. If so, dealing with your feelings about that event should help.

Second, see if an environmental change might have kicked it off. Some people get very depressed in winter, or if they don't sleep or eat properly (I know it sounds minor, but not for everyone).

If nothing has happened, then how old you are comes into it. Most people who develop spontaneous depression start somewhere between mid-puberty (considered early-onset) and about age 30 (adult-onset). If you're a teenager (implied by the parents comment), you're going to have some problems getting people to take you seriously, because it gets written off as "teenage angst".

However, if you are even starting to think of death as a good idea, you need to at least talk to someone, and possibly get medication. I don't know nearly enough about your situation to give specific advice as to how to proceed, but the general formula is to find someone you trust and get it across to them how serious the situation is. The goal is to go see an objective psychiatrist, and get a diagnosis. If you are depressed, talk therapy is always important, and medication will help you see some joy in life while you work out coping mechanisms.

If all else fails, most major cities have some form of public mental health care, and you can go in on your own behalf when you're 18, possibly younger, whether your parents are supportive or not. If your parents are being dismissive, try to get them to let you go for a diagnosis if nothing else. If you have to, frame it in terms of "I'll stop complaining if the psychiatrist says it's normal" and make sure you trust the shrink. Don't try to be brave, just be honest.

As for "tricks", I know a few:

Remember that you do not make important decisions while you are emotionally unstable- the more depressed you are, the less you should be letting yourself make any major decision, with suicide being about as major as it gets.

Avoid anything that pushes your mood down, no matter how "silly" it is that it bothers you. How you feel is what matters, not how you "should" feel.

If you can get the privacy, letting go and crying, screaming, pretty much anything non-harmful to let the emotions out is very painful, but you feel a lot better afterwards- you don't feel as "full" of pain.

Any activity you can find that is fun, again, no matter how "silly", go for it.

Don't cocoon. Make yourself go outside, sleep at night and be awake during the day, eat on time, and so on. The more you let your body rhythms go to hell, the worse you'll feel.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I would see a Doctor as soon as possible. It may be a chemical imbalance.
Also, write down 1 or more things that you are grateful for in a journal. Such as, a warm home, food, your sight, etc. something that was fun or that brought you joy in the past, what ever it is just write something. Start your day with that. And most important pray. I wish you the best of luck. Life is good and it can be again for you. God Bless.

Answer 4

Don't ever think about suicide. Death doesn't solve anything. You can go through this. I know you can. Just don't give up on the world. I've been through the same situation before and now I'm a really happy person. Just remember that in every bad turn in your life, there are bound to be something really good waiting at the end of the corner.

Answer 5

There is always hope, my friend.

In life, change is certain. Nothing stays the same.

Most people feel depressed at some point in their lives. Sometimes, it is a passing phase. For others, the battle with depression is lifelong. You are not alone.

But you do need to seek help. Get professional counseling. See a medical doctor. While it is good to turn to friends and family, they don't know what to do and they can't always help. That doesn't mean they don't care. They just don't know what to do or say to help.

Why can't you believe that you are loved? What would someone have to do for you to believe you are loved? Sometimes, we have expectations of others that are unrealistic. Just because people don't do what we want doesn't mean they don't care about us.

What would you say to a good friend or loved one who told you she wants to die because she feels unloved and depressed? I'll bet you'd give her some great advice. You're kinder to others than you are to yourself.

First, love yourself. If you stood outside your body and could see yourself, what would you tell yourself? Would you hug yourself and give yourself words of encouragement?

You'll be surprised at what wonderful things are around the corner for you. Here's a secret: You have the power to create the life you want. No happiness? Create it. Create happy times for others. Create love and give it to others with no expectation of getting it back. It always comes back a hundred fold.

But do seek medical help. Sometimes, our brains need a kick start with seratonin levels, etc. and short term medication works wonders.

Good luck!

Answer 6

honey, i know you feel like letting go, but this is only one page in the book of your life! you have so so much more ahead of you, why stop now? You will never know what you missed if you kill yourself. I have gone through depression before too, trust me I wanted to give up, but then something inside of me woke up and I realized life is worth living way more. I suggest listening to some healing music maybe emo or punk/rock music. I like the song "Pain" by Three Days Grace. Listen to it, you will relate to it in SOOOOO many ways. Also, instead of death, why don't you write ALL of your feelings in a journal, where noone can find it? Don't do anything dangerous, don't risk your life..just let it all out. And, maybe you can also talk to a counselor in your school, and ask them to suggest a psychiatrist. (sp?) made especially for depression, talk to someone. death is NEVER the answer. You have such a bright future ahead of you, please don't throw it all away. Take my advice, AND HANG IN THERE!

I pray for you. HUGS!! xoxo.

Answer 7

I really think u should see a docter, or mabe, on the more healthy side; join a church, or go more often. Dont be afraid to ask your priest, or close friends. Believe me, i had gone through this before, and let me say, the Lord helped me get passed that pain. Or, something beyond that, a physcologist would be a good idea.- i hope my information has helped you.God Bless

Answer 8

1. Get a physical.

2. Get counseling

3. Should the above deem it necessary, take anti-depressants.

4. Make sure you're exercising. I personally have burned off a ton of anger and depression on my bicycle, running, lifting, etc. It doesn't matter if you're any good at it, it just matters that you're pushing yourself until you're tired.

5. Make sure you're eating right.

Answer 9

You are loved and if you suicide those people that love you will suffer because you suicide. I know life is hard but trust me there are people out there that have it worse then you, and that is the truth. Just try to keep yourself up and hang in there. If you need someone to talk to email me and i'll make sure to reply to you as soon as possible.

Answer 10

death is not the answer

my friend too has been in much depression lately

her close, close friend moved to NY and a week later was found dead in the bathroom

her boyfriend robert was skateboarding with her, but landed on his head from a jump and got in a coma.

her uncle has cancer and has 6 months

her aunt has canecr

robert got out of the coma, but said it was her fault...he died 2 days ago..for blood loss *he was cutting him self* a trama to the head, and beacuse he took some pills.

and this morning she told me that her cousin juan who has been with her through all of this , as have I, text messaged her that he was coughing up blood, went to the doctor and... that means bad news...

after all of this she tries to smile, and i pray that she wont do anything to herself, just like you shouldnt either.
Because maybe to the world you may be one person, but to ONE person you may be the world.
hope this helps.