I think I want to still be with him. It is a long distance relationship. I am his first girlfriend but he is not my first. lets just say he doesn't have that much experiance with girls. anyway. I'm not sure if i want to break-up with him or not. I'm really confused with my feelings. I don't know if he still likes me but if i break-up with him i don't want to crush him. I still kinda want to be friend but not have a weird akwardness between us. anyway. HELP?????
2007-01-29 12:47:08 · 27 answers · asked by jEN 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how far away does he live... i doubt there will be any awkwardness if you are a distance away from each other. best thing to do is actually break up with the guy after thinking it through. if the only thing holding you back is crushing the guy's heart, then do it. it will happen, especially if you are his first girlfriend, but since you have this knowledge you could let him down easily... but there is no way around crushing him. but if you are starting to become bored, tired, or just distant from the relationship, it is far worse to stay in the relationship, for the both of you.
it will be awkward for some time obviously but in a week it will be good to speak again. but remember think it through if breaking up with him is really what you want to do since even you seem unsure. don't stay in the relationship just because you are afaid of hurting the person... but don't be cruel about it either. yeah, it's hard but it happens all the time.
2007-01-29 12:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by melloncollieromance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have doubts then its only going to go down hill from there to be honest. I've done long distance and i don't mind it; I like the fact that you miss one another. But if your not sure perhaps its best to talk to him. Don't let things get to the point of being weird or akward. I'm not to sure about you; but with some of my past boyfriends and lovers I've actually been friends with them before hand. If you really like this guy, but don't love him... Then let him know and also try and work on the friendship... It might take a while, but i think it can be done!
2007-01-29 12:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably not sure of your feelings because you cannot experience closeness in a long distance relationship, unless you have a LOT to talk about that keeps you interested. I would say you need to tell him because you are so far away it would be foolish to try to carry on a relationship. If you can communicate in person, and both give 50 % then you might be able to give it another try, but until then, just stay friends.
2007-01-29 12:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by janeyw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you half to ask then something definately isn't right. Try talking to him, be open about your feelings. I know its hard but you half to do it eventually. Especially if you might stay with him. In the end, after talking, things don't get better or you realize he's really not the guy for you then break up with him. I know you don't want to hurt him but the longer you're with him the more it will hurt this guy. Don't lie to yourself or him. Allow him and yourself to move on if you feel its time. Don't keep it going if it doesn't feel right. Your heart can usualy point you in the right direction. Good luck!
2007-01-29 12:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous_alwyz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same here. I want to break-up with him but lies and friends, fellings and stuff like that have moved in and I don't know what to do!
I can trust him but I have to trust my BEST friends too!
Not much to do in a place like this so just try to find out whats really going on and tell your own lies and trust you as a friend.Say stuff you don't mean and hurt some feelings, thats the olny way to find the truth.
2007-01-29 12:52:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you want to break up with him? You say you do, but you dont want to crush him ( I understand); but breakups are usually never pleasant and at least one person often ends up heart-brokened! Once you finally find out if you really want to break up with him (make sure you know why and make sure its a legitimate reason)...tell him exactly how you feel; why it is not working and why you think you two would be better as friends instead of a couple...(and if you still dont know why you don't want to be with him and are still confused...tell him how you feel regardless...you never know how he is feeling too..)
--Keep me posted!
2007-01-29 12:52:01 · answer #6 · answered by Skip2MyLoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know that you are confused, so why don't you let your mind settle down first?
You answer is time and space at the moment...
Why not use time and space to allow your mind to clear up?
Ask or tell him you need some time, this will allow the both of you to figure out what you really want, if you still have doubts, then you'll need more time.
time shows us, time also guides us... time is giving you the chance to take it, are you giving yourself that chance to accept time?
Think about it...
2007-01-29 12:52:33 · answer #7 · answered by calv83luc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it's a long distance relation don't fret so much...tell him you have to buckle down (do they still use that term?) in your studies so you won't be calling him as much...
Make some space....try 2 weeks then 4wks...if your heart aches then he's a keeper!
2007-01-29 12:51:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 03:59:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A long distance relationship is only going to lead to heartache. Dump him now and find someone nearer!
2007-01-29 12:51:05 · answer #10 · answered by cane_my_bottom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋