my boyfriend just dumped me this weekend. he was the greatest person ever! i liked everything about him...I LOVED HIM! and i still do. he says he still loves me though which i dont get cuz if he loves me why did he leave me broken hearted? one of his friends was all haha you got dumped and that made me hurt even more. although some of his friends are like nice to me and are like oh want me to kick his butt and all that i keep saying no cuz it wasnt his fault. the nite we broke up we were both crying! i never seen my boyfriend well ex cry before! so i was slapping myself a few times in shock that he was crying and at the same time im pleeding him to think about what he is doing. so blah blah i was all i love you always and he was like love you too always and i sad 4ever n he said forever. but im still hurt. i cant believe im mean he said he loves me still everytime we talk he says he still does but what i dont get is why were not together. i've eaten 5 buckets of ice cream and now i feel like a ice cream sandwhich(no im not fat). so do you think we'll get back together?
2007-01-29 12:42:46 · 3 answers · asked by RAND0M CHiCk_♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, did you ask him "why?", and don't let him give you that "it's not you it's me" talk. Just try to get a hold of yourself, set your emotions aside as much as you can and just ask him (and the sooner the better) why did he think he should break up with you. Did he think it's not going to work out? Then why? Did he decide it's going too fast? How so? Let him explain, so you can understand and know what's going through his mind. From there you'll know if you guys might get together later and what to do.
Also, respect his decision, if he doesn't want to be with you right now, pressuring him won't help. Give him whatever space he needs (that is, after you had him explain what's going on).
Finally, try to change the way you look at things. When you say things like "I'm nothing without him", you show that you don't think that you are good enough for him. That's not true. Try to look at yourself, what all good qualities do you have? Are you cute? Are you nice and caring? Smart? I'm sure you have a lot going for you. Do a self-inventory and realize that a guy should be lucky to have you (now don't get carried away with that, and get all cocky, just know what you're worth). If you believe that you're the best thing for him, then with time he's more likely to believe it too. But if you are totally dependent and clingy and think he's way better than you, then he'll believe that too and decide to find someone bettter.
So to sum things up: ask him for a specific explanation, don't let him weasel out of it, let him tell you straight up what's happened. Give him space if that's what he wants. Re-discover your great features, have more confidence, understand your self-worth and he will too.
Good luck.
2007-01-29 12:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by yishor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you don't like yourself very much so why
would anyone else like you if you don't?
A guy isn't the whole world,& if you had any regard for
your own life or your family,you wouldn't be like this.
Get some self respect & learn to like yourself and enjoy
your own life,& when he comes back to you,Say No!
2007-01-29 12:48:37 · answer #2 · answered by Dyannah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you're not nothing without him. you were something before him weren't you? so you'll continue to be something after him. you'll probably become something even more to someone else after you move on
2007-01-29 12:51:01 · answer #3 · answered by B2B2008 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋