My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday afternoon. I have done some thinking and some talking and some writing and I think I have solved the problem why he broke up with me. The problem is that I know where he is but he won't return my calls, or texts or anything. I'm trying not to be pushy or over enthusiastic but I really want to tell him what has been going on. His reason for breaking up with me was he didn't want to come between me and my parents anymore. Well I think I have a solution in the works but I really want to talk to him about it. We have/had plans on getting married and everything but then this came up. I don't know what to do. Does it help to answer my question if you know that his sister was killed a week before Christmas? And he recently moved home to be with his family and now we are 600 miles apart. Any help would be nice.
2007-01-29 12:34:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
whoa, that sucks! well honey maybe he still feels sad about he's sister's death, probably depressed to call u back, but if u know where he lives know u might as well try to locate him and go to him, talk to him, tell him about your solution to your relationship. I suppose you've talked to your parents about your situation between you and your bf. They should help u out to go look for him, u know, to setlle things down between him and your parents.U could at least surprise him by paying him a visit where ever he is. Let's hope it's worth your time. good luck
2007-01-29 12:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by Einnavi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy and his family are trying to deal with their grief right now and this is no time to pursue any romantic relationships. Please leave him alone for awhile so that he can regroup before expecting him to discuss any problems the two of you might have to deal with. Losing someone close to you is an agonizing experience which cannot be eased too quickly or too easily. Your friend needs for you to respect his privacy and his pain so please back off and give him some breathing space, or you might loose any chance of ever getting back together again. Consider what he and his family are going through right now and put your own emotional position on hold for "their" sakes because sometimes it is best to put the good of others before ourselves.
2007-01-29 12:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 13:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people lose someone that close to them... the world turns upside down and they realize what really matters to them, and start re-evaluating everything and everyone that is a part of their life. From the way you worded this question, it sounds like you are being very selfish and worrying about what you want, rather than what is best for him. As his "future wife" he probably expected you to be the best comfort for him, and it sounds like perhaps you weren't because you are too self absorbed.
2007-01-29 13:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
woah thats sad... she lost her sister and now he dont have you... well if you really think that your love for each other worth marrying, then follow him where ever he is... you cant just let him go like that without fightin your love for him... he dont answer your calls coz he's still hurtin... maybe he dont really mean to broke up with you but he did it anyways... maybe thats why he dont want to see you for now coz... he dont want you to see him vulnerable... he lost his sister and he let you go thats a double tragedy for him... just give him a little time to think about it and if he still didnt call you back then follow him... tell him how you really feel and that he dont have to worry bout your parents... he really needs sumone right now... try reachin him... you might come handy.. ^.~
2007-01-29 12:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats probably up to him. he probably wants to be with his family over the trauma of his sister's death. you may just want to talk to his parents and tell them when he needs a shoulder to cry on you'll be there for him. that would usually work.
2007-01-29 12:39:53 · answer #6 · answered by sweetnstubbornsensitive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is probably stress, with his sister then ur family. he probably needs time to think and find himself. if u seriously think that there was no reason for a break up then just give him a little time to deal with every thing and keep callin him. i wish u luck.
2007-01-29 12:43:10 · answer #7 · answered by sweet143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your own sake,please let him go!
If you push he may try even harder to get away
from you. Try to enjoy your own life and stop letting
a guy be so important to you like this. Don't you feel
like life has alot more to offer than just this one guy?
2007-01-29 12:44:09 · answer #8 · answered by Dyannah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forget about him move on with yor life he is grieving if he wants to talk to you he will call.just leave him alone for now.
2007-01-29 12:38:13 · answer #9 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is doing that so he doesn't have to see you anymore.
2007-01-29 12:37:05 · answer #10 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋