So I cheated with a coworker and my now ex found out. We broke up then got back together got into a fight, broke up and I slept with another coworker that night ...Told them about it, now I am friends with the one a cheated with and the one I slept with and trying to get back with my ex.. My ex doesn't want me talking to them anymore, but I keep tell telling my ex that we're all just friends. My ex wants me to cut the two off, but I keep talking to them anyway.
2007-01-29 12:18:47 · 14 answers · asked by mike! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Grow up and move on. If you want to sleep with other women- go right ahead- but stop lying about it and trying to hide it. Either do what you please, or be in a relationship.
2007-01-29 12:23:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The serious issue in my mind is the caliber of people involved in this escapade. You all seem to basically lack in self respect--for yourselves and each other. That's your choice and ,as you will find out, not a nice way to be as you age and move on in life. Eventually you will find that hopping sex partners, for whatever reason, is risky in this day and age. Not to say your friends have a disease, but it is possible---and if they jump on you they will jump on anybody. So you might not want a disease to ruin your life. Oh, everyone says they won't get it -but they all say it from a clinic with a horrble sickness. Second, sex for revenge is certainly just as dangerous----shows a lack of communication skills and anger management. But you control your own destiny and if all you do is jump on people now, it probably won't be long before you change tactics to get even---physical harm or destroying their property. From what I read your ex wants to get back together---pretty nice but I don't know why. You both probably won't get past this issue of these other people--you will always be fighting about it---and fighting does not make a relationship very nice. In fact it is a stupid way to say you 2 are going with each other. My thought is these actions are or have been a part of your early lives and you all think that this is normal and perfectly acceptable behavior----here's a newsflash--IT ISN"T ACCEPTABLE. Take a look at couples who do get along without all this...then try to follow their example. Or admit you 2 really have NO future and try to start over with new people and don't do the anti-social stuff. You can start by always checking on what is right and what is wrong---if it is right DO IT if it seems wrong or sleezy--DON"T DO IT. Can this be any easier??? Good luck
2007-01-29 20:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your ex ? You want this person back, why? You chose your one nighters over this person. It is not fair to expect your ex to be tolerant of your cheating. If you care at all about this person then choose to stop hurting them with your infidelity. You both fight break up and you sleep with coworkers. This does not sound like a stable relationship. Maybe you and your ex need to part for a bit, at least till you can handle your disagreements in a better way.
2007-01-29 20:33:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your ex she will lose you if she doesnt deal with the fact that you got friends that are women. so i think you should keep your foot down.
or tell her if you cant hang out with these 2 women, pick her 2 best male friends and say she is not to see them 2 if she wants with you.
2007-01-29 20:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by Carlee D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made this question up didn't you? Would you want her to spend time with the men she cheated on you with? You are stupid for even trying to keep a relationship with them. She sounds kind of dumb for taking you back.
2007-01-29 20:25:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to leave your ex alone and go have sex with your coworkers. That's what you want anyway and your being a jerk. Grow up.
2007-01-29 20:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was her, I wouldnt get back together with you while you were working with them. You say you are just friends...but you saw them naked. Now, everytime you are staying late at work or something, she is gonna picture you having sex with them! She will have a really hard time trusting you again with both of them in your life.
2007-01-29 20:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by luvbrd81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your the one who made that an issue for her. obviously its not going to work out in the long run b/c if your answer to every problem that comes up between you two is to go find and sleep with another coworker, eventually **** is going to hit the fan.
2007-01-29 20:25:17 · answer #8 · answered by spicytruelove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and you expect that to work out how? i think you guys should just drop it. your obviously a no good cheater and shes never gonna trust you again so you'll be fighting all the time.
2007-01-29 20:38:02 · answer #9 · answered by imherewhatareyourothertwowishes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have to decide whats more important, ur booty calls, or ur girlfriend who loves u after u cheated.
2007-01-29 20:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋