I'm just going to type a long thing so people can give me a good answer. I'm 16, shy, don't have close friends, parents who I fight with a lot and arent the type of parents you discuss personal stuff with, anger management issues, short tempered, get down on myself easy, depression..........but this is the thing if i'm hanging out with friends which is rare-never i am happy and feel like im on top o the world...when im sitting alone 1,000 things/emotions fly through my mind which i cannot control the flow of and that hurts as well.....i also like a girl but kind of just want to be good friends with her but my shyness+my personality=hard to make friends so i have that all on my chest to...i think that covers about everthing, i just dont know whether to get help, talk more, just let it ride and see what happens in a month. thanks for reading this.
2007-01-29 12:07:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Relax and concentrate on your schooling and you will be surprised that the next few years of your life come together really well! You are a teen going through changes like alll of em! Hang tight sister and you will pull through!! Go meet new people at events around town or visit cousins you have and meet their friends!!
2007-01-29 12:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was painfully shy when I was in high school so I understand.
Now I am confident and outgoing.
Get less focused on yourself and each painful feeling that goes through your brain. Pay attention to the outgoing kids and how they do. I did and I realized I was so softspoken that no one ever heard me. I also didn't have confidence that anyone would listen. I had to change how I projected my voice. I had to join some school clubs, choir, etc. My last two years of high school I found the perfect friend. REally the older we get the fewer friends we have, because we know ourself better.
I also learned that some of the outgoing kids were more insecure than I was. They just dealt with it by talking all the time.
Realize that people don't focuse as close on us as we do.
Another thing I learned was to laugh at myself. Wow that works great!
Last........fake it until you make it.
You might be amazed at yourself when you grow up and look back at how you were when you were young.....
2007-01-29 20:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1) I understand, and Empathsize.
The book "Working with Anger"
by: Thubten Chodron helped me so.......much
to deal with impatience, anger, hatred, anxieties, irritability, my temper, and how to deal with the negative criticisms of others toward me.; bringing out my positive qualities !
2) Playing a sport has helped me to open up more with people, helping me to become a bit more friendly, and outgoing.
Being outside often also always brightens up my spirits.
3) When alone, I practice what is called the Mindfulness of Breathing, AND practice what is called Lovingkindness Meditation, I now practice the Lovingkindness Meditation daily as I Walk a half hr. a day around a nearby baseball field ! These two simple types of meditation help one to become more outgoing, less anxious, and more friendly ! It has helped me to overcome situations where I would might feel like a social outcast.
* Lastly, I listen to encouraging English, European Artists, = Music (I won't mention the groups), for we all have our own unique, excellent tastes in music.
I also do my best not to withdraw myself from others, from my shyness.
Meditation, especially has helped me transform my mind, it still is doing just that, to become more friendly, much more accepting of myself, it has helped to build up my self-image and
my self-esteem, has helped me to become much more Optimistic in Life, and has brought me inner Peace of Mind!
But whatever philosophy of life works best for you, go with that.
Hope some of the things I have shared
with you has helped some.
From: "Your The BEST !!"
2007-01-29 20:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have almost the same problem as you.if you feel like you can't talk to your parents then talk to your friends about it.if their really good friends they'll help you through.but if you need more advice or just someone to talk to you can email me at ashley360256 at yahoo.com
2007-01-29 20:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by tasiatime 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u know God he can Really help u through this.
2007-01-29 20:45:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋