"sue" is the perfect employee when the boss is around.first 1 to volunteer for extra work(for the boss),stays late to help the boss,always agrees with the boss,laughs at everything she says.sue even helps her outside of work(house hunting,man hunting)anything the boss wants she does basicly kisses her a---.now when the boss leaves its a different story.sue will spend all her time on the phone,will make me deal with any difficult clients,and will never do any "favors" for me.now the worst part is she will "throw me in" to the boss.for example some papers got lost and our boss asked her if she had seen them.sue told her i was the one to have them last.true or not(i dont think i had them)why would she throw me in like that?she does this all the time.when i asked her why she did this she looked at me snotty and said "well you did!" and walked off.i'm a single mom so i can't leave right now and talking to my boss will not work as they have become "great freinds"
2007-01-29 12:06:37 · 17 answers · asked by heather7martin56 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Every time she brown noses, offer her a tissue.
See how long it takes before she gets the joke.
2007-01-29 12:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Document your concerns by e-mail, create a file and save them in it, anything you send, anything you receive. I've worked at some large companies and this is what everyone does. Copy people on stuff too. It sucks but you have to document everything unless you are willing to leave. Get to know the boss a little, or her boss. You don't have to kiss *** to be political.
If you ask for help, send an e-mail, If it doesn't happen, send another and copy the boss. You can do stuff that sounds like you are proactive , but at the same time you are CYA and insuring it will get done and not be your fault.
If she says something smart a$$, send her an EM letting her know you didn't think it was nice, and keep it in case she ever tries to screw you. You document problems, she won't and if she tries to get you out, you have it in writing and all she has is words.
Find a job you like. If this wasn't six figs for me I wouldn't have stayed as long as I did. I can't imagine putting up with crap and biting my tongue if I didn't have to. Large Corporations you have no choice, you're just a number and the only thing they listen to is documented evidence.
2007-01-29 20:23:18 · answer #2 · answered by rob602pa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play that cow at her own game and give her something to do for you the next time the boss goes out - then in front of the boss ask her if she did it and when she says no or makes up some excuse your boss will see her for what she really is
2007-01-29 20:11:17 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come up with so many great ideas to increase the effectiveness of your business and watch 'Sue' wear herself out trying to do all these things to impress her boss. You may even get credit for the ideas. It sounds like 'Sue' is working hard but not smart. (Just a thought).
But really. You need to be able to talk to your boss. You have to believe they will be reasonable about the effective running of their business. (And not put up with a brown noser who doesn't perform when they are around). Make sure you have absolute concrete evidence of the slacking off.
2007-01-29 20:14:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your boss. Follow the chain of command. If the problem is not rectified then go to her boss. I would assure Sue is present when you talk to your boss. If you are not comfortable with that go to the human resource director and file your grievance in writing. They will instruct and handle the situation from there. Good luck.
2007-01-29 20:15:26 · answer #5 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough situation to be in especially for a single mom. just try to ignore her the best you can. if she is accusing you of doing things you are not doing then what you need to do is what i did when i was experiencing that same situation in one of my former jobs. keep a little notebook with you. write down everytime she accuses you of something, what happened along with the date and time. this way if the boss asks you about something that she says you did, you can show him that it is not the case. this will also work if she continues to do this to you and you want to pursue this further. just because the boss won't give you the time of day doesn't mean you are out of luck. as a worker, you have rights in the workplace. one of them is not to be harrassed. this sounds like harrassment to me. go above your boss's head to the next person and tell them about it and if that doesn't work or you get more retaliation because of it, you have the right to file a compliant against them for it. also talk to a lawyer about this. you may be able to sue for harrassment. the irony of this is the woman's name is sue and she might get them sued. stand up for your rights. no one deserves to be treated this way. boss's just don't have respect for their employees. they just care about themselves and people who kiss their well you know. there is a country song to support this. it is called "you've got to stand for something" by aaron tippin. i will recite a little bit of it for you but i encourage you to listen to it if you can. it goes "you've got to stand for something or you will fall for anything, you have got to be your own man not a puppet on a string, never compormise whats right and uphold your family name you got to stand for something or you will fall for anything." one of these days sue will get what she has coming to her. it is call karma. eventually i left my job because of what was happening with me and then and only then did everyone see just how much i did there and who was to blame. this may be harder for you since you are a single mom but if you ever find something better, they will miss you a lot more than you will miss them. i hope this helps. i'm pulling for you. good luck and hang in there.
2007-01-29 20:27:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think were ever you work there will always be a @sshole.
i think i would buy a mini tape recorder the tiny one that only comes on when someone is speaking, got 1 at walmart it tapes for 8 hours,place it were you can record the *****'s every phone call you'll get something you can hold over her it may take a while but trust me it will be worth it to take her down... best buys or target walmart about 40 dollars, it's small quiet and easy to hide, check it every night when you go home... oh there is a tiny red light on it put tape on it so you don't get caught...don't get mad get even,,, if someone f's with you do them 10 times over thats karma
2007-01-29 20:21:06 · answer #7 · answered by glitsyjewels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boss the truth about "Sue" and back up your statement with reasoning. like "Well I don't have the papers. 'Sue' has them in her desk. Look." or whatever. just make your boss believe that what your saying is true by giving factual statements to back it up.
2007-01-29 20:12:41 · answer #8 · answered by tombom_52 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to just ignore her behavior. Just do YOUR job. If you're doing your job, all that you're required to do - they you shouldn't have any worries. She and your boss seem to get a long. That doesn't mean you need to work late hours, or kiss butt. Just be nice to both, and do all that you're supposed to do. It will be hard - but telling on her, or complaining will only make you look bad.
2007-01-29 20:11:44 · answer #9 · answered by flippy00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would beat her *** but since you have kids i would just report her to someone higher then your boss, like his boss and tell him or her how sue has been treating you and that your boss doesn't do anything about it.
2007-01-29 20:12:06 · answer #10 · answered by Redd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋