I'm 20 and i just had a beautiful little girl who is 6 months old. My mother and boyfriend are always constantly pressuring me to not go anywhere. They make me feel as my life has ended. Im not dead, i just had a baby. I would just like to be able to every once in a while go out with the girls. Is this normal? my boyfriend says it is not, and he is always putting me down and talking down to me because im still in school and don't have a steady income. I feel like just leaving him, he makes me feel trapped. I really feel like a need space please help!!!!
2007-01-29 11:54:13 · 3 answers · asked by AndBabymakes4 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Even if it's just once a month, or once every few months, everyone needs a day to just be free. I don't like being cooped up in my house, and it drives me crazy when i can't do something. You have a life, so live it. Try talking it out with your mother and boyfriend and ask to have a girl's night out every once in a while, not all the time. And make sure those nights won't affect your schooling. Make sure everything is done and taken care of. But try to talk it out. Good luck!
2007-01-29 12:03:21 · answer #1 · answered by seashellie89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely normal. What is ABnormal is being holed up indoors for the first five years of your child's life, just because you are the mother. Let me ask you something: Does your baby's father limit his comings and goings since the baby was born? Most likely not. I'm not saying you should be all out in the streets all hours of the night, every night. I'm just saying that as mothers, we still need a balance. Sometimes we need to remember we have a first name other than 'Mommy,' but I digress. Best of luck to you. Getting out every now and then never hurt anyone. It will actually make you feel better.
2007-01-29 20:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it isnt wrong. and ur right ur not dead uve had a baby. as long as that baby is coming first in ur life than that should be all that matters. and sweetie if u do feel trapped then get out u cant feel like that and still see everything rationally. and i comend u for having a baby and still continuing ur education.
congratulations and good luck
2007-01-29 20:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by mommie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋