I am in a really happy relationship, we have been together for 4 months now. My problem is a guy i used to be friends with about a year ago, i know he just wanted me for sex which i never gave to him, but for the past 6 months i havent stopped thinking about him.
I know its unlikely i will see him again but i still keep thinking about him. I cant tell my bf as he can get quite jealous. Whats the best way to get him out of my head?
2007-01-29 11:53:10 · 26 answers · asked by Unhinged.... 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just think of ur bf whenever the other guy creeps into ur mind, and remind urself how much u love him
2007-01-29 11:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's not time for u to get him out of ur head ...usually when a women enters a new relationship she is focused on the new guy and in love with him and see or hears nobody else for atleast a yr ...it's been 4 months for u this no time really u r missing something in thsi relationship u r in now and u had it with the previous guy , u should sit and remember back down the road what it is u r missing now and u had back then and go from their maybe the previous wasn't just sex some guys like the girl to think like this to keep him from being serious until he is ready...
2007-01-29 16:03:48 · answer #2 · answered by LORI36 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are very much miss him and on a 'rebound' from not seeing him anymore.
You already know you need to get on with life and forget him, thats the first step taken! You know he only wanted to use you, so good on you for not letting him! You know you need to forget about him. Now ask, why do you still bring him back up in your conversations with your bf? What has he done to affect you so? You know you'll never see him again. BUT.............You don't really need to forget about him........keep him in your thoughts, as a fantasy or a special friend you miss. But of course don't tell your bf! You eventually just not think about him as much, you won't forget him, just you won't think about as much.
2007-01-29 12:15:06 · answer #3 · answered by ~Kitana~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way is that when that guy pops into your head, start to think of your bf instead.
Eventually you will stop thinking of him. He was an unknown - so you can fantasise and make him be anyone you want. But your bf is with you in the flesh. So appreciate him and enjoy what you have.
2007-01-29 12:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by kiku 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Human beings in general tend to remember only the best parts of people who are no longer in our lives.
There were good reasons why you didn't sleep with that guy, now all you have to do is constantly remind yourself of those reasons. Just keep thinking about all the bad things that he did and all the reasons why your current bf is better than that guy.
2007-01-29 12:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see, the best way to get that guy out of your head is through your ear right? LOL No wait, your mouth is a lot larger than your ear so the next time you think about him, shove your face into a pillow and scream at him and cuss him out. It may not get him out but it might make you feel better about it.
2007-01-29 12:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Beside try all the things here people tell you,,please try my way;We call it behavior modification;bring up those things associate to him;such as his pictures,his clothes at same time bring up those things you hate most and also create the situation make you physical uncomfortable,do it few time a day then see the result.
2007-01-29 12:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by brother3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at the possitive, you are in a happy relationship and not with the guy thats in your head, thats gotta mean something. concentrate on whats making you happy and if you feel you need to talk to someone and cant your bf go to ur girls, they'll soon fix you out.
2007-01-29 15:12:25 · answer #8 · answered by shell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a break from men - the current and the past. Work on yourself for awhile and make a few lists. What do I want in a spouse? What do I want for myself - goals?
2007-01-29 12:02:25 · answer #9 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, Get rid of anything that you might have around that can bring any memories of him. Next, whenever he comes to your
mind just be strong and woman enough to tell your brain, hey
I have someone right now and fight him off in your mind. Turn
your thoughts elsewhere. I know that you can do it.
2007-01-29 12:00:06 · answer #10 · answered by EVEI 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋