Please consider that I am not going after anything even though we lived in his house for 2 and a half year and that I worked full time while he has a better income then me. I am also ending it because he has been unfaithful to me.
2007-01-29 11:51:57 · 37 answers · asked by Lois L 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Keep it..............why? because he was unfaithful to you, he broke the promise, not you.
2007-01-29 18:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's one of those gender law issues.
If a guy is the one calling off the engagement, you would have the legal right to keep the ring since he did purchase it and is breaking "the contract".
However being that you are the one calling off the wedding, even if it is based on something he did wrong, he was the purchaser of the ring and could take you to court for possession of it.
If he does say that you could keep it, make sure you get that in writing with both signatures. That's your proof right there if he should change his mind....then hit to your local pawn shop or eBay and get some bucks!
2007-01-29 13:39:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe from watching hours and hours of The People's Court that the law in most states is that if the woman breaks the engagement she must return the ring and if the man breaks the engagement then she gets to keep the ring.
2007-01-29 12:00:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
From the detail you give over the financial arrangements between you and your ex, I assume that your motivation for keeping the ring is mostly monetary with maybe a little bit of spite? Doesn't sound like a healthy attitude for you in the long run.
If he paid for the ring, then I would say he has the right to ask for it back. If you jointly paid for it, then I would say it is yours and to keep it. . . but it isn't like you will be wearing it anyway. Let the anger go, and do the right thing.
2007-01-29 12:21:40 · answer #4 · answered by Sunflower81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Technically it was a gift to you, so you don't have to return it. But why keep it? It's just a remembrance of the relationship that didn't work out. Keeping the ring out of some feeling of revenge, like he owes you something, will not make you feel better. But being a good person and moving on with your life will make you feel better.
I'm sorry things didn't work out for you. I wish you a lot of happiness in the future.
2007-01-30 09:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you looking for a dramatic or simple way to break it to him?
Dramatic: Tell him you no longer want to be in a relationship with him and then say that you want to return the ring, or else it'll remind you of how unfaithful he was to you.
Simple: Tell him plain and clear. Say "I want to break up with you because things aren't going the way I thought it would." Then ask if he wants the ring back or if you could keep it.
2007-01-29 12:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. It's a promise of marriage. Once the promise is broken the ring is returned. It's his house, the fact that he makes more should matter if you had to work. You should have to. Sounds like you got two and a half years of free rent. You have no legal ground, break it off, return the ring, and move on.
2007-01-29 12:02:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am very sorry he was unfaithful. Good for you for moving on. To be the bigger person, you really should not keep the ring. It was part of an agreement for marriage, and since that is no longer happening, morally and ethically you shouldnt keep the ring.
2007-01-29 12:01:24 · answer #8 · answered by kate b 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is an unfortunate situation for you, however; keep in mind that it is better you found out now that he is a jerk instead of finding out after you married him. Although it is tempting, you must give him back the ring. You are a bigger person than he will ever be, show him that. Good luck.
2007-01-29 12:14:32 · answer #9 · answered by Mary 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Legally, it was a gift, so you can keep it.
Morally, it was a gift, given with the expectation of marriage.
Now you are beginning to understand that you don't "play house" with someone you are not married to. It's a mistake that many have made, but it's still a mistake.
If you want to make a clean break of it, give the ring back.
Good Luck.
2007-01-29 12:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by Bobby Jim 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
you say "you are about to breakup your engagement" the key word being "YOU".
give the ring back - look in any book of etiquette - make sure you do it with manners the manners of a mature adult that has feelings - but also - feels the need to end something - you dont feel you could ultimately complete.....like a lifetime committment.
don't let yourself get more mature and look back at an unpleasant situation - look back years from now "knowing" you did this with dignity and maturity. you walked away clean.
2007-01-30 02:53:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋