okay me and this guy been talking for 3months now and i have to say i fell in love, when i asked "can we take our friendship to the next leve?"l, he said he is not ready for one right now. I want him soo bad he is special than any other guy i met before, so how can i make him mine and ready for a relationship?
2007-01-29 11:20:13 · 5 answers · asked by dangerouslysweet_15 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have to make him ready then darlin he is not ready
2007-01-29 11:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only feelings you can really trust are your own. If you feel that you can wait to see if he is serious with you then wait. Being involved in war leaves life's questions a bit more magnified- his probablity of getting injured or worse are much greater where he is. He may feel that he doesn't want you to wait if this situation changes. Keeping your relationship on the "less serious" side allows both of you the emotional room to make decisions about your future. relationships need to nutured to inorder to grow and to move to the "next level". You may have the time and contact possibilities in ordder to do this right now. Consider keeping intouoch, backing off a bit to allow him time to consider the posssibility of moving things along with you.
Being "ready" to marry is always a hard question to answer. You are saying that you are willing to take responsiblity for another, and that can be huge when you are war. You are already taking on a huge responsibility.
2007-01-29 11:24:58 · answer #2 · answered by Ssarah Hopkins1012 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't MAKE anybody ready for a relationship. The best thing for you to do is to keep going like you are right now. Hang out and enjoy his company, be yourself, be honest and be patient. He'll eventually come around when he's ready. Don't push it or you will push him away.
2007-01-29 11:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you offered to him yourself and he rejected you and what? Yep! Just like every other one before you everywhere in the world as it has happened a billion or more times before and will happen a billion or more times after, you became overly infatuated with him. Take yourself away from him. He either needs you or he doesn't don't waste time where interest is not going to be given in return it is a one way street to dispair.
2007-01-29 11:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur Richards of Kent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's this article that tells you how to make anyone fall in love with you , like the way sofia did to daniel in ugly betty which is very funny but so true. it just needs patience and it may or may not work. my personal advice is be subtle, control your feelings, it may hurt but you need to give him space. he may be going through something but is attracted to you , or maybe he just doesn't want to hurt your feelings. i believe you shouldn't waste your time on a lost cause. you don't want someone who breaks your heart you want someone who takes care of you and wants you as badly as you want him.
if you want you can read this article and see if it works out
http://love.ivillage.com/snd/0,,qdtb,00.html
again i wouldn't hold my breath , i don't want to help you into something that will make you suffer , just help you with your choices.
good luck!
2007-01-29 11:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by sweet tooth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋