why do they hate me?

Question

im from the states i married someone who lives over seas so im living there till my husband comes to the states,my question is why is there so much drama on he said she said along with oh he/she said this that then lets confront him or her.i am having mad problems with my husband based on his mental psycho mom aside the point she lies to him about things i never do she picks on me according to her is trying to put me in my place.. do i have a place im from america shes from a 3rd world country should she be putting me in place but im not shallow i think every human is equal.she tries to rat on me as much as possible enough to get him so mad he stops speaking to me and tells me im no good. we have a son she told him dont have more kids meanwhile shes telling her daughters to have mad kids. the point is now i got my uncles wife who loves to gossip went at my inlaw house came back with news that my mother inlaw was gossping bout me but im sure she joined her

she swears on the holy books and cries while framing me.. so everyone believes her lies while innocent me cries and hopes for her to be gone

Answer 1

YOU NEED TO MOVE AWAY AND START FRESH WITHOUT ANY INTERFERING IN-LAWS.TELL YOUR HUSBAND YOUR GREATFUL TO HIS PARENTS FOR WHAT THEY HAVE DONE, BUT YOU JUST NEED YOUR OWN SPACE. I RECKON UR MOM IN-LAW IS JEALOUS OF YOU AND WANTS TO TURN YOUR HUBBY AGAINST YOU SO THAT WHEN HE COMES HOME HE WILL STILL BE HER BLUE EYED BOY AND NOT YOURS. SHE PROBABLY HATES WHEN HE PHONES ASKING ABOUT YOU AND THE ATTENTION YOU GET FROM HIM.

Answer 2

I hope the people that post on the immigration bit read this. It shows one of the problems marrying outside your cast can have. I have nothing against different casts marrying each other (if you see me and my family, you'd understand why), but you have to be careful who you choose.

Your mother-in-law is angry that her son didn't marry his own cast, she will do her best to break you up. She's obviously winning because your husband is listening to her instead of being a real man. If I were you I'd get out of the marriage, hard when you have a child I know, but your stress will come out on your child if you don't do something.

Put your music up loud if you can to stop the old witch getting into your home. Pretend you can't hear them at the door.

Answer 3

wow this sounds familiar ..first of all this is women from the third world country they have nothing better to do then gossip talk about what u r wearing ,what u eat where u shop ...and women in general r jealous of their daughter in laws because the man is the mama's boy and when a man gets married especially to a differn't race she is wondering what u have that their own women doesn't like for us for one of our men to marry from another race it's like a knife in our back ...u need to stand up to her and who ever else it is doing this to u and let them know u have a mouth tooo and can talk to neighbors family members or what not even ur husband needs to be a man and leave the tity alone thats it he is married now with a child would he want this stuff to happen to his kids when they get married especially his daughter ? Stir up some **** go talk to the neighbors that the mother in law watches porno or steals from the local store something juicy...

Answer 4

A real personal problem. People are going to be like that, so theres no stopping it. Have you ever tried talking to his mom? If not, try it. Dont be scared. If he cares for you in any way, he wouldnt believe his mom so often or at least take the time to talk with you. Point it, if you two have love, and i mean something you really believe in, I think its something you should try to hold on to and dont let anyone take it away from you. Not his mom or anyone for that matter. Love never fails and if you believe in it, it will believe in you as well. God Bless.

Answer 5

I suggest you hop on the first plane back to the states with your child (do not warn him you are going to). Then write to him to tell him to start procedures to come and join you. That way you will get away from his mother and her poisonous tongue. However, if he continues to put you down once he has joined you then you know he is no good anyway and you can dump him and send him home. At the moment the control in the relationship is with your mother in law when it needs to be with you.

Answer 6

I think you need to go home asap, sorry to sound harsh but this should not be happening your never going to win and all they will do is drag you down and down until you have no more fight in you for your own sake get out now while you can it would be better if they don't even know you are going. once you are home you can try and fix it with your husband if he really loves you he will join you but this seems like one of those stories you read about in magazines, contact your family and get out of there as quick as you can its for your own safety.

Answer 7

You are an american and you appear to be marrying someone from a totally alien culture.

Without being mean, are you SURE the attraction is not your american nationality? .. isn't he just after american nationality?.. I don't want to sound mean spirited but I can't see what else it could be.

I'd get back to the states pronto. No american woman should put up with this garbage.

Answer 8

make them both ex's......solve your problem by leaving him, because while there's a him, there will always be a her.....she's a nasty horrible little rodent, no better than a bog rat, who may be jealous of you....PUT HER IN HER PLACE.....stand up to her, tell her to stay away from you or better still leave and find peace somewhere else.....he sounds like a horrid person with a serious mental issue....just tell her to fcukoff and be done with it.....your husband is just as bad as her by telling you your no good...he does not deserve you...even though you have a child to him, would you like your child to live amongst that sh!t, because i know i wouldn't...leave them and get as far away as you can....horrible b*strds, they are bad mouthing you to your son...that is not right, leave them to rot...what a horrible family you are amongst, try treating them like they treat you.....bet they won't like it....turn the tables, do not open the door to that cow, tell her she's not welcome in your home any more, she does not deserve a family...and yes, she will die a very sad and lonely old woman

Answer 9

The sooner you get back to America the better.You must have had some idea what family life is in the country your in.The parents rule & you will never come first.

Answer 10

where in the world are you living? tell your mother in law you love your husband and you are going to love her too... and the more she tried to push you away the more you are going to ask God to make her love you :0) she better stop her tale bareing or her tongue is going to fall out :o( just kidding - too bad it won't -right?

I hope you get to come back to the states soon - so you can show your husband you love him and you are the woman he fell in love with...

I am going to pray for you dear!!!

Good night