How do u make a 3 yr. old kid listen?!?

Question

HE IS ALWAYS ACTING UP AND YELLS AT HIS MOTHER TELLING HER NO ALL THE TIME!!! WE TRIED TIME OUTS,SPANKIES AND TAKING AWAY TOYS!!! NOTHING SEEMS TO WORK OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

First try to find out what the cause of his behavior is. If it's nothing more than an extension of the "terrible twos," then the only way to combat the behavior is with consistent discipline. Time out is a good option because he may be acting up to get attention. Putting him in a quiet area and ignoring him lets him know that you're not willing to dignify his behavior with your attention. Taking away toys doesn't work so well, because children that age don't have a very long short-term memory. An hour later, he won't remember why his toy is gone.

Spanking can also work, but it may give him the idea that hitting is the way to deal with someone who's irritating him. If you decide to punish his behavior, the punishment should be immediate and consistent, meaning the same consequence every time.

However, sometimes the best way to deal with tantrums is to ignore them altogether. As I said before, he could be trying to get attention, so turning your back and letting him shriek and flail around until he's tired of it will send the message that you don't care for that behavior. If he's doing it in the hopes that someone will desperately try to stop him, then he'll stop on his own when nobody seems to be fazed.

Answer 2

it sounds like you are trying only negative reinforcement (punishments after the fact). try positive reinforcement: set the kid up to easily do the right thing and reward them for the behavior. every time they behave the way you want, put a star on a calendar, tell them when there are 5 stars they get a candy or toy or trip to the children's museum; if they are bad then take a star away. a 3 year old should be able to comprehend this simple concept, and positive reinforcement works way better and longer then negative. if you are feeling overwhelmed then it's better to ignore the behavior and calm yourself down before resorting to spanking and other punishments that will make the child resent you.

Answer 3

Using Caps on here means that you are shouting. If you are shouting at this 3 year old too then you are doing it wrong....all wrong.

Is this your own son? Because there needs to be praise with punishment and also patience and tolerance. Stop punishing this poor kid and start measuring out rewards for good behaviour. Also, remember that one of a child's favorite words is 'no' because they feel it gives them control. You need to listen and respond as well as punish, this kid is clamoring for attention so try some positive responses rather than negative ones.

A toddler will always rather be yelled at than ignored, sad but true.

Answer 4

The child is crying out for attention. Try going down to his level. Give the child a little affection not spankings. Be consistent with the child. Get a schedule for play-time, nap-time, snack-time and so on and so on. Children need direction in their lives and you as the parent should provide all the child's needs. Have a little patience, and you will reap all the rewards later. I have raised 3 of my own and they have done great so far. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 5

Give him back. Sorry, I don't want kids for those reasons. Watch that super nanny show, it's very good. I did see on dr. phil you should never spank them. I know my dad spanking me made a terrible impression on me and was painful (emotionally), it contributed to me being scared of him until I was 20 and along with his yelling and other things gave me not even low self-esteem; no self esteem! Maybe that's why I don't want kids. But it's hard not to because I see how it is with my step-kids. Maybe you could find that info on his website, it was only some days back, I think last week. I'm thinking he's looking for attention, is the situation at home healthy or are there a lot of problems going on that he sees?

Answer 6

Have you watched shows like "Nanny 911" and, umm, that other Nanny show?

What they say is you have to (1) remain calm (2) get down to his level (3) give him a warning (4) put him on the naughty chair (time out), 1 minute for each year of age.

Then you go and remind him why he was placed on the naughty chair, ask for an apology, give him a hug and move on.

There are books and books and books on these and similar techniques.

Answer 7

You need to show him that you are the one that is in charge..not the other way around. If spankings do not work then send him to a corner for time out. Do not let your 3 year old dictate your role as a parent.

Answer 8

if you say something do you carry through with it? a lot of times if you say "I'm counting to 10, I will tell you one more time" parents make the mistake of not actually doing it so then kids outsmart the parents. If you ask him/her to do something you could start a chart where they get a sticker if they do it the first time you ask, etc. That's all I can think of, it's usually a deeper problem so hard to tell just by reading this much

Answer 9

You don't make him listen, you teach him why he must listen. Talk to him at a time when things are settled down. Explain to him the reasons why he needs to change his behavior. Tell him certain behaviors are not acceptable in your home, and there will be consequences for such behavior. Make clear ahead of time what the consequences will be for each mis behaviour. i.e.(Toys will be taken away when they are not picked up. We will not talk to you unless you talk to us in a civilized manner.) Try as best as you can to ignore his bad behavior, reacting to bad behavior is a type of reward. At the time of the unwanted behaviour, remind him of the talk you had with him about unacceptable behaviour. Example: My 2 yr. old daughter throws a fit every time her grandfather drops her off back home after spending the weekend at my parents house. She doesn't want him to leave, and she wants to go with him when he does leave. After he goes out the door she throws herself on the floor, cries, kicks and screams. I let her go on with out giving her attention. I just make sure she doesn't hurt herself. After she settles down, I tell her the behaviour is unexceptable, and when it happens again she will not go to her grandparents house the next time. Explain it without using the word "you".
-Use "I" statments. ( I don't like it when the crayons are left out. - I don't like to be talked back to.) The consequences have to equal the behaviour and must be inforced and not just idle threats.

The process is called natural and logical consequences. It is based on mutual respect.

Answer 10

Call Maury Povich