I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now...he has been battling a pretty nasty alcohol addiction and about 5 months ago, I kicked him out and he finally ended up in rehab. He has done some awful things to me in the past and is currently cleaning up his act. It seems like the same old song and dance, but he is doing really good right now and is on a two year program that he is hell bent on completing. He wants me in his life still for support and eventually wants to see if things can work out with us again. I'm afraid that history may repeat itself and I will end up back at square one, but I really do care about him. Any thoughts?
2007-01-29 11:05:57 · 4 answers · asked by calina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is not something easy to deal with. It takes a strong dedicattion and patience. You have to be prepared for regression. This choice is up to how strong you are and how much do you love him.
2007-01-29 11:13:46 · answer #1 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 04:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
number one..there is NO SUCH THING as an ex alcoholic. They will always struggle with addiction the term to use is recovering alcoholic. Even a person who has not had alcohol in years is still considered a recovering alcoholic.
Secondly, good luck. I was married to an alcoholic for nine years and it was miserable. No matter how bad i wanted him to not drink and no matter what i did...it didnt help.
If your boyfriend is getting help and is not drinking AT ALL...then i say give it a shot. If its the well only one six pack a week wont hurt crap...this is wont work. I have been through it all, heard all the excuses. Just keep in mind, if there is ANY drinking involved, the reason why they did it is usually a lie to you and themselves. I feel for alcoholics because it is a terrible addiciton and the funny thing is that they are usually the nicest people(except when they are drinking). Any way. it is good that you are there for him and to support him, he needs this. Just dont take the continued excuses if the drinking continues.
2007-01-31 17:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't care for him then don't stay with him. If you actually did love him would be a different story. Being there for him as a friend might be a good idea. don't stay with someone you don't care for.
2007-01-29 11:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by Waythere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋