Im thinking about becoming a stripper...?

Question

Im 25 and just graduated with my masters...im pretty and obviously well educated...im having trouble finding a job...there are too many professors already in this town...this weekend i went to a strip club with a shy male friend...i actually had a blast...see i used to be very religious and modest...i got married young...he left me...im in a good relationship now...or at least better than before...i got up on stage and danced (with clothes on of course after paying a dancer)...i personally love to dance and have been considering going to their amateur night that is tomorrow...have i lost my mind? Please either try to talk me out of this or be supportive...and please dont be smart im not an airhead...im thinking about money and dancing and just trying to sort this out and figure out why im suddenly fascinated with that world...

Answer 1

It's probably a bad idea. If you're having a problem finding a job now, being a dancer is not going to make you more hirable.

If you just want (or need) to explore this world, then do what you have to do. But you probably should consider doing it as a hobby, but not as a profession. I guarantee the money will not be as good or as easy to earn as you've heard.

If you do go into dancing, you ought to think of it as a temporary position. You will almost certainly be getting pushed out by younger women by the time you're thirty.

So, once again, I think it's a bad idea.

Answer 2

It's a tough choice to make, specially since you have a good educational background. I think that before you jump into the general conclusion of becoming an exotic dancer, you should try checking out other options that meet your needs and most of all, that appeal to you entirely. You could try go-go dancing, or auditioning for broadway shows, I don't know, there are lots of alternatives out there.

The real facts about being a strip dancer is that society does not comply with it as a "real" job, specially being directly linked to sexual issues, and for that, you could face a lot of discrimination about it; if you do choose to follow that path, be aware you might encounter this, as well as a lot of disrespect from others towards yourself. You could have issues with your family, and friends around you that might not support you with the idea.

Yet I've always said in my life that if you don't live it, you'll never know if you were up to it or not. You could try out for the amateur night, see how it feels like. Just make sure that you're ready to take off your clothes, not intimately, but in public for a bunch of spectators that might not respect you for what you are (masters degree professional) but what you look like for them (a sensual woman taking her clothes off).

I have a couple of friends that do this for a living, and as I have seen, it has been a VERY tough road for them, and has basically changed them emotionally.

So, whatever the choice you make, just always remember that the path that has been given to you in life is a wonderful path, and while there's nothing that says where you're gonna end up, it is in the end a choice only YOU can make, so try to make that choice on what makes you happy and fulfilled, alright?

Good luck and I hope whatever the choice it is that it does work out for you! :D

Answer 3

Okay, stripping may sound thrilling and exciting, but don't do it just because you can't find a job. You have a master's degree and you've graduated- you've got a full life ahead of you that could be successful and fulfilling. Even if working as a businesswoman doesn't exactly seem riveting, it'll still work off better in the long road. It's not the only way to earn money while doing what you love. Maybe you could get a steady job and after you've accumulated a lot of extra money, you can take dance classes.

Answer 4

I think you should go for it. You are young, intelligent, and in need of paying of those nasty student loans. More so, you are finding yourself fascinated with something new. Allow yourself the freedom to experiment and investigate this interest if you are not going to be hurting yourself or others by doing so. This is definitely the kind of thing you want to get out of your system now while you can.

Just keep in mind that it is a tough job and can easily jade you. You don't want to stay in it so long that you end up acquiring a slanted view of life. Do it as long as you are still having fun. Lots of intelligent girls have used the opportunity as a financial springboard.

BTW, the most intelligent girls I have run across in that business know how to work people without flashing around their brains and degrees. Let your intelligence show through naturally, don't give in to the need to draw attention to it and you will garner more respect.

Answer 5

First thing first. How is your other half going to react to you dancing? Will it take a toll on your relationship? Are you willing to let that happen? On the other hand, if you don't do it, you'll always wonder what would have happened if...? It is a totally different world. How will you react if your recognized outside of the club? Is it something that you could be proud of? Something you wont be ashamed of telling people what you do for a living? That includes your family and friends. Is the money really worth it? Sorry, I haven't really tried to talk you into or out of doing it, but if you answer these questions, it may help you come to your own decision.

Answer 6

My ex kind off went through the same thing that you are going through right now. She needed the money and she wanted to make it by herself and she considered stripping, easy money, she loves dancing and she likes talking to people. And I'm not a jealous guy, we talked about it and I told her she could do it. But I did warn her that in that industry it is really easy to fall into maniplulation and you can find yourself doing stuff you stood against, and for you to survive you have to be really strong willed. She took my advice and whenever she was being pulled into that bad side of that world she had me keep her focused on why she was there, for the first month or so things were great until, she started to change into someone else. She started arguing with me a lot, she told me her dancer friends told her to leave me, she started doing coke and other stuff. And what happened was she pretty much turned into that sterotypical dancer, and she even thought about doing porn. And we ended up breaking up and I watched her life go down the hill. But anyway I didn't want to discourage you with that story. But if you do need the money that bad, go ahead and do it but have a strong support group to keep you away from those things that will mess you and and your relationship. I'd say go to work, dance, talk to people, make your money and leave. One thing I should off told my ex was don't let those girls get into your head, don't let them give you relationship advice. If you think about it if you are a stripper you get hit on all the time by rude customers so at somepoint you become bitter towards men and no man becomes worth it. So they could get you out off a good relationship and led you down a bad path. But I say really think about and if it is what you need to do and can do go for it. I hope I helped.

Answer 7

I do not believe it is in the heart of a young lady to take her clothes off for money in front of strangers.

So why do they?

Some ladies know they are hot, and they feel they can dominate
Some ladies are thinking about the money
Some ladies are very hurt and they have motives because of the hurt - they want to prove this, or that . . . or they feel like they are worthless - almost a slow suicide.

Do not do it. Do not get into "the life" - it leads nowhere - it leads to drugs, to crowd out the voices that scream "No" - it leads to prostitution - someone will offer you more money than you can turn down - it leads to thinking that all men are "dirt bags" . . . after all that is who goes into those bars - men that are "dirt bags", so it goes with out much thinking . . . men are willing to give me money for taking my clothes off? Dirt Bags!

Move.

If you're having trouble finding a job, go to the jobs.

Find God . . . you need some help. When you gave up God, you entered a deeper and darker place. The way forward is down the ladder.

They way up, is turn around and go back while you have a chance. For your own sake, turn around

I'm twice your age, and I know what I'm talking about. I've been up and down those streets . . . it is not a place for a LADY . . . but believe me, they won't let you stay a Lady . . . they'll set you straight quick!

Answer 8

I used to be a dancer. I quit two years ago. Trust and believe when i say that it ain't what it seems. If you are not willing to go the whole mile then don't start at all, boo. Guys only wait for the right time to see if you are going to prolong with taking off your clothes. They get tired of seeing clothing and want to see a little bit more. Especially, if you say you dont have a job, then you have to do what it takes to meet your goals. It's very addictive and the money looks great once you get your feet in the door. Don't fall in cause i had to pull out. It ain't worth it.

Answer 9

There's no quicker way to add to your list of problems, than to become a nasty dancer!! Yeah, the money is said to be good, but what about this supposed good relationship? How long do you think a GOOD man will stay by the side of a woman, who has to reduce herself to a naked gyrating disgrace? They sell stripper poles that you can erect in your house, if you feel the need to do this type of dancing. & I know there's other jobs out there, I just saw 400 local ones & I live in a small town. Girl, don't do this to yourself, unless you want people smirking as you pass by, guys gawking @ you, & all of your female friends suspicious of you sleeping with their men. Did you become well educated to purposely make yourself look stupid??

Answer 10

I don't think you lost your mind.
in fact a close friend of mine went thru the same thing a couple of years back. she went for it in the end only to quit after a week.
she liked the attention and very much the money -- and there is good money in it but the reason she decided to quit was the owner of the club expected her to do privet dances and she did not want to dance over a horny guy that gave her the creeps not to mention let him touch her.
plus I don't think being a striper is a very fulfilling job especially to some one with a master degree..