I work with this guy and he's really nice, but he likes me a lot. I think he's great as a friend, so I don't want to hurt him but I really need him to stop liking me!! Is there anything I can do to let him down gently?
2007-01-29 10:49:47 · 19 answers · asked by she_smiles123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he's gonna be hurt no matter how it plays out but you want to soften the blow, right? Well, you just need to be honest with him - maybe so as to not bruise his ego so much, let him know his good qualities and that there is someone else out there for him.
2007-01-29 11:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by mauinei34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the same problem except the guy who likes me is pretty creepy. If I were in your situation, however, where I don't want to hurt a nice guy, I would just ignore him when he's flirting, still be friendly, but keep that distance and he'll eventually get the point. If he's mature (and thus, worth keeping as a friend) he'll understand, probably be disappointed at first, but move on and not jeopardize the friendship. Good luck!
2007-01-29 10:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by abby j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, no gently be abrupt! The whole I like you as a friend thing in a gentle manner sucks big time! A clear I don't think of you that way and if you can't handle us being friends then we need to stop talking..is more in line, it wakes guys up.
2007-01-29 10:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By not helping him, any attention he gets could be mistaken as " she really likes me ". Im not saying be rude but keep it brief for enough time for him to get over it on his own. There is no gentle way, we all know how much it hurts when we learn the object of our affection doesnt feel the same
2007-01-29 10:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by Curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even think of it, any effort will mean that you think about him in some way and that is enough reason for him to persevere. So if you want out, just tell him once and stick to your words. He'll eventually get to understand that there is no going back. Without you trying to help him... get it.
2007-01-29 10:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by agboola f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That comes across as a conceited question- just being honest. I was going to give you advice but its just too much of a turn off. Get over yourself is probably the best advice
2007-01-29 10:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by Oz Billy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg. im havin the same prb.
but try to not tlk to him as much cuz i think thats wat keepin him from movin on cuz wen he tlks to you he relizes more of why he likes you.
also u can just tell him that u dont like him in that kinda way might hurt him but hell get over it //
also u can try to find another gurl for him
2007-01-29 10:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by yeekn0e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you just aint feeling him in that kinda way dont say it all mean n all thats the one way to make somebody mad at you is your tone and when you do it and where you are at. so just use your head ... he probably knows by now that you aint feelin him ... ya digg!!
2007-01-29 10:55:01 · answer #8 · answered by doggy_pile11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that hes a good friend but thats it and you have no relationship feelings for him like that
2007-01-29 10:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by daniel a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you love someone very much and that there is no place in your heart for somebody else
2007-01-29 10:55:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋