I just located his mother and she confirmed that in fact, I was his father. I am very excited about meeting him. Please only respond positive suggestions. No need for anything negative towards me or the mother. Thanks!
2007-01-29 10:49:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anxious father 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Good for you!! I love to hear about reunions like this. Be COMPLETELY honest. Your feelings, history, everything. This will be the best way to build a foundation for a healthy new relationship. Your son is nearing adulthood, treat him that way with the respect you would want for yourself.
If your not sure at any point what the right words should be, let him lead. I'm sure he will have lots of questions.
Have fun getting to know each other. Find out what you have in common.
Good luck-
most of all, let your heart guide you.
You obviously have a good heart by your excitement to meet him.
Wish there were more of you out in this world.
2007-01-29 11:06:39 · answer #1 · answered by jessnbethsmom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
congratulations and it's wonderful that you are excited at meeting him. just open up your heart and your arms when you see him. tell him how proud you are to have him as a son. that your never knew he was and how happy that you have the opportunity to meet and get to know him - let him know that so many years have been wasted by not knowing each other - through no ones fault but circumstance - but you have the rest of your lives to get to know each other and be there for each other. tell him that this is the happiest day in your life to know that you have him and that you hope you both can get to know each other and trust and love each other forever. i wish you both the best. think and talk from your heart and it should be wonderful for you both. good luck.
2007-01-29 11:49:45 · answer #2 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well congratulations. That's exciting. Just try to relax around him. It is going to be awkward and 15 is rough age to being with. I would just focus on learning more about your son. Ask him a lot of questions about himself, like what sports he likes, etc. When kids talk about things they are interested in they tend to open up a little more. Best of luck to you!!!
2007-01-29 13:31:59 · answer #3 · answered by NoTurningBackNow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have no idea how happy i am to meet you! (make sure he knows that you are so excited and happy to be his father) tell him you would like to get to know him better, and suggest a time or place to get together (visiting for dinner, going out for lunch, etc) invite his mom 4 the first time too, it will make him more comfortable. dont expect a positive response right away, remember that this kid doesnt even know who u r, and all the sudden he finds out u r his father.
2007-01-29 11:11:51 · answer #4 · answered by sj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and answer any questions that he may have regarding the relationship that you had with his mother. You cannot get back those lost years but there is still time to establish a relationship with him. Good luck!
2007-01-29 12:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats great! U are both going to be nervous---so just try and keep it simple and build upon this 1st meeting----ask about his life--what he does, what his interests are etc.... good luck
2007-01-29 11:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do Your Best *BUGS BUNNY* Whats Up Doc...?
2007-01-29 10:54:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋