Would you consider this rude?

Question

My brother and his wife left a couple days ago on a flight out of state to see her family. Two days before they left his wife called us and said to please get their luggage out of my shed, clean it up and have it ready for them to come over and pick up for their trip. Well, we did this and waited and waited on them and they never came. Then they left on their trip without calling or coming to get their luggage. This was a total of 4 suitcases and a carry on bag. I thought it was really inconsiderate and I wonder what they used for luggage. It was a new set (they just got married last year) and I don't know of any other that they had. Weird.

For the person here who asked, no we have not heard from them since they left on their trip. They will be gone another week. I am thinking of dropping them off on their doorstep to be waiting on them when they get home to see.

Answer 1

~~~Yes, it was very rude of them,,,and I like your idea,,,,yes drop the suitcases off at their front door. You were just being thoughtful and delivering them ,,,,,and gee you havent heard from them, so you thought they were on there trip,,,,,,

Answer 2

What???? Not only is the luggage stored at your place but she also asked you to clean it for her? What are you, their maid? Yes this is rude and inconsiderate! When they get back, contact her and ask what's up, unless she has a real good reason (to not even call? in this day and age of all the cell phones???), ask her to pick up the luggage so you can use your storage room for something else & won't have to be their 'bel boy' again.

Oh, and address *her*; from your question I can't make out if your brother even knows anything about the whole thing. So it may not be fair to attack him on something he may not even be aware of. If he is, by all means tell him you don't appreciate being used this way, but find out first!

Answer 3

Well, yes, it is quite inconsiderate of them, especially since you dug it out of storage and cleaned it up for them. However rude it may be, I wouldn't further the situation by leaving it on their doorstep because you know all about the "two wrongs..."
Instead when they do come back, I'd calmly ask what happened and that next time, a phone call would be appreciated, and then be careful how far you go for them next time. For example: Sure, I'll get it out for you and you can come over and pick it up (but don't go cleaning it) since you have too much else on your plate.

Answer 4

I think that was very rude. How could they ask you to clean it up and have it ready and they don't even show up. I would have been very upset. I think you should just keep the luggage so when they get home you can tell them off!

Answer 5

Never mention their rudeness. Instead, the next time you see them say something like: "Oh, hey! I was so glad you guys reminded me about that luggage in our shed. I'd forgotten about it but now realize I could really use the space it was taking up. Would you mind coming by and picking it up soon?"

If they say anything other than "Yes, certainly" You ask if they don't want it any longer because you'd be happy to donate it to somebody in their name. Make it plain that its leaving but be nice about it. That way they can never complain because you are doing them a favor.

Remember this the next time they want anything from you.

Answer 6

Of course it was rude. The first thing was simply asking you to do something of that nature, and the second was neglecting to contact you further, plus ignoring what you had done for them. There was no reason that they could not have cleaned their own luggage and taken it with them. Now you have random luggage with which you don't want to deal.

Answer 7

Yes, it's rude! When you ask someone to help you, you thank them. If you've made other arrangements, you still thank them and apologize for the inconvience. You went out of your way to do something your sister-in-law should have done on her own time. Next time she asks you to do something for her, I don't see anything wrong in saying, "Mary, I'll be glad to help. But the last time you asked me to help you out with your luggage, you never showed up. It was not the best use of my time. I just need your assurance that you've thought through all your options and this is the best use of both of our time. And I'd like a commitment of when you'll pick XXXXX up."

Answer 8

if you spent alot of time trying to find it and/or cleaning it up, it was totally rude to make you go through all of that, just to go off without saying a word and never picking it up, after all of your hard work.................if it only took you a minute to find and wipe off.........it was just plain weird, like you said..........maybe you could just call him if he has a number that he can be reached at, so you can break the ice, and see what gives, and put all of this behind you............probably a misunderstanding.......maybe his wife asked you to get the luggage ready and he was not aware of it and she didn't think another thing about it and they got new luggage, who knows.........more than likely, no one was trying to upset anyone here..........
peace

Answer 9

That's very rude of them. Don't send them to their house. Wait for them to mention about it again and let them come get the luggages if they want to. Let them do the picking up. When they are at your place, let them go to your shed to get them, don't lift a finger.

Answer 10

It was rude to not pick it up.
When they return, tell them it's all clean for next time, and they'll need to store it themselves in the future.
You have no right to sell something that belongs to someone else, as some others here have suggested. It's family, for crummy sake.

Answer 11

It doesn't sound very considerate, that's for sure. Have you spoken with them since, because one would have to think they'd be able to offer some explanation?
Maybe they changed their mind and decided to holiday in a Nudist Colony, no need for luggage there...