to think about your ex while you're with someone else even tho you dislike him completely and want to have nothing to do with him? i dont mean to and i definitely dont want to .. but sometimes thoughts of my ex pops up in my head while im with someone else, someone who i like a lot... is that wrong?
2007-01-29 10:14:09 · 33 answers · asked by Riley 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no. I think you are comparing. You have probably learned from your ex being a jerk so you do not want to repeat it again with another guy. I think it is normal.
2007-01-29 10:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by shania3949 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal. I know you hate when it happens, but it's normal to think of someone you spent a lot of time with. You've done some things together that spark a memory when doing something similar with someone else, but it doesn't mean you're still in love with the person. The best thing to do is NOT to talk about that with the guy you're with now and just keep hanging out with him to build new memories. Good luck! :)
2007-01-29 10:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a classis case of love/hate feelings. You say you hate him because you actually still love him.....its your mouth trying to convince your brain that you dont like him anymore. It doesnt work. Actually if you will notice, the more a gal or guy talks bad about their ex, the more they actually care. Its classic. You may want to rethink what you honestly feel. I know i sometimes compare things, but see, thats because i still love my ex. lol
theres nothing saying that the two of you should try again, because sometimes love just isnt enough, but you can love someone and not be with them.
Good luck to you and good luck figuring out exactly what you think your feeling. lol
2007-01-29 10:23:30 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, it isn't wrong...it is normal that someone whom you shared part of your life with still lingers in your head. It happens to me. My ex and I were together for 5 1/2 years and I still think of him, even if I am with someone else. I am aware that I will think of him even when I am 60 years old because no matter what, they took part in your life. Don't worry, even if you hate his guts there are those nice memories that will ocassionally pop out. Best Wishes.
2007-01-29 10:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by Bella Black Rose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's completely normal - your did have a relationship and if you never ever thought about that person ever again in your life then i would say you are emotionally dead.
You spent time with him, liked him enough to have a bf/gf thing for a while - so it's natural that from time to time things will remind you of him or you'll think about him - over time it will happen less and less. You will think of him less and less, especially as you make new memories with new people.
Don't worry about it, its normal and to be expected, even if you don't like him anymore. You're certainly not doing anything wrong...good luck
2007-01-29 10:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by efil_4_msdb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong, as long as you don't bring him into the conversation every time you think about him. We don't know why sometimes we think about things or people we don't care to think about, it just happens to pop into your head and there it is. What you do have control over is letting it stay there or not. Once you catch yourself thinking of him, make yourself think of something else.
2007-01-29 10:19:25 · answer #6 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see that as such a big deal unless you start calling out names. Sometimes depending on the situation, you have to go to another place to enjoy what's going on where you are. Sexual gratification depends a lot on the mind, and your mind is what gets you through, so let it wander every now and again.
2007-01-29 10:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its perfecty normal to have thoughts about an ex while being with someone else iif you once strongly cared about them then its most likley to happen even thoughyou want nothing to do with them now just try staying focused on the previous days he thoughts will fade
*muffin*
2007-01-29 10:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Hyper Hammy*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable to think about him now and then, afterall, he was a part of your life. Just try to focus on the one you're with instead, thinking of the new person's good qualities and blocking useless thoughts of the past.
2007-01-29 10:19:44 · answer #9 · answered by classicalgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think its wrong. But is there maybe a chance that you still DO like him? This may sound CRAZY, but, maybe your heart is trying to tell you you still like him while your brain says, " NO WAY!!!" This time may be allitle confusing. I went through it. I suggest you just lay low untill ALL of you agrees.
...Or maybe it's just your not with the right person.
2007-01-29 10:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by Android. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋