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I have never cried at a funeral, I have rarely cried over a dead one later, I didn't cry when 9/11 happened (I didn't know any of them and people die every day) I was a little mad that we didn't annihilate the Taliban and those who helped do it.

I instantly accept that they are either in heaven or hell and God's judgment is perfect.

Is there something wrong with me?

2007-01-29 10:13:42 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture Religion & Spirituality

31 answers

That's supposed to be the sign of a spiritually advanced person, one who is able to understand death as normal, and that they have moved on and no attachment should be felt anymore.

2007-01-29 10:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by lotusmoon01 4 · 0 2

I know im gonna get a lot of thumbs down for this but here it is:
Society has put so many movies, books, show and such on TV that it can harden a person against things that they normally would go against or show feelings for.
It seems that lately death is the first thing you hear on the news that it becomes so routine and soon nothing shocks you anymore.
Lets take fornication for instance, TV shows, our peers and commercials say its ok to have premarital sex. But we know the Bible says its wrong. If i constantly watch shows that have fornication, pretty soon, i'll become numb to the fact that its wrong. Same for death.
But be glad that soon there will come a time where "death will be no more, neither will mourning, nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away" Rev. 21:3,4

2007-01-29 10:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by N-TYC-N 3 · 1 0

i got a call the other day saying a friend i use to run around with was shot and killed in a drive by. i got off the rough stuff 10 years ago this july but he never did and when i heard i was shocked but i didn't cry (later found out the source of the information was incorrect and he didn't die at all). actually for a while i was mad b/c i had warned about the crowd he ran with for quite some time but he isn't capable at this time to stop what he's doing. when my mom was killed it took me 2 or 3 days to cry then at one point i started crying and could barely stop for months. i would say what you experience is a result of the way you are made; we all handle things differently. if you think it's a problem for you might consider seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist. i really can't imagine life without strong emotion but that's me and it works okay for me. your life is yours and you should live it the way you want.

2007-01-29 10:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by David W 3 · 0 0

You stated you rarely cry at funerals. Have you ever lost an immediate family member. Some people cry more easily than others. You shouldn't feel bad that someone has passed into the other side. I do agree that they are either in heaven or hell. Of course someone I knew died and by the life they lead I do believe with all that is within me that person went to Hell. I felt I should have done more to change their ways. But I know this person has a cold hardened heart and was given every chance in her life to see the error of her ways and didn't. That was her choice. Just like it is our choice to choose who we will follow.

2007-01-29 10:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by Janst 4 · 0 1

No, it is not wrong. It's just your emotions. There are various reasons why people feel different emotions. When you die, you're just dead. Some die sooner, and some die later. However, compared to the life of some things, we all live too short.

I had my wife die about 5 years ago. I didn't seem to feel much when she died. It was more of a relief. I had spent three years being with her dying, so most of my mourning was done by the time she went.

My sadness for her is also offset by my gratitude for having a chance to be in her life, especially during her last years when she needed me most. Everybody who is born dies. It's inevitable. Any time we have with each other is a boon.

2007-01-29 10:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by nondescript 7 · 1 0

No, death is not a horrible thing, even for an atheist. There is nothing to fear. One grieves for one's OWN loss in being without the person, not for the deceased.

FYI, we didn't annihilate the Taliban, and Bush is "not concerned" about finding bin Laden because they didn't cause the 9/11 attacks. The U.S. Government orchestrated them.

Read "Operation Northwoods", the US government's formerly classified plans to develop a "terror campaign" to CREATE an "apparent threat to peace in the Western hemisphere" in 1962. Page 10 describes how to FAKE an attack using a commercial plane so to TRICK the public into supporting military action on Cuba/Castro. (Just for fun, pretend it says Iraq/Hussein or Afghanistan/bin Laden wherever it says Cuba/Castro, and see if anything sounds familiar.)

2007-01-29 10:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by gelfling 7 · 0 1

You are right to know that God's judgement is perfect and a true Christian would always know that unless the person who died, died as a direct result of God's actions (such as in Sodom and Gomorrah) they would be resurrected. The sadness that an honesthearted Christian feels when someone dies is because of the temporary separation from their loved one or because of the horrendous act of violence and how it has hurt so many who live on without their loved ones (as in the case of 911).

Jeremiah 7:31 shows that God would not burn children alive in fire. The wages of sin in death. God says he puts life and death before us, but we must choose life in order to keep living. Adam was told that by disobeying God and eating the forbidden fruit, he would positively die--not fry. Think about it.

2007-01-29 13:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by Sparkle1 6 · 0 0

no longer being unhappy good away is fantastic and usual. the way she died is likewise a area. each and all the deaths in my family contributors have been envisioned so i grew to become into by no skill loopy unhappy to take heed to the information. specific, I have been given unhappy later as quickly as I neglected them. yet listening to that they had died grew to become into extremely of a alleviation to take heed to they do no longer look to be suffering to any extent further. It relies upon on your character too. lots of folk overreact and take care of dying like the top of the international whether they weren't on the fringe of the guy. specific, this is extremely of a ask your self yet there are lots of people who do no longer disintegrate while they hear the information. It does no longer advise you're a bad man or woman. we are all distinctive. i'm specific you will experience greater later. it is common.

2016-09-28 04:05:59 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

No, its not wrong. You just have good control over your emotions and your logic.
I find it illogical that I would cry on 9/11 when I didn't know anybody in the tragedy.....but I couldn't control my emotions, because I just found it so sad that so many people lost their husbands, wives, parents, and children. I couldn't imagine losing someone I loved.

2007-01-29 11:10:18 · answer #9 · answered by Abby C 5 · 0 0

No! It's not wrong at all. We can all rejoice that the dead have moved on to join God and be happy for them. Mostly, when we cry, it's our for own sadness and loss - our knowledge that it could be many, many years until we rejoin the one we just lost. If you're able to set aside all grief and be happy for the person(s) who died, that simply means you're a very lovely person. (*smiles* even if you sometimes feel a little vengeful impulse against those who've done wrong.)

2007-01-29 10:21:43 · answer #10 · answered by happyhomeschooler 2 · 0 1

I felt the same way when I was younger. As I live longer, I am exposed to more death. People I know get killed in accidents, disease, or even suicide. It takes time for death to change from an abstract idea to something real and personal. I think your feelings are natural.

2007-01-29 10:20:02 · answer #11 · answered by Aspurtaime Dog Sneeze 6 · 0 0

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